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Just been to tescos and my 2 year old point blank refused to go in the trolley, tried to open everything i bought and then had a screaming session at the checkout! Everyone looked at me like i was an alien....why do people do that?

Because they all forget...Thats why. Just ignore them. Deanna

Because they either haven't got kids, or are too old to remember. I wholey sympathise. I am gearing up for a trip to Asda with my 3 yr old and my 21 month old. If any one sees a mad red faced woman with two screaming brats, it is only me because I refused to buy more sweeties.:o) Claire xx

that happens in our tesco all the time!!! terrible 2's but arnt they just gorgeous, i love that will power show they have spirit!!! myself i always feel sorry for the mum, been there myself years ago, most people understand Emma, any one who has had kids anyway!! Love Helenxx

LOL, oh dear....it annoys me when supermarkets put sweets near the checkouts. Good luck with the shopping!!

just ignore them em. some people obviously don't remember taking their kids shopping with them.

Hi emma, Have you seen the TV programme Driving Mum and Dad mad? It's on ITV1 tonight at 10. It might make you feel a bit better when you see what THOSE kids get up to!!!! God if they lived with me for a week.......Don't worry about your kiddies tantrums. It is only what all us Mums have had to deal with at some time or other. Personally I just used to tell mine that the longer they created the longer it would be before they got anything! Once, my daughter refused to even stand on her own two feet in the middle of our shopping mall and just flopped on the floor. Luckily a cleaner was nearby and I just asked her 'To brush my daughter up and put her in the black bin bag.' Then I started to walk away a little. She soon got up!!! My Gran always used to say, 'This too will pass!' It does, but that doesn't always help! Good Luck Julie

Mine both had massive strops at the checkout when sweeties were involved. I sympathised with them VERY LOUDLY about how awful it was to have to look at sweeties when you were not able to eat them at all. After a stiff complaint citing health grounds and responsible family retailing Asda designated a sweet free checkout which we always now use if the children are with me. It is sometimes closed though I have suggested that there should be one permanently open check out which is sweet free. I found the sympathetic approach got more of a response from the people around me and they supported me strongly. When my children lose their temper they do the things that they know are forbidden in order to bait me. It says something when a small but furious person blows raspberries and smacks the trolley. And it makes people laugh. Don't give in though - I have often been congratulated by other people for sticking to my guns! Abigail

I remember it very well, i have 3 kids!!!! 34,31,28 and beleive me i remember!!!! 3 kids on the bus, round Fine Fare, 2 running amok and 1 in the pram!!! back home on the bus 3 kids, shopping, i now have grandchildren, and i do go shopping with them, and some things never change!!! Sweets at the checkout!! lol Helenxx

I remember going to the supermarket with a friend whose 2 year old threw yet another tantrum and she was very stern with him. An old man stood there tutting saying 'what a stroppy mummy you have' so she turned on him and said, 'you put up with it for 24 hours with no sleep and see how you'd cope!' People forget. I nearly always feel sorry for the parent and am just grateful those days are behind me! It really does get better - and then they turn into teenagers! lol Daisy

I have no experience in this yet Emma, but obviously the people who stare and tut, like many others have said, either have no children, or have forgotten what it is like.Luckily at the moment, Kian is only 5months so he creates no fuss!!! Waiting for it all to happen tho, I will probably have double trouble as our 2nd baby arrives in October! Remember when I was younger, my little sister from the age 2-4 used to have tantums in supermarkets, my mum would just leave her screaming on the floor and walk off not giving her the attention she wanted, it worked, she soon got up and ran after us, fear of being left behind and getting taken!!!

I AGREE WITH U THERE LINDA,ALSO IF HUBBY GOES WE SPEND TWICE AS MUCH!!!!!!!!!!

My daughter once dislocated her arm in Asda. She was holding her dad's hand and had such a paddy, she twisted round, flung herself on the floor and we ended up in casualty! She was about 2 at the time. I can't remember another incident since though - she must have learned her lesson. Jack x

just walk off and leave them - the children that it. OLD gran of 70 brenda

Thankyou...glad i am not alone!!! He has fallen asleep now...bless him all that crying has worn him out!

Emma, Most people around aren't criticising you, they are thinking thank God I haven't still to put up with that and then Shock Horror!, grandchildren come along and we go through it all again. The joys of being Parents and grandparents. lol June xx

I pushed my screaming grandaughter through a shopping mall and was given quite a few 'looks' as I wasn't even trying to calm her down. In the end I said to a couple that were standing there looking almost disgusted at my attitude 'She can't have everything she wants ok?' At least they had the good grace to agree! LOL It doesn't get any better either! - I can remember leaving my 13 year old daughter standing in a shoe shop and walking out. She was having a strop because I wanted her to have decent school shoes. I told her she'd 'go without' and that's what I made her do! It was a fortnight of walking to school practically through to her socks that persuaded her that my choice was more sensible!....and then came the DM stage!!! - so what was the point of her strop??? LOL Magsxx

Doctor martens? i went through that stage!!!

Nice one....bet you felt better after?

When my daughter wa small, her handkerchief blew into the busy road, she shot after it and I yanked her back on to the pavement, a woman told me off for pulling my child around. I was so upset at what could have happened, I turned round and to her, if she had been killed, it would have been me crying at the graveside, not you,so mind your own business. June xx