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whilst visiting mum yesterday the specialist came .he told us that my lovely mum has had a major stroke and it has done a lot of damage to her brain. he said that there isnt any way that he can see further improvement.i felt as though i had been hit with a sledgehammer! i burst into tears and the dr cuddled me.i asked him if he could tell my dad,who was sat with my hubby in the waiting room.he put his arm round me and said that he would. we went to dad and he told him exactly what he told me and that mum would probably have to go into a nursing home.dad cried,like i had never seen him cry before.he then looked at the dr and said,'my wife will be living with me at home not in a nursing home' .dad then put his arm round me and told me not to cry as we can work this out together.i hugged dad so tight and cried and cried. as normal i went to see her again today.she was sat in a chair,fast asleep,WITHOUT her teeth! i asked the nurse to put her teeth in as my mum would go mad if she knew she wasnt wearing them.the nurse could see i was close to tears and she hugged me.she then cleaned mums teeth and put them in.i was so pleased.mum looked so much better with them in. i massaged mums left arm and leg and rubbed her fingers.i am determined to get them working again. she asked if we could do some more crosswords,bless her,so limmie asked her the questions and she got every one right. this afternoon the dr asked dad what sort of property they lived in.dad told him it was a 3 bed semi .he asked if it had 2 rooms downstairs and a downsatirs toilet. dad said no.he told the dr that his lounge was 35ft long and that he could soon arrange to have part of it converted into a bedroom with an ensuite bathroom. he told the dr that his grandaughter limmies boyfriend had already said he would plumb a toilet down stairs, as he is an external plumber, and that terry would do the conversion for them. the dr was impressed lol. we know that it is going to be a long haul but are all mucking in together,which is what we as a family do best. love you all susie xxx

Susie So sorry to hear about your mum, but it sounds as though you are all going to be supporting eachother and doctors have been known to be wrong. thinking of you! nell

Susie, so sorry to hear your news, Take care. Thinking of you and your family. Tina

Susie, Holding you all in my thoughts. Love Viv

Susie think of you and your family ((((hugs)))) to you Norah

Thinking of you Susie and your family. I understand (with my own experience) what you're going through. All anyone can do is be there for them and give them your love as always. Love Maureen XX

your dad is just like mine, caring and loving , compasionate and loyal, well done all of you, im sure with your help your mam will manage to do a little more, susie, i send you a hug, even if your mam only says little things itll be such a huge thing for you, i send my thoughts, and give your dad a hug from me too, best wishes ive just thought too, dont be afraid to watch kids programes for speech, as a child i used to sit with my nana, and help her write after a stroke , that was 30 year ago, so im sure your mam will be doing well soon, things are so advanced now

Oh Susie (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) Don't give up hun. Insist on Psysio etc to get Mum up to coming home when she's ready, & stick to your guns if you don't want her to go to a Nursing Home. The hospital will try their best to oust her when they need the bed, but stand firm. All the best for you & your family, fingers crossed that it turns out ok in the end. It sounds like she is communicating with you, so that is a start. Joan xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

oh Susie flower, with you being such a close family your mum will come on a lot better than most people - be strong my petal - know that we are thinking of you - and your Mum is determined - she will fight along with you to get back her strength xx

Susie Love & hugs for you all. Your mum is very lucky to have such a close and loving family. Will be sending very positive thoughts for you all. Dianne xx

Susie, sending loads of love, hugs and prayers for you, your Mum, Dad and the rest of the family. With you being such a close family and all pulling together, your Mum will be able to stay in the environment she knows and loves, and I'm sure that this will be a great help in her recovery. Take care, Love Mandy xxx

All my thoughts are with you,

God bless you all Susie, it wil be an uphill struggle but your mum and dad are worth it. My mum wanted to be at home and we managed, she only went into hospital for the last few days for treatment and pain relief. Just give both of them a hug from me and as much love as you can. Elaine Kay( Baglin clan).

Oh Susie, I just want to give you a cuddle too. You are lucky to have such a wonderful family - you will get through this together. Thinking about you all. Lots of love and hugs Jack xxx

Hi Susie, I am so sorry - my thoughts are with you and your family. (((((hugs))))) Jill xxxxx

Sad to hear the news about your mum Susie, but what the doctor told you is the worst case scenario - with such a loving family and her husband supporting her so well, I am sure your mum will come on in (tiny) leaps and bounds. She will do so much better in a familiar place with all she knows and loves around her, good tho the care is at nursing homes, so you just all feel positive and get those alterations sorted, and she will be back within the bosom of her family before long I am sure. it will be easier for her care with everything on the level. Will be thinking of you all and I am sure you will keep us posted of progress made. Liz

Susie, it is amazing what the love of family can accomplish, it will be a long haul but with all the love and support you have wonderful things can happen. Good luck and prayers. Deb

Susie, I'm thinking of you all, and having a little smile at your Mum with the crosswords, give her, and yourselves plenty of hugs and cuddles, and like you say, all pulling together, you will do the best for her. Thanks for keeping us updated, you take good care, Chris :)

Oh Susie, I was in tears with you but I think it is the right deciision to have your mum at home, she and your dad will be happier and it will be easier for you and your family too. Thinking of you June xx

Susie, as you know it will be hard at first but you'll get there. You're obviously a loving family and you'll all be there for each other. Keep on with that physio and who knows.... Thinking of you all.