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Turning out old things that have to be got rid of (car boot) .I have stuff from In laws ,My Aunty and my Mum and Dad.It is so difficult to decide the few things to keep and get rid of the rest .Everything has been in boxes for the last umpteen years and will never see the light of day in my house.But I find it so upsetting to do it.I know I just have to grit my teeth and be ruthless.
It's just hard letting go

Maybe today is not the right day?Have you got a friend who'd help,even if they just chat to you while your sorting things?

(((((((((((hug))))))))) awwwww Helen you can still keep them till your ready...

carla,
Have waited 3years to do it!!.It's just something that has to be done now as it's taking up too much space here.I just had a weak moment,I'll be fine .It just gets to you.

Hi Helen,

really feel for you its a hard task,still got some of moms cant throw them wouldnt mind but her false teeth are among them, 28 years august i still cant throw them out
hope you can find the strengthxx

Hayley ,i am ready ,just something that has to be done

gawd joan false teeth!!!
Yes I have the strength it really isn't too bad.I have just kept back the things that mean the most to me.

I know-just take your time.Ice's idea is brilliant.All the best. :)

I I Baby,I think I have picked out the right things to keep now.trouble is there is so much stuff, and it was all important to them at some point.But I have to put my practical head on and deal with it.

I have loads of my Mum's "treasures" here............mostly boxed up.

Different situation to yours as Mum is in a home with Alzheimers, with no memory of anything in the last few decades.......................but I can't ever imagine getting rid of any of it.

I think I will pass things down to the grandchildren and great grandchildren and hope one day they will pass them down with a story about the wonderful lady who dusted each item so lovingly every single day:)

can any of you advise me when is the "right time" to let go of my girls clothes?
I feel it should have been months ago, but her brothers think diffeent, or at the least they are coming up with excuses not to take the to a charity shop?

P.S I already have a memory box.
xxxxxx

Taff..................I would say when all of you feel it is time.

I feel for you (((hug)))

When everyones happy that the time is right,the grieving process varies so much it is basically all down to 'time'.Maybe they'd compromise & let some things go?

kitty ,my mum had dementia and was in a home.
my children are not really interested in mum's things except for what they can remember as things that their grandma had for them eg.the pots that she put their pocket money in and presents that they gave her.
I don't think kids these days have the same feeling of the past like we do.

Oh Helen, so feel for you hun. A memory box is such a wonderful idea. How about using your camera to take pics of things you might not be able to keep;, you could put those in your memory box too.

(((((hugs)))) hun

xxx

My children and my grandchildren all spent a lot of time at my parents home and have memories of the things I have.

Maybe one day I will part with them, but who knows.

Memory box is a good idea but I dont think it for me.
I think I will just keep all my memories in my mind and they will come to me when I call them up.That's just me ,maybe boxes are a good idea for others.
i still have plenty of things around me to remind me of my parents and others.the best one is of my Dad with a great big smile just before he was diagnosed with motor neurone disease and then he lost the ability to smile.That is a precious photo.

i always feel so grateful to Mum and dad as they adopted me,and I know if they hadn't i would have ended up in care as the rest of my siblings did .

OH things maybe good idea to do memory box.
What kind of things would you put in?