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I just removed things from my home that shouldn't be here.... as you all know I got divorced last year and I have just thrown out all my engagement and wedding cards from my memories box.... I have kept a couple of pictures from the wedding, but that's it!! I decided to stop letting the past affect my future.... So hopefully, I have paved the way for that someone special (whenever he chooses to arrive) who really deserves to be in my heart and let go of the one who doesn't! Here's to the pain stopping for all of us in 2007!

if you feeling good wanna come and do mine.. i still have everything from my first wedding :( even the stupid merainge (sp? dress i wore...... however i did get something wonderful fromthat marriage so have kept it all for her..... but am SUCH a horder i really need a life laundry round here :((((

It was the most painful thing I've done Shelli, so not recommending it..... just hoping its cathartic and yeah your daughter does deserve to have her history! xx

D - I was just about to say you should find it cathartic .... I kept stuff from my longest relationship for 12 years in total (that includes the years we were together) - but I just wasn't moving on. ((((HUGS)))) to ya hun xxxx

Yes i wanted her to know despite all the problems since, she was wanted etc.......but she don't really need her baby clothes does she? and yes i do still have them, despite the fact she's 14. In fact have bags and bags of kids clothes.... just can't seem to get rid of them..... so well done you for parting with your stuff.......... onwards and upwards xxxxxx

Well Done,Letting go is the hardest thing in the world but until you do you have 'no life'--now you are on the road to recovery and life you will find just gets better and better--I know--Good Luck Diana x P.S. Whats cathartic?

Dave glad you asked LOL so do you really think a good clear out may help shake this feeling of gloom thats hanging over me???

Dave 'catharsis' noun - relief of strong suppressed emotions......... Or in my words - cleansing :O))

Good for you Pink, what an achievement ! Lets hope you find the right one in 2007. Shelli, I hoarded the kids things and decided to buy a big see-through crate with a lid for each of them and put selected toys, clothes, shoes, school books, cards etc relating to each of them in.They then got to choose a few personal things they wanted and we got rid of everything else. This way they have all their bits from baby-hood onwards and they know exactly where they are (stored in the loft with their names on) When they are ready to leave home permanently they will have their crate of memories to take with them. Viv

Hi Shelli, A clear out can't help with a feeling of gloom but morning mist on a meadow,frost on a spiders web,a beautiful sunset,the secret smile on your daughters face as she sleeps.......they can! Cheer up....OR ELSE !!!! Dave x

Viv i could never choose thats why I've stil got it all and i mean all!!! Dave i'll try but kids on school hols now :((((( hate winter hols most as I can't get out to tire them out!!!!

Diana 2007 is going to be your year I feel it in my water!!! Sunny R

Wait until they are a bit older Shelli and sit down with them and let them help you decide. My kids were all for slinging everything which is why I put in their first babygrow, pair of shoes, a really nice dress/romper suit, first toy, etc. When they saw what I had done they then wanted to add things that gave them special memories. Bryony often asks me to put special mementoes in her crate and Nic and Josh know their stuff is there for them when they want it. Viv

Dave, you old romantic!!! Or have you been reading poetry again???

Helen, Am finding one finger typing difficult enough without trying to READ poetry-not a romantic but will admit to being a big softie ! but don't tell the lads ! x

I think there comes a time when you know its right to let go and move on. Its not easy cos the past is part of you,but, the future is also part of your path, Cant be easy letting go, but you need to move on Shirley

Diana, Well done...New Year, new start. All the best for 2007 and I hope all that you wish for comes true. ps. I have 43 years worth of 'stuff ' that I need to clear out will you come and stay for a few weeks and help sort it? All offers gratefully accepted:>)) Beryl x

Shelli, Forgot to add that I kept a couple of items from each of them as memories to put in my box. Our memories are important too. Viv

Daughter just threw out 20 year old feather quilt from her first marriage, used daily, even though she has been happily remarried for 13 years. She just couldn't believe she had kept it so long.!!!! Sunny R

Well done Diana, I am sure you will move forward next year in leaps and bounds. I am the world's worst hoarder, mine has become an ocd, so well done to all of you who have managed to get rid of things and I love the idea of the memory boxes. Liz