General Chat

Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not ther,e I do not sleep I am a thousands winds that blow I am the diamond glints on snow I am the sunlight on ripened grain I am the gentle autumn rain When you awaken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circles flight I am the soft stars that shine at night Do not stand at my grave and cry I am not there, I did not die. I read this at the grave yard today, I am looking for something other than a head stone for my 35 Son, he is two young, any suggestions-Please.

I hold you close Within my heart, And there you shall remain. To walk with me Throughout my life, Until we meet again. Brian (i)

How about the one by Joyce Grenfell ? It was adapted and used at Gaynor's funeral. She was a much-loved member of GR. Joy

My brothers simply says (his name ) 1960-1988 REMEMBERED WITH LOVE

I always think that is a lovely verse. It was read at our friend''s funeral, very uplifting. What sort of something are you looking for ? Ann Glos

Was you son interned or are you burying his ashes? Just wondering on the size of the plot? Have you been to a stone mason and discussed options with them? The one I went to was really helpful with ideas for my Daddy! x

Maid Marion, what was that, and Brian lovely - thank you. I also need ideas for smething other than a Head stone.

We think of you in silence and often speak your name, But all we have are memories and your picture in a frame, Your resting place we visit, and put flowers there with care, But no one knows the heartache as we turn and leave you there. Brian (i)

I do not know, Stephen was a thinker, and always deep in thought-he was my eldest Son, but rather than a head stone I need something young for him- any suggestions

We want to tell you something, So there won't be any doubt, You're so wonderful to think of, But so hard to be without. We cannot bring the old days back, When we were all together, The family chain is broken now, But memories live forever. Brian (i)

Found it. No, perhaps not, ok for a funeral thanksgiving service. “If I should go before the rest of you Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone, Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice But be the usual selves that I have known. Weep if you must, Parting is hell, But life goes on, So sing as well.” Joy

Brian, can you send me a box of tissues please

Jennifer. I feel a bit full myself. Those are the verses that we were choosing for my wife's Rememberance Card last year. Brian (i)

I am so sorry for your loss, Jennifer. Those are all beautiful words aren't they? If you are wanting ideas for a permanent memorial rather than a headstone, I bought an altar cloth and pulpet fall for the church where my Mum was baptised, married, worshipped and was buried. A framed 'in memorium' and details of the gift hangs in the church. I know she would have liked this, as the brass flower vases on the altar are in memory of her father and other linen in memory of her mother. My neighbour was tragically killed in a RTA - he was not a church goer, but his family bought a bench for the churchyard and planted a rose garden. They go and sit on the seat and look at his garden. I am sure that in the weeks to come, you will be able to focus on your son's hobbies and interests and find just the right way of commerating his short time with you. Jay

did he have any special interests, somethink that could be engraved on slate. maybe a sport that he participated in or enjoyed watching, or a hobby. Ann Glos

Jennife, how about having a star named after him. I have heard of this being done.

God Bless you Brian-life is so tough.

God said: “I'll lend you my Child ... ” I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine, He said ... For you to love the while he lives ... and mourn for when he's dead. It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two and three, But will you, till I call him back, take care of him for me? He'll bring his charms to gladden you. And shall his stay be brief; You'll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief. I cannot promise he will stay, since all from Earth return. But there are lessons, taught down there, I want this child to learn. I've looked the wide world over in search for teachers true, And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes, I have selected you. Now ... will you give him all your love ... nor think the labour in vain? Nor ... hate me when I come to call ... to take him back again? I fancied that I heard you say ... “Dear Lord, it will be done! “For all the joy Your Child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run. “We'll shelter him with tenderness. We'll love him while we may, “And for the happiness we've known ... forever grateful stay. “But shall the angels call for him much sooner than we've planned, “We'll brave the bitter grief that comes ... and try to understand.” *

You really need to check with the cemetery/churchyard first to see what sort of memorial is allowed. You may find that anything other than a gravestone may be removed, as it will not be permitted. Don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but some are very strict on what can and can't be used. It would be terrible for you if you put something on his grave, only for it to be removed. AL

Goodnight folks!