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Is venting allowed on this board? None-genealogy venting that is?

You vent away to your hearts content! I'm listening!

I'm frustrated at my inability to find a man. I know I'm young, but I've just ended a 3 and a half yr relationship. Why can I not find a man who will let me go off and do archaeology or have a vague interest in what I spend most of my time doing?

vent to Stel and me ... :-) Joy

Hi Joy... Sarah.....it's not optional to have a man but it is nice. Stop looking and enjoy yourself. I did the same years ago and it was only when I realised I didn't need one.......that one turned up!!!! But it can get lonely...........vent away girl.

sarah,maybe one day you will meet someone with similar interests...but its good to have seperate interests...a few days apart now and again,does no harm. bryan.

Join the club Sarah!

I have wanted to be an archaeologist since I was nine. Its all I've ever wanted to be. Over the last 5-6 years I've probably dated about 7/8 guys and all of the vaguely serious ones end up tripping over my love for the subject. I've been with guys who suggested I didn't go to my once a week digs on Sunday afternoons when I was 16/17 saying I should spend more time with them. The last guy I was with, after 3 and a half years, hadn't got a clue what I did really. He'd never even watched an archaeology prog. on TV let alone flicked through one of my magazines or books. He'd never asked me about it and I felt awkward talking about it to him. It was like I had this mental block or something. It wasn't the only reason we broke up, but its a bit bad when after 3 and a half years they don't know anything about something so big in your life!

The good ones sneak up when your least expecting it and you probably already know them!! Karen

I'm not looking for a man at the moment. I can't really. I'm living somewhere rather rural and its hard to meet anyone outside work and they're all about 10yrs or more older than me. What I'm probably finding hard is that I haven't been single for so long. Even before the last boyfriend I somehow managed to find myself a b/f pretty quickly after a break up. Its just so odd to not have anyone anymore.

Sarah - I've been single for 5 months (and 4 days!) after a 2 year relationship and it's taken a while to get used to it. At first I was constantly wanting a man and a relationship and then it subsided and now I'm hardly looking and they have started creeping out of the woodwork (hence my date tomorrow night). I know what you mean about living in a rural area, I live in quite a rural area plus I work from home alone, so meeting new people is a real effort. Hope you'll come to the London Meet (June 25th), we can swap notes! love becx

Bec - I'd love to but I live in Scotland so its a bit of a trek! I kind of assumed once I met my ex that that would be it. We met at uni and I just thought I'd be like everyone else and stay with that person. Its kind of hard to accept that your idea of how settling down works doesn't actually work.

Mandy - by all means vent :) I'm quite happy to share my venting :) I'm sure it will be very theraputic!

Sarah - I'm going to organise hotel rooms... why not make a weekend of it? I'm sure a few others will!

I agree with Karen, Theres no rush but I know what it's like to feels like to be lonely........horrible.....but take some time out to be yourself Theres nothing wrong with a bit of flirting.....I love doing it still! As Karen said you will find you probably already know the 'one'.......just never took any notice cos you were....courting(can I still use that expression?)

Bec - If it was this month or late July I'd have probably made the time but I'm trying to keep myself free for the end of June/beginning of July. Right now I'm doing my dream job. It was meant to only be a 2 month contract and end at the end of March. Then they extended it to the end of April and then to the end of June. They don't think they can't find the money for any further extentions and they're being very quiet about it. So... I'm having to apply for other work. If I don't get another extension I'll be sorting out moving back down into England to stay with my parents. The joys of temporary contracts!

Why has my puter not printed whole message?

Well there'll be plenty more meets (maybe one in the Summer in London... hint hint) including a Scottish one that's being organised.

I'm not sure I know the one yet! My ex and I are part of a close knit group of university chums so I'm anxious not to date any of them because it would be... strange. The only other blokes I know apart from them are my boss and his boss. Never a good idea to date your boss and ones married and about 30 years old than me, the other is in a long term relationship and about 15 years older than me so... hmm... maybe not! Part of what didn't help my previous relationship was moving up here, but I wouldn't trade it in for the world. Its helped me have a better idea of who I am and I'm so much more relaxed and happy than I have been in years. Besides, rolling hills and fields vs the urban west midlands... hmm... not a tough choice!

Mandy - that would have been my vent a couple of months ago too! Stelly - Nope... it doesn't seem to have printed all of it.