General Chat

Well done to your son, for doing so well and with problems to overcome too, no wonder you are proud. Of course you will be stressed and worried about him leaving home but I am sure he will be fine, and will make new friends and have new experiences to deal with. He will know he can call you and get support as well as get help at uni. All best wishes to him

Lizx

Well done to your son, Jan.

He has done very well indeed
xxx

Right, just letting off steam.
Off he went last Weds. He is fine, settling in. The student support people have been really good.
And I am in a right old state - you would think I had been bereaved! On the brink of tears most of the time, wandering around like a lost soul.
No pleasing some people is there!
jan :-\

Poor Jan, early empty nest syndrome. He will return, with his washing.

Jan, it must be difficult for you> I know it is difficult in all sorts of ways,
eg shopping - remembering to buy less and not to get all those special things that your son likes.

Not having to call him in the mornings.

Keeping little bits of news till you speak to him on the phone.

Even missing all the little things that he did that annoyed you (eg leaving toilet seat up and not putting the top back on the toothpaste).

You will have to get yourself a new set of routines, I am sure that you will soon be into the swing of the new ways.

Don't forget, he will be home soon. Then you wil be able to spoil him even more than you usually did.

Meantime, use your extra free time to treat yourself. to anything you fancy.


Take care,
Tess

Thanks Ann & Tess. I know I am being very boring, and just have a bad dose of empty-nest syndrome, but there you are.
I have been on the parentline forum and i know I am not alone, there are people even worse than me! I had no idea how it would feel quite this bad, I mean most of the time for the last year he was out or in his room so we didn't see him all that much. But he lived here!
Jan :-(

Awww, Jan

Mine left for Uni on Sunday, I know how you are feeling.

Im sure our boys will be fine, they will have lots of fun, in between the course work!


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Of course they will Gins. And I am happy for him, of course, just miss him.
Off to cry in my soup.
Jan

so ......................



that means that you have NOT emptied his room, redecorated it, and re-furnished????


:-D :-D :-D :-D



he'll be home ................ with a huge load of dirty washing, and with a huge appetite


he'll phone ............... especially when he runs out of money



until then, enjoy the peace and quiet, and start doing the things YOU want to do.


It's the natural progression of life ....... you've raised him to be self-sufficient, to overcome major problems, and now it's time for him to learn how to live on his own.

This is the next step in life, for him and for you.




Been there, done that ............. but mine moved over 5,000 km away, although still in the same country.