General Chat

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next..

God bless ya Dave, you always have support on here xxxxx

Hi Dave

I feel so sorry for you all because it (alcholism) really does ruin life for all concerned if it cannot be brought under control.

Hope you don't think I'm preaching or getting at you Dave, you've come along way to conquering it by your admission. Like others say though don't be in a hurry to move until you are really able to cope.

Goodnight and hope things keep improving.

Frances xx

Dave

Just want to say, after reading your thread, I am thinking of you.
I wont go into thing's..but I know it's hard for all concerned..bloody hard.


Marion

My thoughts are with you Dave, i suffer form depression and my sister is an alcoholic, both are terrible illnesses
take care, and good luck in whatever you decide to do.
((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))
Jean xx

Cutting ties with your family is a big step to take. And once done it's very hard to go back. Rather than doing something so drastic, perhaps tell them that you are going to take a few months to sort yourself out and that hopefully when you are doing better in yourself you can look to rebuild your relationship with your children.

You have to show them that you're serious about getting help and unfortunately at this point you do have to prove it to them. As they say, actions speak louder than words. Tell them you do want a relationship with them and you want to get better. If saying it too them is hard then write them short notes explaining it.

Cutting yourself off from them completely at this time will, I feel, only be worse for you. You cannot run away from your problems and leaving will not magically make it all go away, but then I'm sure you know that. Instead all you will do is add another thing to be depressed about...the loss of your children.

Focusing on yourself is a good idea and sometimes you have to remove yourself to do that properly, but cutting yourself off completely can only bite you in the backside in my opinion.

Also, you seem to have a doctor who understands so I would be reluctant to move away from that to somewhere you have to start with fresh medical personnel. What steps are you taking to get better, are you in a programme? Are you on meds or seeing a counsellor? Also don't forget alternative therapies (I know they can sound iffy) things like Acupuncture and massage can be very beneficial for depression.

Good luck to you and I hope things improve for you in a way that you want.

Dave, Depression is awful (I have had it on and off for years) and whilst I am not an alcholic I have come very, very close to it and even now drink every day. Both depression and alcohol dependency are illnesses, don't let anyone tell you anything else. Think carefully before moving to another part of the country, I moved to the other end of the country and then found I had no-one to turn to when I was down. Whatever you decide take care.

Morning Dave - how are you this morning - we're all thinking of you. Take care.

jude sarf wales o) xx

Hope you are feeling better today.

Marion

Morning Dave

Hope you are feeling brighter this morning

Take care babe, we are here if you need to talk

Jan x

Morning Dave,

I wish you all the best, just like all your friends on here

Linda

Im feeling bit brighter tody thanks everybody.
Dxx

Dave

Glad you are feeling brighter.

One thing I wanna say is to get forgiveness, one must give it! So forgive those children of yours for not realising the war you are going through and hopefully with god's help you will recieve their forgiveness!

Good luck sweetie

xx

thinkin of you dave
i know whot happened a few years ago, and things with them seemed ok then
they were ok with you, but if things are different now it may be worth asking them when you feel stronger whots changed,
i hope it all works out for you
depression is awful to cope with,
i helped OH with it and recently noticed he suffered relapse as predicted by psycologist, but now things are ok once i got him sorted with his medication

i hope dave your getting medication for it and treatment, dont suffer in silence you dont need to love
get help,
and take care of you, its time to look after yourself
xx
find nice place to live,
have friends round
and dust you self off , dont take rubbish of anyone
hugs and kisses

good luck dave what ever you do

get well soon xx