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Why do people get so angry on here (was my question),when we can all take it with a pinch of salt?

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I have apologised for deleting ,I was a bit hasty.

Think it's because people can say things on here they wouldn't say to your face.

Hi Helen,

Are you ok?

I didnt see the thread, can you pm me?

Caz xx

Helen

are you refering to reaction on Chat to the wind up thread that a lot of us didn't realise was a wind up, and who proceeded to try and help in what we thought was a genuine crisis ???


if you are then i must just say - i was *not* angry ............ that is far too strong an expression

i was however *annoyed* at what ensued - and quite rightly so i believe

i attempted to help in good faith and i was not the only one to believe it a genuine situation

but then i had to endure mass ridicule because i had not been enlightened by the originator after the 1st of my 6 posts on the thread, that it was a wind up

i hope that helps you understand it from my point :O)

I should think people get angry on here for the same reasons they would in real life........

Anger is a normal human condition.......no less wrong than feeling sadness, happiness or whatever.xx

Angie

Just my thoughts, personally i just come on for a laugh NOT to get in a row with anybody.

mcanne i agree with your post 100% as i was another mocked for trying to help what i thought was a real situation

what annoyed me was all those mockign nvr added to the original thread saying haha nice one good joke
soon crawled out to mock tho but hey ho
live n learn

i think helen its when it gets personal or your made a fool of for tryin to help
puts you off some what!
luv
stray
xxx

Can I just say that one of the main problems is that we don't get any non verbal signals through this medium and that it happens to all these types of site.
For me nothing winds me up but sometimes I thing I need to provide additional information so that peeps can think something from a slightly different perspective.
Angela

Helen -- feel free to add to my post about Paris on the Chat board. ;)

Posted in solidarity.

Oops, I may have misunderstood here.

McAnne, you may be the one needing the solidarity!

Thank you Stray :O)

yw hun xxx

Mc Anne ,yes I think we are talking the same thing!
At first I was a bit concerned but then I realised it was a joke.Then I thought this is just the computer!!!!!!Nothing I could do anyway.
I don't get cross on here as it does no good!

The problem with the written word is there is rarely any indication of the underlying emotion.

Just think of any sentence and try saying it aloud in several different ways. You can alter entire meanings sometimes by the tone of voice and you can express a lot of your personality.

One example I can think of is my grandmother who was very opinionated (even on subjects about which she knew little). She'd look at my mother doing something and say "Oh you do it like that do you?" with a tone of voice which meant she wouldn't dream of doing it in that way.

On the Internet and in the confines of forums and chat rooms we have little space or time to really talk. We often use shorthand methods of expressing ourselves and the simple written words can be accidentally interpreted very wrongly.

There are also unfortunately on some sites people who enjoy a kind of power they get from stirring things up. Many of us may have been in chatrooms where an individual thinks he or she can rule the roost and uses sarcasm to intimidate others.

We also need to remember that many of us use one form of Instant Messaging or another and there could be messages going back and forth of which we have no knowledge.

I was in a chatroom a few years back and it turned out that a rather unpleasant member was sending nasty messages about others secretly. This became obvious when she got careless and accidentally sent something unkind about someone to the victim instead of her buddie as intended.

Some people are what are known as Internet Trolls and look for every opportunity to cause strife.

Sue

pmsl Sue..........I once saw that happen on here !!! xx

i saw the thread just before it got deleted, so had all the mixed emotions from, omg hope ok to thats ok its just a joke....

thing is with posts like that, we did have a genuine medical emergancy on here earlly part of this year, a dear member started to have heart palputations and everyone waited on the thread to make sure the ambulance arrived and we all found out next day everything was ok.

so you see when threads go up as a windup and then mock others which help, unless your privy or psychic to non emergencies, how you supposed to know. it could stop genuine help.. :(

its taken me ages to write this out hope it makes sense ... lol

take care kaz xxx

Sue ,I agree.People interpret things in different ways.You never hear the tone of a persons voice on here,so sometimes it is difficult to distinguish the way things are intended.

Well Helen

as i said - i was not *angry*

but i took the crisis at face value as did many others ...................

the next time it could be for real and no one will bother to help and that would be a real shame i think