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After thinking about it for a good while Ive decide to cut my ties with my family.The reaon being I dont think they have given me enough support in my fight against depression and alchoism.I definatly decided this a few weeks ago when my 3 children were at hospital with me and a DOCTOR told them that alchoism is a sickness, they laughed at him.
So Im going to make fresh start somewhere else prob after Xmas. Ive been in hospital a week and not one of them have visited me.Sorry to go on but depression is very hard to deal with.I think ive been good Dad to them till I went off the rails a couple of years back,
Davexx

Thinking of you Dave.

Take care.

I have pm you

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so sorry you are depressed Dave, I suffer from same thing so know how you feeling, also have a cousin who is alcholic but he is lucky he has support of all family, i hope your children will come to realise that you are ill and give you their support.my best wishes to you
Jackie

Aww Dave
Depression is a terrible thing to deal with and also difficult for those people around to understand. Drinking is often a self medicating reaction in alot of cases....not saying that is the case with you though but perhaps it maybe?
Maybe a fresh start will do you good but only you will know that. Think long and hard about it though...you will have to have the determination to cope alone and will definately need some kind of support.
All the best
Jen

i understand both dave and i wish you well in your search, how do you use a laptop in hospital, i sometimes go in with illnesess and ive just had one of santa, do you just switch it on a it works, sorry for going off the topic, but you can count on loads of us for support xx

Dave,

One of my late brothers was an alcoholic. It is both a physical and emotional dependency illness. Catch 22 and a circle which is so difficult to break.

Families do find it hard to cope with (I admit that freely).

I hope that you can find the help you need and your family does rally to your side.

If you want to pm me please do.

Sue xx

Dave,You have a big family on here.You are right alcoholism is a illness.I wished there was a magic pill for it.I wish you the best of luck.Dont let the depression get to you.Think happy if you can and think future.Its easy for me to say lol but we are all behind you on here. Annie x

Dave love, I understand both,


PM me anytime,


Caz xxxx

Hiya Dave - thats a very brave statement, good on yeh:o)) Depression is'nt nice, but so many people suffer from it, so your not alone. The same for alcoholism. Have you concidered telling your children how you feel - tell them like you have just told us.
l wish you all the best Dave in the future, you so deserve it. Take care.

jude sarf wales :o) xx

Dave, I am sorry you feel your family haven't supported you but do hope they come to realise you need them behind you wholeheartedly.

However, while you are ill is not the time to move on without some kind of support so maybe it would be best to set yourself a target - say Easter next year, and re-evaluate things then before you take such a big step. It can be very lonely being in a new place, I know because I did just that when I was 22, but I was able to work and get to know people a bit. Also Spring/Summer is a nicer place to find your way round a new area and the days are longer too, so you wouldn't be shutting yourself in for hours alone, and be tempted to find a pub, if you did make the move.

Why not write all your children a letter, telling them how you feel, that it hurt when they laughed at the doctor's words and that you need them in your life and hope they will come to need you again in theirs? They might just be hiding their concerns about you. I know how much you would miss your grandchildren too, and it would be very sad if you were not close to them so you could see them often.

Come on, Dave, put up a fight and get your family back to the way it was, don't give up on it all. Go to the Hidden Gem and ask for help when you are well enough. We will all support you too as long as you stay in touch and don't disappear again.

Take care, mate,
Lizx

Puss
You know those bedside Phones/tv things that cost a fortune....well you can get on the internet as well
Jen

Hi Dave hope you feel better soon. I think Liz has said exactly what I wanted to say.
Don't rush into wait till you are better and then think about it.
I know it must have been hurtful for your children to laugh but a lot of people don't understand mental problems which is sad..
You know it could be they don't know how to cope and laughing is way for them to deal with it. Give them all time.
Chin up you can and will beat it I am sure.
Take Care
Germaine
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Hi Dave

Thinking about you and wishing you well.

I do agree with Liz, maybe leave it til the spring before you make a final decision, when you are feeling stronger in yourself. At the moment things appear to be on top of you, Depression is a difficult illness to understand and to many people think you can snap out of it, You cant, I have been there so I know how hard it is.
Take each day as it comes and try to relax.

Bless you babe

Jan x

Dave

My mother is an alcoholic depressive and altho i agree its an illness, its the venom she spouts when she is under the influence that i can't forgive.

So maybe your children are reacting to that rather than the illness itself.

Don't cut yourself off until you have explored all avenues..... and maybe if you looked at ways to get sober, then they maybe more forthcoming!

Sorry if this sounds like a critcism, but as a child of an alcoholic, I can sympathise with your children!

xx

Awe Dave sweetie good to see you about. Don't know what to say really other than you have my support. I do understand about mental illness and depression thou. You need to be around people who will support and understand what you are going through so whatever change you need to make hope it works out for you.

Debs

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Just like everyone on here Dave, I give my support.
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Dave take one day at a time mate, you have made a very good statement in that you have said that you know that you have a problem BUT, this is the main step to take admitting it! We do not know each other, but if you would like a pal to speak to please do not hesitate to get in touch.
You are a very brave man.

Ian

DIana some of what you say is quite true i have said some bad things to them, but also them to me!this as been going on for over 2 years and of course you know the person who stated me on the downward spiral but that was over a long time ago,but my kids still throw it at me,that is why i will never be able to forgive
that person who helped with myself to ruin a loving family.
Davexx
ps
now is the time to forgive and forget by my family, becaause i pray for forgiveness every single day and regret it immensely.

Dave

I think you are very brave in admitting it!

I have said some hateful things to the mother and now I don't speak to her at all, its not worth the pain and abuse I get..... I have tried everything but she just wants to blame everyone, but herself for what happens! She has been offered all sorts of medical support and refuses to try.

If you genuinely want assistance and support then you have to start the process Dave. Aim to get sober and help give YOU a better life and then make them realise you are worthy of their respect!

I will always support you Dave if you try!

Have PMd you Dave,


Diana , I respect your words very much,


Caz xxx