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SummerScribe, will have to suggest that to him.

Maz I cheated and snet three black bagsof washing down to her nans!! Jeanette, No treats here LOL

funny, I was going to pull up this thread and ask what happened! don't wanna say 'I told you so' but .... 'I told you so' lol !! I washed a ton of clothes for Charlotte too - she had them all over the back of her chair! she still hasn't sorted out the stuff I wanted her to sort and they haven't unpacked their holiday rucksacks yet! 2 weeks later lol Maz. XX

Well done Shelli and well done to your daughter for not going off on one! lol My daughter didn't get too upset either which I thought was a bit strange. I found out a few days later that her Dad had promised to buy her a new cd player if she kept her trap shut! LOL Jeanette x

Survived!!!!! she wasn't totally over moon but she also didn't go off on one like i thought she might. She still has about half a dozen boxes to sort through, and two black bags of clothes to put away. She also needs to thin her stuff out, as there is simply too much for her room.

Hi Shelli, its a very fine line between encouraging them to be independant and work things out for themselves and not being a slave to them. I used to rake my sons stuff ino tht emiddel of his room and bring in the big bin and give him 3 days warning sort it out or it goes into the bin. It only took a couple of times of having to rescue stuff fromt eh bin to convince him that I was serious and to do something about it. I cant stand the rubblish that my kids seem to accumulate, when its so unnecessary, and the smell that seems to emulate form my sons room, gas mask material. You have to do what you think is right, after all you provide it all and deserve to live nicely. CG

Well guys not quite buried under black bags yesterday, got myself into a bit of a pickle trying to dismantle her old bed. Had to get OH to help. Was almost stuck under the bed Maz PMSL Still room is now as it should be, I just have to get all the other stuff books card making stuf and ehr craft bits ito some sort of order. Oh also have to sort out tangle of wires etc behind her tv dvd PS2 etc. Oh and lets not forget the 7 yes 7 black bags of clothes removed from the floor, that i have to sort and wash etc!!!! And today i'm covering her paper round as well.........like Sue said.... remind me why I had kids??????? Liz Can really understand how you feel I too have tried everything to get her to tidy, even stopped her seeing her beloved nanny one week, But nothing worked, hence the drastic action. The state of rest of my house currently leaves a lot to be desired as well, but that is cos the bottom fell out of my world at end of May and since then everything has been just too much effort. Problem is, it will now take superhuman effort to put right. But am trying to get it done. Although the kids rooms have been disgusting since forever!!!!! Sharm, she has several blankets on her bed left from when she was younger, and my god did they smell!!!! how she slept with them I'll never know. Just washing second load now!!! Sue in Somerset, PMSL I did that to my Nan, I left home but left stuff there for safe keeping. Moved back with more bits, left again. Again leaving more stuff for safe keeping. Some of it only got moved in June almost 13 yrs after i last left, and that was only cos we waas clearing the house as Nan had died!! Jeanette i've only got rid of what i am 110% certain is rubbish, there is a lot more in there I think can go, but as she's not here, i will be a nice? Mum and give her chance to sort it. So there is a lot of stuff going back in, IF i can make it fit. Summer Scribe, really had no choice, as I've said I'd tried everything to get her to do it and it wasn't happening. And the fact I couldn't even close her door to hide it was the final straw. So took the golden oppertunity, yes she'll go'll mad, she even told me I'd be dead if i touched her room. But think like Maz says in the end she'll be grateful and glad she doesn't have to do it and i'm not moaning at her about it... well not straight away. Maz Gotta get shoes for all four of mine too :((( That'll be fun won't it? NOT!!! LOL Annoying when they ahve that growth spurt isn't it. Brought twins stuff bit too long so should be ok, Tho struggled with Nathan cos he needs the height but not the waist, so he's got adjustable waist ones. He's seriously not impressed LOL And the twins are almost as tall as me too. Scarey isn't it. Well wish me luck here I go again XXX

Purple, that sucks, his loss really. I can understand why it would upset you, though. You should check out on ebay how much you could flog it for. Those things are collectors items now, especially if it's never been out of its box *grins* (wish I hadn't given away my old spectrum to my neice) Liz.

