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But I do Janey its like with a letter you always start with I hope this letter finds you well.........

Snork. I'll have to go read my email archives ... ;)

Julie - that's it. My life has been a bit gruesome over the last couple of months and I daren't tell anyone who asks me ... they'd weep ...

I remember feeling like death warmed up, drips and tubes coming from everywhere, totally zonked out and actually being in the process of ejecting my meagre fluid intake in a violent manner, when a registrar from another discipline visited.... she smiled brightly at my ravaged face.... well if it wasn't it blummin well should have been... and said *how are we today? Well I hope???

She almost got strangled with my collection of tubes.... and that was from my nurse, not me, lol!!

I replied.... *I'm fine, thank you* and said nurse then went on to enlighten.....

Love

Daff, who is wondering what the alternative is? xxxxxx

I clearly wasn't..... but have no idea why I felt the need to reassure her!

Jill but how do you not ask of a friend ?

I have to phone a friend soon who's OH died a couple of weeks ago (I have phoned previous) but how easy is it to say how are you, What a stupid question the guy she spent 50 years with has just died at the age of 66 how the eckers do I think she is.! and do you know she would answer I'm fine.

I think perhaps the honest answer to " how are you ? " should be " grinning and bearing it " ........it seems from most of the responces on here that that is what we all do . When you go out of your door into the world the " mask " is on and you hide whatever misery you happen to be feeling .

Ah but Uzzi in that case I would mean it. "How are you coping?" is a good question and she would understand where you were coming from.

And Daff's nurse could have asked the same question - at least it would have elicited a reasonable response! Poor nurse - I hope you tore her off a strip Daff!

It's the people that you see on a regular basis - you know how they are, what their problems might be, that's when it strikes me as a daft question to ask ...

And Amanda is right - it's our mask isn't it?

Looking forward to the e-mail from Hayley asking me how I am - LOL

Janey - did you find any emails like that? LOL

Jill

Amanda my stock answer to friends is I'm alive ain't I what more can I ask for. It has a habit of moving the convo on, but I still say to friends how are you you, .

Jill -- do notices of change of email address count? Surely they too should start out with "how are you?" !! ;)

Jill.... the nurse was the one who tore the Gynae registrar off a strip..... I won't tell you some of the other stuff this registrar came out with.... but my Leukaemia nurse practitioner put in a complaint about her about the way I had been spoken to and treated, although that is another story.... and an all female thread, lolol! ;¬)) I was oblivious.... probably a good thing.

Love

Daff xxxx

I have been asked how are you when in the doctors surgery, I replied with the same answer, fine thanks . then thought , what am I doing here if I am fine,lol its a habit we get into to ask. I remember my mum coming home one day after talking to a elderly lady , who mum didnt know.When departing company,mum told her to have a lovely afternoon. The lady said "how can I have a lovely afternoon when my husband has just died". bless her

Hello Mrs. G and all. If it's a casual greeting I say "how are you" without thinking. If it's someone who I know is going through a hard time I say things like "are you feeling any better today" or "how is everything going" etc. But then I'm the soul of discretion:-))

Sue xx

I've killed the thread:-((

Sue xx

Here, allow me. ;)

Jill you are right I will ask how are you coping ...even though I know she is hurting to shit, but its better than asking how she is.


allow me do kill the thread ,,lol

Who is trying to do battle to kill the thread?

LOL

Sorry, been off trying to sort out my Crowhurst / Buggs / Roots conundrum. Doesn't help that they're Baptists as well!

Jill

I killed then revived the thread, Jill. Twas Janey and Uzzi who killed it again:-(

Sue xx

Well at the funeral on Wednesday I will NOT be asking how people are! Because the answer would be distraught.

Just hugging everyone in sight!

Sue - if you don't know what to say then say nothing. We always try to fill silences with words. Hugging is good.

Sue xx

Sue,

We have already said everything over the phone. It's a 550 mile round trip but I have to go. We are all huggers anyway so it'll be usual for us. The hugs will just be harder and longer this time.

Sue x