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It was my 10 year old daughters school play this morning and her dad said he would come and watch. She was really happy and excited that he would be there. He was outside the school as i arrived and said he couldnt come in and watch as his new girlfriends daughter who is 14 had been naughty at school and he was going to sort it out! So off he went and i had to make excuses for him.....our little girl was gutted and i am really angry...do you think i am just being stupid? Ex-husband says i am over reacting and that he will give our daughter some money to make up for it!! Sorry for ranting

Ex Husband need parenting lessons! (sorry.. that has angered me too)

I would say your anger is totally justified go for it girl xxhugxx

Agree with Em C! becx

Thankyou....needed someone to tell me i am right to be cross. He does this kind of thing all the time and he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong. xx

SOME IDIOTS NEVER CHANGE. WAIT YOUR TURN, YOU WILL GET BACK AT HIM.XX

He seems like one of the many fathers who thinks that they can put a price on everything, He has denied himself the pleasure of seeing his childs performance, then again he obviously didn't view this appointment as something that would/should have made him feel proud.

You have every right to be angry for her. Make sure he knows that every time he misses out on doing something with/for her, he's losing a part of her that he'll never have again. One day she'll turn around and say she doesn't want him there at all. Money does NOT make up for not being there.

Emma,What a terrible thing for a father to do,you are totally right in being 'p--d off'with him. You can,t buy off childrens hurt. May I suggest taking a few Slices of 'Ham or Bacon'fom certain areas to make up for the hurt he caused your Daughter. Hal.

No your not overeacting Emma. So money makes up for everything does it. NOT Germaine x

You are quite right to be angry. Your little girl must have been so hurt, and she should be his PIORITY............... She still has you and you will always be there. Deanna XX

Emma, how the hell does he think money's going to make up for that? He's putting his girlfriend's daughter before his own. Sorry though, I can't agree with you that he's a pig .......... I respect pigs too much. That's an insult to them. x

your ex isnt a pig....hes a total b****rd!! same as mine....just had a show down with mine and he dont give ajot about his kids...... you are better off without him babe x x jill x

Emma I understand your anger and you are right to feel that way! I had the same experience many times when my daughters were younger. I too made excuses for ex-hubby time and time again, I realise now I did the wrong thing, unwittingly I put false ideas in their heads, which gave them some illusion to cling to. It's since they have both become adults that they have both said they wished I'd have been totally honest with them, as this would have helped them accept what he was 'really like' from a young age. Of course it would have been painful for them to hear that 'Daddy' has lost interest, but in the long run no more painful than them living each day under a false illusion and being continually let down by him! Sadly for them he eventually severed all contact! Best wishes Lib:)) PS Forgot to mention, next time he lets her down, phone him and let him explain his self to your daughter, that way he can't put the responsibility onto you!

ex husband needs a good kicking you dont do that to your own child. ok so he was going to sort out a problem but he should have arranged it for after. money dosn't buy love. your daughter will remember things like this and not want to see him then he will wonder why and blame you. Been down this route myself only on other end he had children and forbad anyone to tell me anything about them schools,dr and anyone of importance to them, it wasn't untill later that my children found out they thought I didn't want them which wasnt true. Josieanne

Emma I agree with Georgina - don't tell the children when he promises to see them - there's no disappointment but if he does bother to turn up it's a bonus for them. Debby

My ex was supposed to take the boys for a weeks holiday and it was agreed in the high court.There were the boys all packed and waiting for him to come and get them and time was getting on.Eventually the older lad rang and asked why he hadn't come down yet and when was he coming for them.He told them he was busy and would come for them on the Monday (this was Friday) instead.My lads broke their hearts and we were left to deal with the tears tantrums and hurt.Needless to say I didn't allow the boys to go up on the Monday............. This happens all the time and the courts don't want to know.I think it is a disgrace that children are allowed to be messed about like this so often.It causes long term damage to them. Elizabeth.

As for the naughty schoolgirl - where was her mother in all this?

Don't start me off!! Had a big row with mine last night too. Why is it that WE always feel guilty when HE lets them down?? Selfish, self-centred, clueless, thoughtless, oblivious to other peoples feelings - I could go on ranting all day! Maz. XX

It makes me soooooo mad when I read things like this, some men are just complete s***s when it comes to their children and you have every right to be p**d off. My ex was Mr Unreliable when our son was younger. His social life, the football and whatever piece of skirt he had on his arm at the time always took priority over Scott and I was always the one who had to explain that Daddy wasn't having him this weekend. I could write a book on the excuses I used to try and spare his feelings. On the other hand, my husband has 2 children from his previous marriage who he would kill to be able to see. His ex wife has refused him any contact since he met me 5 years ago. We've seen solicitors and been through family court but every time we think we're getting close to a solution and a contact order, she moves house and it's another 6 months before she can be traced and the whole process starts again. The children are now 12 and 10 and he clings to the hope that one day they will come looking for him. It breaks my heart to see his distress every birthday and Christmas when he can't even send a card and a present cos we have no idea where they live.