General Chat

Lou - no, I'm just his big sister... and I feel a responsibility for his happiness. Jean Joy - Mum would never have him back with her. She has minimal involvement in my life and his, she has a nice and easy life and she wouldn't change that. I'm so bloody angry! I spoke to my Dad about this situation a few months ago, and he disagreed when I said that my brother should be his focus. He believes that his new marriage should be his focus! Children are for LIFE! You can't just have them, and then when you get distracted by someone new, move your attention!

Bec, I know Gav is 16, but hows about him ringing Childline for advice? I suggest that, as it's there (so I understand) for quite a lot of different aspects, as well as the obvious ones. I may be proved wrong, and if I am, you're quite within your rights to call me a prat!! But it may be worth a try. Good luck. x

Thanks Glenys It'd be good for him to have someone else to talk to, for another perspective if nothing else. I will pass the number onto him, it's difficult for me to advise him when I'm so involved. Thanks again, Becx

Well I've sent him (Dad) an email. Not very personal I know but I cried throughout so would be worse on the phone. Let's hope he takes it in the vein it was meant :0S Thanks again everyone, Love becx

becs for one your step mother and afther should not be badmouthing your mother in front of him.if i were his sister i would be sitting down and having a chat to my father about what they are doing and how it upsetting your brother and i assume you.i would never let my father do that.i was in the same boat as your brother when i was 16.my father just didn't have the time for me and said to me if i didn't like it then i could move back with my motehr on which i packed my bags and left...my mother took me in straight away without any fuss and i lived with her for 2 years.she would never turn me away.just because children grow up and parents think tehy have no responsibility to their children it is a mothers duty to be there for their children no matter what age.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx((((:

Am sooooooooo relieved. He FINALLY replied and said that he hadn't realised how bad things were. He's going to try A LOT harder and work at it. He's also going to stop badmouthing Mum. Thanks for everything everyone. Looks like Gav' will be staying where he is for the meantime! Love Becx

That's good news Bec, you're too young to start playing mum to a teenager. Now just enjoy your life, you gave me a laugh on the gentlemen thread. Vivienne

Great news, Bec. I hope your Dad's proud of his daughter for being such a caring one. Well done! (Er, ask Gav to give you a hug from me, will you? Ta!) x

Bec - well done for explaining the situation to your Dad and I'm really pleased he's agreed to work at it. Hope everything works out well. Daisy

Wish I had a sister like you Bec :-)!!

oh bec, take him in i feel so sad for him, and you, you could both do with a hug, dont let them distroy his confidence, and make him sad, hell love it with his big sister can i just add, hubby was in a distructive situation as a lad, he joined up at 16 , he said his life began then, he didnt have someone to offer him a life line at that age, i hope you and your brother can remain close, and im sure you will , what ever you decide to do, youll always be there for him i wish you both all the best, hell soon be a young man, (well he is now) i send you a hug both of you

Bec Keep us posted on how things go for your little bro and you. I hope dad and stepmom can keep their feeling about your mum out of family life (or atleast save it for when your brother is out of the house). I know how hard teenagers are to look after and have a 15 1/2 yr old brother myself. I'm luck that my parents are still together but when my brother was younger, I had a niggleing thought in the back of my head 'what if mum and dad died, who would look after us? could I bear to be seperated from my brother?' I knew the answers but it never made it easier. When I het 16 and my brother still wouldnt listen to my I snap and said in frount of my mother ' If anything happened to mum and dad who do you think would have to look after you' both me and mum were nearly in tears but I managed to say Me thats how! I would be expected to look after you untill you are 18 so you had better do so I say. Poor mum had to back me up. 7 years on my brother still doen't listen to me unless we are on our own or he comes to stay with me. But at least he listens a bit more now. Now I'm the one who's moaning! Sorry :-(( ((((((((((((((((((Hugs to you and your bro)))))))))))))))))))

Hi Bec - just seen this thread. Do hope it works out with your brother, bless him - BUT bless you too for being such a caring sister:o)))) Take care Keep us updated:o) jude sarf wales x

<<<<HUGS>>>> to you all for being so lovely! Lots of love, Becx (and Gav')