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i came out of a cafe in covent garden this morning,a little too quickly,and almost bumped into a lady pushing a pram,after saying sorry,i looked at her baby,and 'had that feeling' . my girls are grown women,my youngest 19,and the other lydia,will be 24 on august 5th....but i've always had this feeling,that i would have loved to have loads of children. maybe,i'me just going through the male menopause,or maybe i wish i was more like charlie chaplin! bryan.

I would give you an answer Bryan but even though I have 3 girls and I am only 27 in September I feel I am not qualified to your standards to answer that!!....lol Love Susie xx

What you need are grandchildren! Anna

anna,my youngest is only interested in retail therapy,and lydia is a nurse,and too knackered to go out and meet fellas. susie,with three children,your mature enough to reply to anything :o) bryan.

Hi Bryan Long time no speak! I doubt the broody feeling ever goes away, I would love to have the experience of another child. My arms physically ache when i hear a baby crying, but i know in my heart that another 16+ years of raising a child isnt what i want to be doing! Selfish??? I dunno? Karen

Okay then honey, I would love to have another child wether it be another girl or a boy, but I am getting to the point where I would like to return to the UK and study Midwifery a subject I could talk on for a long time ...But with these urge's to have another child I have come to the inner peace for now that maybe another 10 years down the line when I am qualified I will have another but as Nana has said you could maybe approach your children find out how the land lies with them OR contact Social Services and look into being a foster parent as they are always needed everywhere and is a satisfying experience I believe from mature friends of mine who do this....BUT I belive that you will never grow out of them ......Thankfully as when you have your grandchildren they will be so loved by you and lucky!! Love Susie xxx

I'm with Karen there...... Held a 5 day old baby tonight!!!!!!!! Should not have done that! Never goes away..... Stel.xx But need grandchildren..... not here for many years though! Cute! beyond belief. Me hubby worried now! Never lose the feeling........it's wonderful!

I know the feeling Stell, I must look really cold to my friends and neighbours who have newborns!! I cannot hold them close because all the needing feelings would rush back!! When i divorced the hubby he had the snip, now we are back together.... and it doesnt even warrant an arguement!!! Anyway, at my age the risks would probably be too great!! Hey Ho..... Karen

Bryan exactly the same as you two daughters similar ages 25/19 would grandchildren fill the void I don't know

I had it Karen........ Doesn't lessen the feeling............ thats the problem........... But can't deal with another! Like grandparents.........love them....and hand them back! It's ssssooo hard..........cos I'm only 38!!!! Stop now.... Stel.xx

and there was me thinking you were younger than that Stel.... Love Susie xx

I don’t think the feelings ever do go away Circumstances surrounding the first few years of my son’s life led me to feel that I was an unfit mother. My other half and I took steps to ensure that we didn’t have more children. By the time our son was 10 I felt differently and for nearly 20 years I have longed to have other children. This is now impossible due to my age On the other hand, my second cousin was jilted on his wedding day. This was back in the late 60’s. Last year he married for the first time and he and his wife have subsequently had a baby A very dear school friend fathered his 3rd child shortly after his 50th birthday, and then went on to marry the child’s mother, who is his 3rd wife Men in their 50’s, and in fact far older, can and do father children. Sadly women are usually not able to, unless they subject themselves to unnatural medical procedures I know nothing of your personal circumstances, but unless there are medical reasons precluding you from fathering a child, I hope you can find a partner and fulfil your dreams Dee

i constantly feel broody, always hav, always will i think ! thats y i work in the baby unit of a nursery ............... at least i get to look after and hold babies every day even though they arnt my own !!

I have had children in the house for over 32 years now. 10 years ago my daughter had a son and they've always lived with us. It's not always easy. I get tired, - but not of him. We need more space and sometimes have to ask for Lego models to be moved so that the floor can be vacuumed but what there is in plenty is love, so I guess that's what counts most.

Bryan, when you hold your grandchild , I think you will be overwhelmed. I could not believe the tenderness and love that I felt for my new grandchild. It is quite amazing, and in my case, has taken me by surprise. Look forward to it! BC

Hi all, Like you Gwynn, i have had children in my home for 34 years!! i became a nan at 37 and my youngest was 12, my daughter and granddaughter lived with us. i am glad to say i do not get broody, i am more than happy to hand the kids back My youngest granddaughter is 1 and she is absolutely georgous, but nanny gets loads of hugs and kisses but a good nights sleep lol Bow

I know just what you mean BC. I was there when little one was born and the midwife went to hand him to me first. I was longing to hold him but asked that he be given to his Mum first, -he was her's after all. They are very special.

I'm broody all the time.

I agree Grandchildren are the answer. All the love and you can hand them back when you get tired.You have so much more patience with them. A saying a lady told me comes to mind. Mummies are for scolding. Grandma's for spoiling. Trouble is my daughter doesn't agree. You are all ruining him. Germaine x

Hi Bryan, I had to wait till my eldest was 30 to have her first baby. The rush of love was amazing. I adore babies, and having two children, certainly wish we'd had more but at the time just could not have afforded them.My husband worked 7 days a week most of the time when ours were little and is really loving being able to enjoy the grandchildren. Your day will come. Linda x