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The feeling have never gone away from me. I have four children..12,9,9 & 6. I still get SO broody it is unbelieveable. I have to keep reminding myself that it really WOULDN'T be a good idea to have another. Financally it would be unwise. Also after the twins was born I suffered terribly with PND. And then when youngest was born I suffered even worse. Have been advised it would probably get worse if I was to have another. (unsure how true this is but not willing to take achance) Took me a long time to recover from this. Also can't guarantee it wouldn't be twins LOL ARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHH NOT AGAIN LOL Although saying that the youngest has been harder work than the twins put together... from a longer labour right up to today !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bryan, I had the best of all worlds. Had 2 daughters and when they grew up I took up childminding. Every time one of 'my babies' started school there was another one to take their place. Have now retired and have 3 grandsons, the youngest being 5 and I still miss having a baby to care for. Jean x.

Like Dee I don't think those feelings ever go away. When i was younger and had two children we felt that our family was complete, yet i still loved babies. we went into short term fostering. I know you have to hand them back but the feeling that you have given them a good start in life was wonderful. Then we had the five grandchildren. Only sad now that there are almost certainly no more to look forward to -- maybe Great Grandchildren???? Ann Glos Ann Glos

You are not alone Bryan I have 2 children, a boy of 10 and a girl of 6. I always wanted more than one child as Im an only child. Sadly we can only afford the children we have and I am blessed to have one child of each sex. I also had to have 2 caesareans, and had a few pregnancy complications during my pregnancies. And also a bout of post natal depression after my second. However silly it may seem, my son was drinking from a bottle of water (the kind with a sports top) Knocking back the drink with his face raised he suddenly reminded me of when he was taking the bottle as a baby. (That made him laugh) But I felt really emotional and went to look at all the baby piccys of both of them. I know at the age of 39 I wouldnt want to start again, but i do often wonder what another child would be like. And knowing Ill never carry another child often makes me have a cry. But as said, I am blessed with the two I have got, as some people are not able to have a child in the first place. Maybe Im getting old lol ! Elaine x

Bryan I miscarried my first baby and then had two sons. I decided that my family felt complete at that point, and as I was nearly 38 when I had my 2nd boy I thought I should be grateful for what I had got. I still think our family feels complete, and I love my sons dearly, but I do sometimes wish I had a daughter. I get on so well with my mum, and when she was alive my grannie and I also had a special bond. But perhaps my sons will meet nice girls and I can have the lovely relationship with them that I had with my own mother-in-law. I do love looking at little babies and holding them - but I also like handing them back!!! nell

bryan they never go.no matter how old you are i too am sometimes sad not for the same reason as you you ,but i have longed for another child for a few years now but unfortunetly my hubby doesn't want anymore.i am sad about that as i have so much love to give another child and sometimes i find it hard to contemplate not having anymore.love to you bryan.never feel alone.love and hugsxxxx):

hi, don't know how men feel, but I always felt like that, but I have 7 grandchildren now and that stops all thought of having any more of my own.

Hi Bryan, My youngest was 18 on Monday and I spent the day brooding over what 'might' have been. I was advised after his birth not to try again, not being able to have any more was a huge bone of contention for me and stopped me from marrying Bilal for a long time (he had never been married before and loves kids) - how much time did I waste? We've been married six years now and loves my two as his own, our grandaughter is his pride and joy, but I still get a twinge or too when our friends visit with the littles. maybe we're all meant to be broody sometimes... Your busy girls will make you a grandfather one day, enjoy... Magi

I know what Little Karen means. My arms physically ache when a baby is about. Old Cradle Arms needs to cuddle them. A strange feeling which only started after our Eldest was born.

I cannot empathise totally, Bryan, never having brought up children, but I do feel a pang sometimes when I think of what might have been. Take care, Joy

You could have shares in my Brothers children if you like - him and his wife have 8 between them! lol We think he got the Maternal Genes as my Sister and I don't have any children. Kaye x

Bryan, our kids are 31,29 and 26 and since grandchildren arrived on the scene hubby has got terribly broody, said he would have loved more, told the lads he wished they were all little again, so you are not alone, Wendy.xx

thanks to everyone,for your replies. i will have to make do with my little kitten,that i got last week,still heve'nt named him,except 'you little bxgger' as the first thing he did,was to wee on my daughters copy of harry potter. bryan.

naughty kitten!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

thanks frances,thats a nice idea,but i work full time in london,for the nhs,and dont really have much energy left for anything else. agree with you,its been a nice discussion,everyone contributing with their own experiences. bryan.

just want to say hello, Bryan! :-)