I had so many rows with my son over the same problem, it wasn't just his room, it was the whole house, and I was unable to keep on top of things as I was working part time and looking after my elderly and ill parents too plus having work done on parts of the house. In the end he moved out at the age of 18 and got a room in a shared house, I went to clean it for him to move into and then left him to it. It wasn't too bad, but after a few months, he moved into a whole flat and it has never been tidy for more than a day, since he moved in about 6 years ago! He will have a blitz and do it, and I have done some for him occasionally, but it never stays tidy for long. I went round on his birthday and ended up doing almost a fortnight's washing up lol He is away camping at Newquay this week and I bet his tent is a mess too. I did offer to do some clearing up for him while he was away but he wouldn't give me the key lol I can't see him ever being tidy, bless him, but it wasn't for lack of trying on my part when he was small. Tried bribes, no pocket money etc etc and nothing worked. I bought him an Amiga (game computer) but said he couldn't set it up till he cleared a space in his room as it couldn't be balanced on top of piles of junk, would you believe he never played on it and it is still in its box? That really upset me, as I thought sticking to my guns would encourage him to sort his room out but no, nothing worked. Liz

God, I have to admit I would go nuts if my parents had ever done that to me. You'll have one sulky teen on your hands. Hope you've not got rid of anything that *she* deems important. What's trash is one is treasure to another. As to the ones with students... you better hope they don't come back to live at home like I did with my folks.... add to all my stuff the extras I'd accumulated for uni (ie household stuff, books etc...) also, planning to get my own place I've started to buy furniture. I struggle to keep stuff tidy, my FM makes it hard for me to get in my cupboards and then it snowballs. One day soon I'll tidy my room... but I just don't have enough space for all my stuff. AND I'm 33...there really is no growing out of it *winks*

we have a 16 year old boy, i would just open his door and put his laundry on the floor cos it was a tip, till a month ago his dad and him re did his room, i was gobsmacked , its lovely, westham colours, no yucky magazine pics of girls yet, he had several black bin bags himself out of there, i couldnt do it myself,(FM) your daughter wont miss any of it wehn she comes home, ave a rest now and cuppa

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* wonders if Shelli is still buried under black bags *

Hi Shelli, hope you haven't got trapped under the bed pmsl. A lot of stuff from their rooms I moved downstairs into the pc/junk/toy room. So now of course THAT needs sorting out. And the garage is stuffed full of old toys that need to be got rid of. *sighs* I thought Jamie's uniform WAS ready, but now he has grown 3 cms so I need to get him new trousers and I expect some new tops too! Charlotte's we pick up from the school at the end of August - just praying that it will fit or they will not have much time to re-order. By the way, she is virtually the same height as me now! Still got to get their shoes - hateful job - but am putting that off til nearer the time in case their flippin flippers grow too! Then of course there is my other favourite task .... name tags. Keep going hun, it'll be worth it in the end. She may scream and shout and strop off, but underneath all that she'll be really grateful. She might tell you in about 10 years pmsl so don't hold yer breath!!! Maz. XXXX

Sorry Shelli! Didn't mean to upset you by telling you it was a mess again! lol The one consolation is, it can't get as bad as it was cos there isn't as much stuff left to chuck on the floor! lol She is tidying it today though or she isn't coming on holiday next week ;-))))))) Jeanette x

