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went to mums last night for dinner. she sat me down and told me that my lovely nanny may have bowel cancer. i feel like my world has fallen apart, apprently they have ruled out everything else and that is the only thing it can be, im so very close to my nan she practically brought me up, shes my best friend and there is no way she can leave me. I cant even bring my self to pick up the phone and call her, i cant let her leave me and i cant get through this one

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Hi Princess more hugs for you (((hugs))) Please be positive if Nanny has bowel cancer and it's been diagnoised and treated in time it's completely curable. Whilst it's not one of the most natraul things to talk about ( it's the embarrasing factor ) your Nanny will need your support & love ( which she no doubt knows she has from you anyway ) but in order to understand this more perhaps you could go to this website: www.bowelcancer.org Once you understand more about it.......... you could help calm & re assure Nanny and give her some understanding of her illness. I do wish you ALL a postive outcome (((hugs))) Much happiness Debi

Oh Steedie, my heart aches for you but please don't despair your nanny may well pull through this and be fine. All my love to you sweetheart.......... (((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) Julie xxx

Steph, thats really sad news - fingers crossed that its something else. paul

Positive thoughts for you & your nan. Call & tell her that you love her.

Steedie, nearly 19 years ago I lost my Nan, like you my Nan practically brought me up and I lost my Mam when I lost her, because I mother could never be to me what my Nan was. You can get through this, you have to be strong for her, it's not going to be easy, in fact it's going to be bl**dy hard. Don't phone her, go and see her, she needs you and you are just the person she will be waiting to see. Wait until you get the final results though, you never know, things may not be as bad as they say, I hope so anyway. Thinking of you and crying with you too. M.

i called her, didnt talk for long neither of us could. ive always toled her i think shes invinsible cos i cant imagine my life without her. my sister ruby doesnt know. My big bro does, it was heartbreaking last night to hold him and have him sobbing on me.

steedie oh hun,i know exactly what you are going through. my darling nan died of the same thing! i had just had my 3rd son when my nan was diagnosed.i was 20yrs old . i have such lovely memories of nan.i spent every day after school sat round her open fire toasting marsh mallows lol. when i left school and started work i always went into nans for a cuppa before going home. nan was my life.i adored her. i was lucky enough to be given a council house on the same estate as the sheltered housing complex where nan lived, so i saw her every day. she used to walk round to me if i hadnt arrived at her house by 10am lol,bless her. steedie darling,you can get through this,but it will take time. my nan died 25yrs ago but i still cry for my nan as i miss her so much. please fone her sweetheart,it will be hard,but your nan will understand. love and a big hug susie xxxx

Try not to worry too much. My f-i-l was diagnosed with this 5 years ago. He had an operation to remove the cancer and is still going strong - and he's nearly 90.

same here susie, im sorry you lost your nan xx we lived at my nans for a while and went to school in her area. every day, before and after we moved out we would go there for breakfast and then go back there after school. since ive been working i dont see her as much as i like to but shes never far away. i love her more than i can describe x

Steph - I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sending you, your nan and your family all my positive thoughts and healing love. becx

Hugs to you steph xxxx

steedie thankyou hun xxx im sat here in tears now,its brought back so many wonderful memories. as trish has said,treatment has improved so much now.so please dont give up hope. the thing that hurt the most with my nan was the fact that she was so active. she walked into town(2miles) rather than wait for a bus,lol.she used to say she didnt have time to hang around lol. she used to wrap my 3 boys up and take them for long walks,all through the woods.she adored them. she desperately wanted a gt grandaughter and said that i had to have another baby cos it would be a girl 2yrs later limara was born.i truly believe that she was sent by my nan. love and hugs susie xxx

thats the thing susie, i need her there for when i have my children, i never imagined that my children might not have a chance to know my nan, i always assumed that she would be there with me, even at my wedding for when Grandad gives me away.shes not old, shes never done anything wrong, not to deserve this

Steph My heart goes out to you - nans are very special aren't they? I am thinking about you, your nan and your family. Debby

I have no advise to give..i just want to send a HUGE hug, nans are special people.. (((HUG))) XXX

My nan died last year she had just had he 95th Birthday, it was the sadest day of my life, I had to drive nearly 200 miles to be with her at the end, and I would do it all over again, just to have those last 45 mins with her, it gave me time to tell her she was the best nan ever, I talked about all the funny times we had to gether, I know she was in a comer, but her fingers tried to grip mine, so I know she could hear me, I was given that chance, if it is the worst news, you have been given that chance grab it with both hands and spend time with her, tell her you love her remind her of those presious moments, she will know her life has not been in vain, it is not easy, I cried like I have never cried before, but we had chance to share some wonderful memories, please do the same, it makes the greiving that bit easier. Sending heart felt (((((HUGS))))) to help you. Bev

OH Steph darling so sorry for your Nan who you are so close to my prayers are for you my love and your Nan. Davex

steph thats the thing isnt it? what have they done to deserve it? my brother was only 12 at the time and it was so hard to try and explain why nanny was leaving us. he was just learning about the dangers of smoking at school and the fact that it caused cancer. well he couldnt comprehend why nanny had this awful disease because she had never smoked or drank alcohol. she was also religious and went to the village chapel every week. he has now grown up and hasnt got the time of day for religion! i cant say i blame him really. love susie x