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It's going to be awkward with my mum on the 6th March as it's also the anniversary of my Dad's death 3 years ago. We're going to take her out for a meal in Reeth, her favourite village in the Yorkshire Dales I know myself and my brothers and sister will make every effort to see she enjoys her day but obviously my Dad is going to be on her mind... It's sad when dates coincide like this, has anyone else had this problem?

Yes I do. This is my first Mothering Sunday without my mum, Mary. She died suddenly on 21 December 2004. Seems so strange, especially as I got an e-mail from Tesco on-line asking if I would like to make Mother's Day special for my mum. Yes, I would. Only now I don't know what to do.

Oh paul i know how u feel hun, my dad died april 1998 and my birthday is june 21st, that year my birthday was on fathers day, its not nice, i will be thinking of you luv kimxxx

Hi Paul, I think this a problem that repeats itself throughout the year. Any big event or family gathering brings back memories. For us my Mum`s birthday in Novemer is difficult as that was when my Dad recieved his diagnosis. He died the following February, so Christmas was difficult too. I hope you all find comfort in each other this Mothers Day, and remember the good times. Best wishes to you all. Frances

I would go on to www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles which you can light a virtual candle and you can put a message on as well it is a beautifull site

we'll probably all take her to the Garden of Remembrance together and leave flowers and cards before we go off to the Dales...Hopefully, we'll be able to let all out emotions out then...I know he wouldn't want it to spoil my Mums special day....

Paul We had my Dads funeral on what would have been his 64th birthday Jeanette x

Paul I think it is lovely that you and your siblings are taking your mum out and maybe together you will all be to make it a celebration not just for mum but also in memory of your Dad. I have had similar things...... one of my daughters died on the 10th July and every year from then on the day would be marked with something marking the end of a school year, like it would be sports day or the summer fete or transfer day for my other kids. 5 years after her death I was pregnant again and got my scan appointment through for the 10th of July. Also my youngest son was due on the 16th november 3 years ago and decided to stay put... I was worried he would pop out on the 27th which was the anniversary of my Grandmothers death... he didnt but I spent so long watching the clock and praying for midnight that I think I managed to stress myself into labour... he came on the 28th. Not quite the same thing as you will experience on Sunday but I sort of know how you are feeling. Be Thinking of you and yours next week Postie :-) Shaz xx

So sorry Paul that you lost your dad 3 years ago. My mum and mother in law died within three weeks of each other two years ago, this is the second year that we (my husband and myself) have had no mother to treat at this time of year.We've also lost our dad's. Your mum doesn't want or need any great fuss made, just remaining close in her life is all she really needs.

Know how you feel Wendy this is my 1st mothers day without my mum, she died on nov5th 2004. Wendyx

I'm sorry if I've made the rest of you feel sad by this thread, that wasn't the intention....

Aww Paul... dont be silly ... not at all.... I remember my daughter and gran daily anyway so you didnt make me sad. Although The whole losing someone thing is sad but its nice to remember them too. ;-) Shaz xx

I know that it wasn't your intention to make everybody sad Paul, in fact i dont doubt that if anything, your thread has given people the opportunity to discuss(however briefly) their own personel expieriences, and somehow, just saying it out loud( or typing it) is a good thing for many of us. lol Trish.

Paul, I don`t think you have made any of us feel sad, just shown everyone that we are not alone and others understand how we feel. It is not always sad to remember loved ones, we have happy memories too. Frances

Paul sorry to hear about your dad I am sure your mum will be happy just to be with you all. My sons girlfriends dad died at the age of 40 on her brothers birthday they find it very hard to celebrate, but each year gets a little bit easier. Debs.

I know you did not post it to make us all sad, Paul the others are right its good to talk about it , thanks Wendyx

we lost a son..his birthday is xmas day..:(

Terence, I'm so sorry to hear that...that must be hard, particularly if you have other children to make the day a happy occasion for I'm sorry to hear all your stories..but like you've said, it's sometimes good to have an outlet such as this..

i agree..thank you...he loved canooing..so christmas morning we all go to river..put flowers on river..:)

Lets remember them all together... My daughter's name was Charlotte and my Gran was Jean. What about you Paul and Terrence ?? what was your Dad and Son's name's? And anyone else..... Shaz xx