General Chat

I'm not looking for one right now but does anyone else actually enjoy a good barney every now and again with a partner/sibling/neighbour etc. I think it's good for you to blow your top sometimes and clear out a bit of unexpressed anger:)

Oh no David. I absolutely HATE any kind of confrontation. Chrissie

hiya david.yes i have given my hubby a hard time lately its called pay back time lol x

Well David, i had an arguement with my partner on Thursday past and we are still not talking so i now feel S---! so no i dont like arguements, I feel all the wrong things are said in the heat of an arguement that you cant take back once its said. Kaz

:-) its good to clear the air isnt it.

p.s. And if you disagree with me I'll bop you one LOL:))

What are you trying to say eh ? lol

Me and the other half don't row as much as we used to and I miss it a bit lol - think I may be a little confrontational;0) I come from a family of sulkers whereas I like to get things over and done with - or at least out in the open. Wasn't casting aspersions Paul lol I bet Lynda;)

I hate arguments, but have found that trying to avoid them just makes me resentful. I do feel better after I've got things off my chest, but the problem isn't necessarily resolved. as Lady Bracknell says in the Importance of Being Earnest 'I dislike arguments of any kind. They are always vulgar and often convincing'! nell

There's a difference though surely between, having a barney and having a discussion about points of view. Hasn't anyone ever changed there opinion after listening to someone elses point of view? I know I have. Chrissie

I am lucky in the respect that my husband and I, agree to disagree, we have obviously had our fall-outs, but it had never got out of hand, thank-fully! I think also a good thing, is that neither of us are afraid to apologise, or accept it! Lucky aint I? Maz x

Nell That's exactly why I like an argument - because I dislike a build up of resentment Chrissie Yeh I enjoy discussing too and I often change my mind about things - hopefully not cos I'm feeble but because I can take in other points of view but arguments can bring about positive change too sometimes:)

Why should you use someone else in order to vent your spleen? Did you, as a child, throw tantrums? Perhaps you need a psychiatrist? Maybe an anger management course? There's no excuse for violence. even the verbal variety. Len

Len I may well need a psychiatrist but not for anger management:) I'm not talking about shouting at people randomly! My viewpoint is that if someone has annoyed, offended or upset me I would rather deal with it head on where possible rather than sulking (which is manipulative) or feeling resentful (which is negative). I have never endangered a relationship of any sort through an argument. If something angers me I am happier being honest and confronting it rather than holding it in. And I feel better for it:)

david i agree that its far better to get it of ur chest i hate it wen people sulk and u know summat is bothering them but it cant b resolved as u dont know wats wrong much beter to get it all out in the open :-)

I can't be doing with sulky people but don't like arguements either. If something needs to be said within this house, I hope people can take the point and think on it. They may not agree, - we have many differing viewpoints with 5 adults in this house but arguing is not productive in my view.

Hi Dave, I'm not one for brooding or sulking. If someone really annoys me he/she usually know about it (loudly) within seconds. Gwynne

I wouldnt say I enjoyed it David but do agree it clears the air every now and then.But one thing I have never been is a sulker, and like to sort things out and be friends after. I cant be doing with this not talking for days thing, I think it very childish. If I think I am in the wrong I will apologise, and expect people to accept it just the way I do if people apologise to me.Though I have found with some people that apologising is the worst thing you can do. Dave

i never hav to apoligise as im ALWAYS right ............................................................... lol

I don't mind gentle arguments (if there is such a thing !) but I don't like the nasty ones when people say very hurtful things. A few years ago, when he was very angry, my hubby said something awful to me which, although he later apologised, I have never forgotten. Often words can do as much damage as sticks and stones....