General Chat

I love my maiden name and would revert to it in a flash if I was single, I think getting into family history makes it more so, Cazxxxxxxxxx

brothers OH name was hassell so is ours

I use my married name, have had it for 23 years, although divorced now. I don't want to get married to my OH of 12 years as he expects me to take his surname. Don't want to lose my identity. How daft is that. LOL Tina x

Don't like my married name at all, didn't like the first one either and although my maiden name's very ordinary it's still the one I think of as mine so yes, I wish I'd kept it. If I did it now though hubby would have a pink fit! Next time I get married I'll revert to my maiden name. Daisy

At last ! something some ladies dont want to take from us poor fellas - it's usually take, take, take and one time we try to give and some dont want it ! lol should be copyright on it anyway once the marriage ends

No I didn't keep my maiden name, it's not that common, but I prefer my married name. Heather x

When I got married 27 years ago I couldnt wait to get rid of my maiden name !! But........since I have been researching my tree I began to have a longing for the name I no longer had. I realised I was the last female (that I know of) with that surname. I made the decission to change my name by online deed poll. It only cost about £40. I didnt want to hyphenate it with my married surname so I simply inluded my maiden name as another middle name. All the best. Susan

I did keep my maiden name - no problem! Why should I change my name after 35 years!

My son lives in Luxembourg and is married to a local girl there. For some reason they always keep their maiden name throughout their life for any legal or banking business etc. She is known by my sons name. This is her second marriage, but she has always kept her maiden name. Lynda x

No - I wasn't keen on my maiden name - was teased at school - I like it now because it's unusual. I wasn't keen on my first husbands name either. Much prefer my surname now - it's not as unusual. I still have to spell my surname over the phone etc and have had to with all 3. Debby

If I regretted it, I'd change it back. I've got a friend who regularly changed back to her maiden name after her divorce, but is now so friendly with her ex that she's changed it back. But I think her married name goes better with her first name and is slightly more exotic (he's Spanish). nell

When I got married, it was almost considered normal to keep your married name. I have a little unconventional streak, so changed it. Well, I'd had the same surname for 30 odd years and fancied a change. My husband is 2 letters nearer the beginning of the alphabet too, so that was a bonus when people were riffling through files. I do retain my maiden name as an initial on my bank account, cards etc, but that's because my blinky first & surname now are sooo common (my sister in law has same names!) that I wanted to make a distinction. But now I've traced my ancestors, I could have chosen Emmets or Smoothy or Chowns or Eplett to really stand out. nell

I'm divorced but I dislike my maiden name so much I have kept my married one!! And no not because there are kids involved.... its just much nicer than mine was!! ;o)

Julia, well done you. This is just what I asked on the thread for the men - would they change their name to the females name?

Not all all sorry. Never really analised my feelings (or lack of) on it. I married. I belong with my hubby, we both share the same name. I couldn't imagine being 'Mr S and Ms B' instead of 'Mr and Mrs S' Claire xx

i took my husbands surname and feel as though i lost part of my identity when i changed my name! my friends all know me by my maiden name even the ones i met after i was married, i make sure that everyone who knows me, knows the name i was born with.

I wish I'd kept mine - I'm the last on our line. But it was thought of as a bit odd then. A few years later and it would have been OK. Gwynne

On reading the other posts I realise yes my name has gone on my branch, as only nephew hasn't got kids and prob won't have. Sunny R

was going to include my maiden name in childrens name but was persauded against it. both married and maiden name are silly

I did not change my name when I got married - hubby changed his to mine instead. This was a decision I made for myself years before I met and married my hubby. Julia