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happy birthday Maz's Dad xx

Hi hun, just back from the cem myself, it would have been my dad's birthday today. He is in a lovely peaceful spot, the kids came and helped to clean the stone and we all had a chat to him and left some lovely daffs. Nearly 7 years now, I still think of him every day - especially when there is footie or cricket on as he was a fanatic! Don't expect too much from yourself, as everyone says you will have good and bad days, but it WILL get easier to cope. You have loads of friends on here plus your lovely Evie and Andy who will always listen and give you a hug. Maz. XX

Oh Pat that's a lovely idea!! Will give it a try when I am a bit stronger! xx

Diana No matter how many years go by you will miss him. The pain does get more bearable though. I 'coped' if that is the right word by getting a thick exersise book and writing down bit by bit everything I could remember Re what he said/did/ what stories/jokes he told where we all went etc. Started with my earliest memory up to when he died. It took months and I cried and cried at each memory I recalled but it did help and I now have a wonderful wriiten record. So if my memory every starts fading I can always read it. I know you have all these memories in your head and heart - like all of us_ but it was my way of coping. Love and hugs to you and please remember you have some wonderful caring friends on here. Pat

Diana, part of you thinks that you shouldnt feel this , but you will , illogical as that seems. there will be so many 'firsts' that he should be there and wont be, and you wont even feel them coming- his first birthday away, your first birthday, first time you go to X/Y/Z , pick up/touch/look at/think about even. my brother died 15 years ago, we took mum out for a birthday lunch yesterday- he should have been there! That feeling will always be with you, but believe me, it will just hurt less. jess

Yes or to hear his voice on the other end of the phone. I phoned my dads number yesterday, just in case .......... I got a message saying it was no longer available. Its an awful feeling, that wave that comes up from your feet right up to your head when you realise they have gone, but it will get less painful - really it will. He will be with you all the time - ask him a question and you will hear his reply. My heart goes out to you.

Thanks everyone! Its like a wave that has got out of control and I can't do anything about it! I have now done all I can for now regarding his estate and I think its finally hitting home that my beautiful Daddy is never coming back in the form that I knew him. Deep inside I know he is still there beside me and daft things remind me that he is. But I would give everything I have to have a cuddle!! xx

diana my heart goes out to you i lost my dad when i was just 14 and i found him dying that was over 52yrs and i still miss him and im aonly child ,but have the memories of him as im sure you do and remember he will always be there with and you can recall all the good times you had,lots of hugs joyce from holland

Diana I don't know what to say except of course you do, you had a wonderful relationship with him. With great love comes great loss, and the fact you miss him so much shows just how much you loved him. I hope that sounds right, i am sure you know what i mean. I have just lost two close relatives, one expected - the other a total shock, and i know how much it has upset me, so i can't begin to understand how much you miss your Daddy. A huge ((hug)) from Mal and I, a poor substitute i know, but we are thinking of you. Yvette

No, Diana, he isn't, but I know that logic will say one thing, and emotions another. I don't know how you will manage. Keep leaning on us. Here for you, Joy

Diana, One day at a time sweetheart.. Your dad will always be with you! Grayxxxx

Oh darling, I so know how you feel I miss my Mum sooo much and I know she's never coming back. It's so hard and no-one else understands. Dean has just seen me writing this and I don't know what he thinks but he's arguing with me. Tears are rolling down my cheeks and I would so love to have a hug from Mum. I can't so here's a hug for you (((((((((HUG))))))) Love you babe XXXXX

He will always be with you in your heart and in your memory Diana... (((((((((((special hugs))))))))))))))))))) Anne:)))

(((hugs))) for you.. Lou xxx

aww darling he will always be with you xxx((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))). Malc xx

Diana it is early days yet you can still shed some tears nobody minds just dont bottle up your grief let it out he is still with you in lots of ways and always will be believe me it does get better take care darling Howiexxxxxx

Diana..No Dad is never coming back hun,he is just left his mark in your heart....When Nan died in January (love of my life she was) i even rang her few times for a month hoping she my answer and it a bad dream.I still find it hard but easier now and gets easier as time goes, i still see her in pics and still talk but she in my heart and know she listening in a way..Hun.. You got good people here and real caring ones too...My heart is with you and if there is a after life i bet Nan is chatting with him and laughing at us..You take care and things will be sorted soon..I promise...Love and hugs.Jay.x.x

One day Diana you will remember him and smile, it wont hurt so badly .....you will still miss him but he will be there for you in a different way. Just now things are raw and new in the most painful way.....give in to these days and cry the tears you need to heal you. On the good days you can do more, expect more, but for a while these days will creep up on you. Be kind to yourself on the bad days, and don't ask too much from yourself, you wont have the energy . Take care XXXXXXX

Diana there are times when I wish my dad was here but he is gone in body not in spirit he will always be a round in my mind and in my heart with all the memories I have with him which are better than being sad think happy times with him that is what I do

Diana I know how you feel----it comes over you like a wave doesn't it?? I still want my Dad to cuddle me and say 'You are the best thing that happened to me'-----but you know he loved you and that's the main thing and I'm sure he is there around you!!!