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My husband was out of work for a year until recently,and we were scrimping and saving; never mind a holiday to the Dominican Republic!!

spot on - change the locks, belongings in a plastic bag with a note on saying "Go and live with your mate - obviously he means more to you than your family so goodnight Vienna"

Selfish G-T

2 of my OH's siblings regularly go to Jamaica..not bad considering they don't work..we must be doing something wrong

Oh, Lin, so sorry to hear this,one question?
has he got spending money? and where did it come from?
I agree with all the girls have said, change the locks, but leave his clothes at his mates or a safe place, otherwise she could be breaking the law!
xxxxxxxxxxxx

Revenge is sweet
Cut the pockets out of his trousers
1 arm from the shirts and or jumpers
toes out of the socks

SO sorry for your daughter and her children wot a right pr*ck.

Pauline xxx.

Love Hoffs idea though! pmsl

If there was only one ticket, then he should not have gone......all go, or none at all.....

What is this man thinking of?.....does he want his family - or not -......hard to say it Lin, if mine did that, the divorce papers would be ready for his return....

Its awful for you Lin, even though the kids grow and have families of their own, you still feel, and hurt for them don't you......just be there for your daughter and grandkiddies.....x sally

I put my ex's clothes in a bin liner and accidentally tipped in a bottle of bleach with it.

I'd have liberally sprinkled all of his holiday clothes with itching powder.

Dianne xx

I feel for your daughter but she has to keep a lid on her feelings for the sake of the children, and blow when they aren't around, if they are small they won't really understand and it would be awful to spoil their Christmas by throwing him out, just make him suffer and take any old job however awful when he gets back so he can take them on a holiday later on. If he does lose his dole money by not signing on, and if he spends any money that should be for the family, then sell his things to make up for it. In fact do it anyway, to make up for him not being there. If he doesn't show any shame when he gets back, and their Christmas is spoiled through lack of money and his commitment, time to think about the relationship in the New Year and take action.
Hard not to say what you think of him in front of the children, and he may have burned his boats already with them, but even tho he hasn't acted like an adult, your daughter should try to be calm before the children so they don't get any more distressed, and let them do fun things without him around so they don't miss him too much, don't have to be expensive outings, just silly little things like making a cake for Christmas or making their own decorations, sitting up with popcorn and a dvd, on Friday or Saturday night etc.
Get your daughter some Rescue Remedy to help her through, she can take as much as she needs to stay calm(ish) and cope as best she can.
In no way am I condoning what this idiot has done, cos I would want to kill him too, but it won't do the children any good to hear too much said about him as it might make them think their parents will split up and they will worry about that and all it conveys.
Good luck to her, and you LIn, don't get yourself in a state about and make yourself worse cos they will all need you around hon.
Lizx

Thanks Liz for your usual words of wisdom. I have told my daughter to take a couple of days to calm down before she makes any decisions.
As for the children he left them a note saying he would bring them back something nice..............................something nice [opy4u56-==m6m; you can see what I think of that !!
Thanks again everyone for your thoughts..........tomorrow is another day !

Lin xxx

Hid his passport ............tell passport control his daughter has chicken pox.....they wont let him fly

Thats horrid for her ......dont really have words that I can put here ...I would get a holiday!!!

Hi Lin - haven't forgotten you or your daughter - has she had the locks changed yet? serious question.

Lin I can see why you are so mad,

To do that to your lass is just awful, how can he leave her??


Caz xxx