General Chat

'hello' to all those who are now, or have in the past been a carer to a parent,OH, or child.

You have one of the toughest jobs in the world,more often than not coping 24 hours a day without practical,financial or emotional support .

Sometimes giving up your own youth and health, hopes and dreams to look after a loved one.
And when they are no longer there ,at a loss to know what to do with your life, when it seems that all the good things have passed you by.

So ((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) to let you know that there are always people on here who you can talk to if it helps.

Rosexxxx

Thank you im in need of a hug today have been a carer to my son for 17yrs and oh 3 yrs it gets a little tough some days but i soilder on

julia x

Big ((((((hug))))) for you Julia,

hope today will bring some unexpected moments of respite, and pleasure for you and family XXX

Rosexx.

I'll add my name to your list Rose. Don't need a hug these days:-) but have been there. Feel for those who's lives are taken up with caring for another.... Had a child and looked after them for many years. Life was built around them. Some days were good but the down days seemed never ending. Am here for others if they need a chat.

Susan
x

Suzi,
can't help with the driving licence I'm afraid lol, but I do hope you have a lovely break and catch up on sleep,relax,
and 'pamper' yourself.

((((hugs)))
Rosexx

Thank you

Have set hubby a task to do lisas labels today for her oil bottles (shes going to sell them and raise funds for her sons special needs school) so hes at the table doing those so im off to watch neighbours for half an hour

thanks agin

julia x

Rather not, Its Difficult,But I always keep my Promises,If possible,nomatter what. *M*

Susan,
(((((hugs))))) for you anyway,
for the days when you needed them and perhaps didn't get them!

Rosexx

I am a Carer for my sister (aged 52) she is unable to get out of the house due to her Mental Health so I do her shopping, pick up prescriptions etc. I also work part time in a nursing home for people with profound physical and learning disabillities.

Merlin, (((hugs))) it is hard sometimes to hold to a promise no matter what.....sometimes only the strongest can do it. No blame to those who can't .

Rosexx

Belladonna, you do something that I don't think I would be able to do. Caring for someone you love, family, is one thing.....not sure I could do it for others?.

(((hugs))) on both accounts
Rose x

I am a carer for my Mum,she is 84yrs and can reduce me to tears sometimes, I have two brothers one comes couple of times a year the other every blue moon,It is very hard for carers sometimes especially if there is no help around, I have to make her tablets up weekly as the doctors surgery has stopped doing that and she is on about 30 a day.

I love my Mum but when we were growing up she gave me and my brothers one hellava life so I think they detatch themselfs slightly not that i blame them but me being only daughter am left to struggle.

Oh well thanks for that got little off my chest.

Granny

R R.....I am sure many people who have worked in the Caring field professionaly and have also had to Care for a family member would agree that there is no comparason, when it is your family, you have that emotional attachment/connection so their welfare because part of your life, therefore you are never really'off duty' whereas, caring for a living is completely different. I have worked with most vulnerable people client groups., it is rewarding. I go in,do my job then come home and get on with my life. This is not how it is when it is your family.

Oh bless ya!

As you all know, my world fell apart when Daddy died but I can honestly say that although caring for him 24/7 like I did was hard work sometimes, I wouldn't swap that time now for the world as I was able to be with him 24/7 and I have some superb memories of the laughs we had

(((hugs)))

Granny grumps

((((hugs))))) to you,
you can PM me any time you want to 'get it off your chest' if it helps ...you need to do that sometimes,I know and often it is easier to talk to someone who isn't close to the family.

Rosexx

Hi Rose
That is a lovely sentiment and you,yourself, must be a very caring person.

Always looked after my Dad,(until near his ending) I feel it isn't hard when you do things for a loved one.

I do admire the nurses and carers who do it as a job,and a very neccessary and sometimes unrewarding one at that.

Mau x

(((xxx))) for the many who do care ,and make a difference, to help others to have a life.

Hi Mau,
not sure about me being a caring person but 'thanks' for thinking it! lol

(((((hugs)))))

rosex

hello rose
i help my dad and sister care for my mum.
as you say,it is hard work.
but i couldnt have her put into a care home,we all decided that we would share her care.
i have oftenn been called round at unearthly hours to change her because she has messed herself.but i dont mind,she is my mum and i love her.
i am a carer by proffession so i am used to clening up messy bottoms lol.
love susie
xx

ooh Pink! nearly missed you as you snuck in between posts lol

(((((hugs))))) to you,
I know what you mean, especially about the laughter........I came across an old cassette tape my mum made years ago...we were 'singing' on it and laughing hysterically.....I had forgotten almost how much laughter was always around her.

Rosexxx

Susie (((hugs))) to you, your sister and dad, your mum is lucky to have you all and be at home with those she loves, I know not everyone can be cared for at home but it is good when it can be done.

Rosexx