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Catherine, don't delete this, it makes interesting reading and it's a help to read what others have to say.

My dad passed away 6 weeks ago just 7 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I'm fine at the moment and have been really strong the whole time (not what I would have expected) This week I have been a bit down, but can generally give myself a talking to and I come round, but I suppose once everything dies down you have a bit more time to think don't you?

I've been staying with mum as she lives close by and while it's hard, we both agree that it was better for dad that he didn't linger and suffer more than he already was. He was a very brave and funny man and would have been amazed at the amount of people who showed up at the door, rang, sent cards and attended the funeral - he would have been in his element in the company of everyone (especially in the pub after). That sounds odd reading it back, but I know what i mean!!

Thanks for this thread, Sharon x

I lost my Daddy when i was 15. He had cancer.

My life has been one 'disaster' after another, leaping from one problem to the next. It changed me as a person (not just loosing my dad, but how my life played out) I have been in the darkest places, done the worst things imaginable and said the most hurtful of things to the people i love.

I have to thank the people who never gave up on me, and who helped me back into the person i am today...
If my life had played out differently i might not have the compassion and empathy for others today, i wouldnt appreciate the things i have achieved, and my family....
I miss my Dad almost unbearably, and would do anything to hear him say he was proud of the person i am today......
I stay on the 'straight and narrow' because when we meet again i want to be able to hold my head up high and look into his eyes....

LOu XXXXXXXx
ps. my love to all who have lost a parent. xxx

Oh, btw, this is me - the toothfairy - lol, i can't log into my account so am on Stephs
(just to avoid any mix ups, lol)

LOU XXXX

sharon
good on your dad he sounded a real character . I'm sorry for your loss. bet he was a amazing guy-thing is don't make it whatever time he passed away to you it's important and it wasn't that long.so it means the earth and I can understand that.

my most sincere thought with you and your family I know it's not esy love

catherine
xx

Sorry deleted prev message as meant to post to Petal and I put the wrong name - I guess we are never sure who is reading the messages and it can only go to prove that no-matter how long it is since our parents pass that it hurts so bad.

My thoughts go out to you and your family Petal - lots of love and hugs...... Linda

the thing is it don't matter how long our parents or family members passed away the fact is we remember them and that to me is the most important factor ever. my gg grandad don't know me but I'm not bothered I still want to know about her and her anncestors as do we all.
It'so so important

catherine
xx

Thanks Catherine, yes, he was quite a character. He was a strong man and hadn't had it easy. I like to think I have something of him in me, which is making it easier for me at the moment as I know that he is with me.

At the moment I'm tending to keep myself to myself - I go to work where I'm fine, I come home, where I'm fine - but when friends want me to go round or go out I panic! But I'm sensible enough to know that that will pass and that my friends will always be there for me. I talk to them by email or facebook which is much easier for now.

Thanks again x

Thanks Linda, means a lot x

I lost my dad last year and still finding it hard going, i just wish i'd been able to find all the info i have now about his family when he was alive, he would have been so thrilled as he never knew anything about them