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lol Marion Honey rum, so to really do something about it you need to get hold of hard evidence! I am just curious as would like to pass information of to friend!

my sister in law noticed a chap from her college course following her home on a couple of occasions, which could have been a bit scary... except he then asked her out and they're now happily married.. so not really a stalker, just shy lol

Must pop off for a while! Please keep posting! Any information or advice would be greatly appreciated!

Mags & Gem, it was really terrifying and was a long time ago but haunted me for years as I always wondered if I had done something more to get him charged that maybe the poor girl in Florida would still be alive. Was only interested at the time in getting rid of him and out of my life. Taught daughter to always keep a look over her shoulder and don't take chances by putting yourself in unsafe situations. Always, tell someone no matter how trivial you might think it is. Debs

Bless him Paul!

Hi Mags... yes...hard evidence is needed.. Tell your friend to keep a diary and photos if possible... witnesses are helpful.. Log these incidents with the police... and if phone calls are taped, the police will listen to them as they did mine.... Good luck...Anne :)))

Yes - it was the most terrifying thing that has ever happened to me. I was assaulted in the street, my employers had anonymous letters about me, I was verbally and physically threatened, complaints were constantly made to the Police about me, he used to stand in my garden and look through my windows, I was libelled, he complained to the Police that my partner had broken into his house and assaulted him - the list was endless. This went on for about two years. I had to move in the end, but it still continued after that for over a year. I reported everything to the Police but they were useless. They lost all the evidence, and said they could do nothing as there were no witnesses (not true in a lot of cases). When I was absolutely terrified because I had been assaulted in the street it took them eight weeks to come and take a statement and then they had to go after five minutes. All they could suggest was that we got CCTV! Worst of it is that he is still around and because of this I am unable to do any more community work or go to community events because if I see him I shake from head to foot. I am still terrified of him. Going to an event this weekend and he's at the back of my mind already...last time I saw him was at the Remembrance Day service. He spotted me and started to move towards me through the crowd, so I had to keep moving. Even worse is that about another ten people in the local area were affected by his behaviour and the Police took no action on their behalf either, arguing that there were no witnesses, which was rubbish! One of the other people affected had a nervous breakdown in the end - too scared to go out of the house after he doorstepped her - and I got perilously close to it. Worst experience of my life - without a doubt. Not even the slightest bit funny. Sheila

Sheila I am really sorry to hear that! It sounds awful and it is terrible you didn't recieve the help required to get this man out of your life! The world is full of some very sick people! What enjoyment does he get out of doing this! It makes me sooo angry just reading your post!

yes,It was a terrible time,and it was my ex-husband, he would wait for me outside work,watch me from his car and follow me,I also recieved hate mail from him and he actually threatened to kill me,thats when the police got involved. Sad sick man!!