General Chat

Hi Kate, I see you created your tree on 25 Feb 2006 and you only have 1 person in your tree. Do you need any help in getting going? June xx

Hi Kate, I read the thread you refer to as it unfolded, and drew my own conclusions, rightly or wrongly, as to what was going on. I would, however like to respond to the points you haver raised on this thread: 'If I am to carry on posting here then I need to clear the air and make my feelings known.' Why? Can you not just let the dust settle and start again? ' I am still feeling VERY angry and hurt by the people who accused me of being Mike on Saturday.' There are lots of people on GR who are still feeling VERY angry and hurt by what Mike said over his three threads, supported by you on one, but they are not going on about it now. ' I don't want an argument I just want people to stop and think about their actions.' If you don't want an argument, why did you start this thread? If you had stopped and thought about your actions, you would have let the subject drop. 'I am big enough and ugly enough to rise above this and in time I will,' So, go on then. 'but the next person that they do this to might not be able to.' That is not your problem surely. If I were you, (and clearly I am not), I would drop the subject and try to get along with the lovely folks on here, if that is what you would like to do. If not, avoid this board, and concentrate on your family history research with the equally lovely folks on Tips and Records. Liz

I have to Echo some of what Bec said. My suspicion was immediately raised when you (seemingly a brand new joined member of only 30 Min's..., who's name I never recognised...and im on the boards a great deal...) jumped in at the defence of someone who posted a thread seemingly for the purpose of flame baiting. (Which seems the case regarding the flame baiting threads because the insults to the General board and chat members have continued on his threads which have followed in the last few days). What you need to understand, and if you have been a member for as long as you say, you will remember there have been at times, brand new members have immediately joined, then posted in a negative way, causing arguments and slating other members.(Myself and others have been victims of this in the past and its not nice) Often there is a link between the member posting and the new person who have jumped in to add to the argument. (They maybe chat on msn or email) Sometimes we have been led to believe that its an ex member (various ones) who has come back to cause mischief under a different guise. By posting this thread (why a few days on ? ) and re opening what happened a couple of days ago, was bound to get a few backs up, and the he said...she said scenario you talk about....was bound to happen. No one minds anyone having an opinion Kate, but when someone comes in from nowhere as a brand new member of 30 Min's, and supports someone who is rude and is flame baiting and belittling others, then one must expect suspicion and flak. You said you would rise above this but posting this thread shows that you havent Elaine x

Kate, Yes you're right, you did voice an opinion. I personally believe we're ALL entitled to voice our opinions! What I found odd was that you came from nowhere (or seemed to) to back the opinion of someone who suggested those of us who post on here (The General Board) should get a life. Each to their own etc. etc. (I'm VERY open-minded)... but to come on and agree with someone who thinks we're childish and innane.... Why do you care that people think you're someone else when you've been defending someone who's been criticising those of us who post on the General Board? I'm sure Mr Happy (aka AB/Mike/whoever he is today) could point you in the direction of some stimulating messageboard where you could find appropriate material. Becx

Kate - I for one hope that you carry on posting - you have a lot to contribute to the boards so dont let anyone put you off. ;o)))

Here here Sharon. I hope Kate comes back on. She sounds really annoyed and there's no need to be. this is a site for everyone. reunited? past or present surely?

Hi I'm also really new to the site, and have loved reading the threads - even if I haven't dared to reply to many, I have had many giggles!! I was really shocked by the contentious threads that have appeared lately. I consider myself to be fairly intelligent (on a good day) and truly believe that life is too short for any of this. Please carry on with the varied topics on this board, after a hard day at work, I welcome some light relief. Sharonxx

Oh this is stupid. What does that matter. I enroled on this site from day 1 bet no-one remembers me. Who gives a t**S I took a break to have my son for about 6 months. Kate don't worry about it.

Thankyou for all your posts, I am not going to add anymore because it's getting into a he said she said debate, and I didn't want to do that. Goodnight everyone Kate.

Sorry Catherine, What happened was that: I voiced an opinion and then I was accused of being someone else. They thought this because I had joined the site I think it was 30 mins previously. What the didn't realize was that I was already a long standing member, that day I had spent a frustrating few hours getting onto the site. For whatever reason GR would not accept my details so I opened a new account. I was then accused of being another member Kate.

As a really new person (only 3 weeks old) to this site, I have really enjoyed the chats on these boards, however I am amazed at what has gone on in the last few days. As a new member coming into an established community I am aware that it will take time for people to get to know me and I hope in time that I can be accepted. But if I can give my option: Yes everyone is entitled to an opinion and yes everyone is entitled to share that opinion. Yes, is seems that people in the past have abused that right and really upset people. However everyone has the right to respect. The manner in which people have replied to messages in the last few days (and we all know the ones I am talking about) is utterly dis-respectful. Please,please new and old members cant we be respectful. :-)

I was one who was suspicious and I apologise for it Kate Dave

Well I will put my hands up and say that I was one of those who thought you were Mike. Now, I'm not sure. Maybe you're not Mike.... but I'm also not sure you are who you say you are. Either way, it's just my opinion so don't be bothered by me. Becx

isn't this getting a bit personal?. I thought this was a site where people came on for a bit of friendly banter? what's going on?

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No i dont Kate, nor do i intend to. You are obviously not taking on board the rest of my message , so i'll say nothing more.

I'm not surprised you are stil peed off Kate - I don't know you and you may be nice and you may be horrible but I don't think anyone deserves the hassle you had for not being known & for having an opinion. I usually say that there aren't cliques but it looked very much like there was the other day. Having said that you'll probably be best if you can bear it in mind but let it go:)

Jess, I do not have to prove myself to you or anyone else. I will state (yet again) to you that my name is and always has been KATE BURL. It is not my fault that you have not seen my name, nor do I feel the need to give out times and dates of when I have posted for goodness sake. Are you telling me that you actually sit there and take details of everybodys name? C'mon. How many members are there on GR... I do not think for one moment Jess that I will get an apology from you and that is your perrogative. It may be best to keep a wide berth of each other in the future, Kate.

i am the 'idiot' that said that- actually what i said was can you prove you are not one and the same? Which is slightly different. as almost everyone else here has said, people have multiple log-ins to to create strife and cause anguish. What happened early on saturday eveing LOOKED exactly that way, and i was by far from the only person that thought it. I invited you, as you were adamant that you had been around for ages and had previously posted , to tell someone your old name - Yours is still not a name I recognise and others will vouch for the fact that I am here on and off all day most days.Doing just that would have ended the uncertaity there and then - you chose not to, ok, thats your perogative. What you did do, as you can perhaps now see , is seemingly pop up and defend someone, for no apparent reason, who was posting for one reason, and one reason only, and for exactly the same reason as they did so agian today- to cause unpleasantness. You can hardly be surprised that people reacted in the way they did PARTICUALLY ( would have used italics there if i could not capitals)If you, as you say, have been around for ages and know how these threads work. jess

Kate, I understand why some didn't think you were who you say you are. I'm not saying they were right to make accusations, but given the nature of the thread, and that you're a fairly new arrival who became quite vocal quite quickly, and that tempers were high at the time... I guess people took 2 and 2 and made 45. For what its worth I don't think you''re Mike. But then I'm not so sure Mike is Mike either lol Paul