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Hi If I'm starring (& I don't mean to )it's I'm dreaming/sympathising >My youngest has just started school & so go alone now. Apart from in the holidays then my trolley changes shape. In the summer it was always filled with Shrek products - thanks to my 2 little helpers!! June Interested what you say about Sainsburys lights - my husband always comments how awful they are & he is epileptic too (although not had a fit for years) I wonder if Sainsburys know this. Is it covered by the disability act? Penny

I used to have that trouble until I made shopping a game, its all about playing mind games when out shopping with children, try this, make a list up of shopping that you need, even if its a few things, make sure you have a pen too, tell your child before you go shopping you need someone important to help with the list, then say the important person has to sit in the master chair(trolley) or they can walk around with you, let the child put the shopping in the trolley and then mark it off the list when that is done(even if you make up a phoney list) shopping then becomes more of an adventure, if that doesn t work leave them at home with hubby in the evening and go in peace, but that way has worked for me, and I always point out when shopping how well behaved my child is compared to others and that the ones being naughty don t get to help there mummies with the important job of shopping. Good luck. Penny

When we went in B.H.S.Preston my granddaughter, then a baby in her pushchair. used to scream, yet she didn't do it in other shops, one day I put my hand on the metal of the pushchair and got an electric shock, so then we realised what the problem was, it must have been the carpet. Another friend who's husband suffers from epilepsy, say that her husband cant go in Sainsbury's, it must be the lights that irritate his condition, yet he can go in Asda, So maybe its not all down to having a paddy. June xx

I did remain calm....just about! Normally when i am on my own i get asked if i would like help packing...today with a screaming toddler i didnt get asked??? Typical. On the plus side i didnt spend too much as i wanted to get out of there as fast as my legs would carry me!!

I don't have kids so have never been in that situation, but I do TRY to be sympathetic and not look askance at them. Some Mums are brilliant, supercool, I'm sure I wouldn't be like that!

Just remember Emma, when in this situation NEVER, loose your cool, many super market spectators are just WAITING to see how you (the mother) reacts and how you handel the situation. never show that you are stressed, you will be admired for this.

June took the words out of my mouth. If I see a child screaming I do remember (although I was quite fortunate in that neither of my kids had paddies), and also many of those looking would have grandchildren, my youngest and third youngest have both thrown strops when out. so many of the looks would be of sympathy and the 'I've been there' look. I thought most of the supermarkets had taken sweets off the check out. Sainsbury's and I am sure Tescos in Gloucester both have. Ann Glos

You're not alone, we've all been there. If I do see a kiddie throwing a screaming fit - when I look I'm urging the parents not to give in - let the kid scream - they soon learn. As for supermarkets - Tescos are pretty good - well our one is - no sweets at the checkouts. There are some on the end of one of the aisles facing the checkouts but that's all. Well done Tescos for listening!! (even if your shelves always seem empty of the things I want not matter what day/time I go!!) Kxx

Yep! Doc Martens! - and all I could do then to prevent her from going to school in twelve hole boots! - (sigh) Such is life! LOL Oooh just remembered! - My niece, her two children and me and my husband were walking along the Harbourside in Bristol when we we verbally attacked by a complete stranger because my niece had grabbed hold of her son (about 5) turned him forcibly to face her and shouted at him (he was mucking about and perilously near to falling in the water). This stranger ranted about how she should be ashamed of herself , what a bad mother she was and how she felt sorry for this poor child - what she DIDN'T know was that he was almost deaf and this was the only way she could get him to take notice!! - so think before you judge I reckon! Magsxx

When my daughter wa small, her handkerchief blew into the busy road, she shot after it and I yanked her back on to the pavement, a woman told me off for pulling my child around. I was so upset at what could have happened, I turned round and to her, if she had been killed, it would have been me crying at the graveside, not you,so mind your own business. June xx

Nice one....bet you felt better after?

Doctor martens? i went through that stage!!!

I pushed my screaming grandaughter through a shopping mall and was given quite a few 'looks' as I wasn't even trying to calm her down. In the end I said to a couple that were standing there looking almost disgusted at my attitude 'She can't have everything she wants ok?' At least they had the good grace to agree! LOL It doesn't get any better either! - I can remember leaving my 13 year old daughter standing in a shoe shop and walking out. She was having a strop because I wanted her to have decent school shoes. I told her she'd 'go without' and that's what I made her do! It was a fortnight of walking to school practically through to her socks that persuaded her that my choice was more sensible!....and then came the DM stage!!! - so what was the point of her strop??? LOL Magsxx

Emma, Most people around aren't criticising you, they are thinking thank God I haven't still to put up with that and then Shock Horror!, grandchildren come along and we go through it all again. The joys of being Parents and grandparents. lol June xx

Thankyou...glad i am not alone!!! He has fallen asleep now...bless him all that crying has worn him out!

just walk off and leave them - the children that it. OLD gran of 70 brenda

My daughter once dislocated her arm in Asda. She was holding her dad's hand and had such a paddy, she twisted round, flung herself on the floor and we ended up in casualty! She was about 2 at the time. I can't remember another incident since though - she must have learned her lesson. Jack x

I AGREE WITH U THERE LINDA,ALSO IF HUBBY GOES WE SPEND TWICE AS MUCH!!!!!!!!!!

I have no experience in this yet Emma, but obviously the people who stare and tut, like many others have said, either have no children, or have forgotten what it is like.Luckily at the moment, Kian is only 5months so he creates no fuss!!! Waiting for it all to happen tho, I will probably have double trouble as our 2nd baby arrives in October! Remember when I was younger, my little sister from the age 2-4 used to have tantums in supermarkets, my mum would just leave her screaming on the floor and walk off not giving her the attention she wanted, it worked, she soon got up and ran after us, fear of being left behind and getting taken!!!

I remember going to the supermarket with a friend whose 2 year old threw yet another tantrum and she was very stern with him. An old man stood there tutting saying 'what a stroppy mummy you have' so she turned on him and said, 'you put up with it for 24 hours with no sleep and see how you'd cope!' People forget. I nearly always feel sorry for the parent and am just grateful those days are behind me! It really does get better - and then they turn into teenagers! lol Daisy