My older daughter is at university and I blitzed her room when she first went. Loads of bin liners full of real junk. Nothing I threw away was worth saving (I'm a natural hoarder so I do know!). She's now living in a smaller student house and keeps bringing stuff back. :(( Every time she comes home she leaves a trail of debris from the front door to wherever she is. My husband and I have decided that when she finally gets a home of her own we are going to go there and trash it! Younger daughter has 'moved out' and lives with boyfriend but we still seem to have boxes and bags of her stuff piled up in her old room here waiting till she has a big enough place to put it all in. And as for all their stuff in the loft which we are not allowed to throw away............ Remind me someone. Why do we have kids? Sue

i have 2 teens that make an absolute tip their rooms are like bombsites, and last week i noticed a bad smell like rotten fruit discovered it came from my 16 year olds bedroom i tackled her about it and she said oh yes its my bin, she had thrown a banana in ages ago words fail me how could she just ignore that. trouble is there little sister has started to copy them. i wont do their rooms for them its there mess they should clean it thats what i think but sometimes it is hard to just ignore it. why does teenage boys rooms smell more than girls though even though they are both pigstys?

Oh and forgot to add next week i get to do the three boys room, tho theirs is in terrible state too, theirs is mainly toys. SO who is to blame????? Me for letting them get away with it or them for living in the mess??????

well girls i spent all of yesterday in there 9am - 10 pmand will prob spend most of today as well :(( I didn't work fast tho and did stop for food and to referee the boys!! Sorted thru about half of it, and have binned six black bags already. Still have to venture under her loft bed. And i made the STUPID STUPID STUPID mistake of throwing her clothes on top of it, out of my way, to sort later. Well like Suzy, we've got a new bed going in there - had it since end of June, blocking up various pieces of house!! That was what spurred me on to do this, as am fed up with the matteress outside my bedroom door. Would like to decorate but will save that for alter date. To be honest i dunno who is worse her for making it that bad and living in it, or me for allowing her to get this bad. And you lot ain't helping by telling me it won't get any better, esp you Jeanette, she'd better not let it relapse. Suzy My back is fine, when bag is full I just yell for one of the boys to come and take it to the bin shed LOL Shirley, She's almost 15 (Oct) And no she doens't get pocket money. We kept forgetting to give it to her, so she'd add up the missed weeks and then collar us. We tend to buy most things for her, but she doesn't get anything more than our boys. She does do a paper round and has savings so if she wants money she uses that. And i cna't turn blind eyeany longer. Gwyn, I tried the your mess, you live in it route, but the fact it was creeping out of her room and on to the landing made it unbearable. And i agree the loft bed she's got is stuffed with gawd knows what underneath. Maz 3 days OMG, I was hoping to have Kerry's done in 3, but i really need to get it finished today ( HA HA just who am I trying to kid???) As the boys and I are covering her paper round plus the one she's covering!!! and that willbe fun won't it??? NO !!! So as I need to get it done today or at least as much of it as physically possible, am up early, to get myslef going. Cos if i stop for Wens I know I won't get started again. However can i just add the school uniform for the three boys is all ready and on the back of my bedroom door. Just need to buy some extra bits for twins :P But kerry's is now on her bed, just need to sort clothes. So am making some headway this summer I think LOL Sue She does that with her school unifrom waits until 10 at night and then says I need this for tomorrow, or the other one is I ahveno underwear!!!! last time she brought down her washing there was 3 loads just of her stuff. And yes her laundry bin does fold flat pmsl Clare Four times in the past year..... oh boy!!

My son is 23 and I daren't go in his room.....even if I could get in there! His dirty washing is all over the floor until even he decides it's too disgusting to leave there. Then he brings it down in his dirty washing basket (memo :- don't buy one that folds when it's empty, because it stays like that for weeks!) dumps it in the kitchen and says ''Can you do this quickly cos I've run out of t-shirts''. Ummmmm........''No''. I have six dinner plates for everyday use, but normally there's only 2 in the cupboard as the rest are in his room, probably with week-old decomposing food on. It's a good job he doesn't drink tea or coffee or I'd have all my mugs up there too, turning green and furry like they used to when his brother lived here! My daughters were not quite so bad, but still very messy. Now the younger one is almost obsessive in her house about being tidy and constantly moans about the state of her son's room! What goes around, comes around! LOL Sue xx