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My daughters friend's sister, her other half was diagonsed with cancer in the groin of his leg, he had been to the doctors 3 times and they said.........oh not to worry it will pass........ weeks later they send him for a scan and was diagonosed with a very rapid cancer in his glands, it's progessed to his spine and pelvis, he brought the wedding forward to febuary this year and he married his childhood sweetheart as they have a 3 year old sweet little girl, they applied to the council for a move as they were in a top one bedroom flat, he could'nt make the stairs so they gave him, his wife and child, a bungalow, he has had the chemo and the raduim treatment, they have sent him home from hospital, as they have said there is nothing more they can do for him, they have told his wife he won't last the week, she has informed the council that her husband is coming home to die, and the response the council gave her was a soon as he passes away you have 48hrs to move out of the bungalow, as we need it to house someone else, it sickens me that the council could be so cruel after hearing her husband is at deaths door, she has this over head that she must find somewhere for her and her baby to live, my heart goes out to them, for her to be a widow at the age of 23 and he is only 27, how can life be so cruel.

wendy xx

Oh Wendy,Thats awful!!
The poor girl has enough to worry about without this added worry.
Can someone go to the council office for her and try and get them to see reason.
I know she will need to move eventually,but Im sure they would give her some breathing space.
I do hope it can be sorted.

i thought councils had to give 4 weeks notice respectavley, tell her to stay put poor girl has enough to deal with.
where i live they cant give bungalows away x

she is exhasted roxanne, she is having to care for him at home, she doesnt know where to turn too, poor soul, i have told her that she will have to eventaully move, but with the state she is in its not sinking in, I will inform her mother to go on her behalf, surely they would give her time, its so sad.

Wendy, I'm sure the Press would love to hear this story .....................
Lots of Good Luck, and (((HUGS))) to all involved. Sometimes Life just isn't fair.
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well i thought that ladylol 4 weeks note, but the council say that they are in high demand, and people are on lists ready to move in to the bungalows, they say they are like gold dust here.

Hi Wendy,Moving will be the last thing on her mind .
It was probably some jumped up clerk at the council she spoke to,they can be like little hitlers sometimes.
get someone to speak to a person in authority a supervisor or better still a manager.
If this does not work write to your local paper.

Snap Glenys;-))

I agree with Glenys re the press. In the first instance though contact their MP via email.

Good luck

Sue x

Oops, yes, forgot the MP bit! That's what I usually say, lol.
Thank you ladies, for agreeing with me. Wendy, I sincerely hope that council do something to put things right - quick!
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that's absoultely awful-if this poor woman hasn't got enough to deal with-I am fuming give me the council number and I'll ring em for her.
This has really upset me- how can people be so insensitive and cruel yet we give any jonny from where ever a house and pay him benefits.

I am gobsmacked at this
catherine
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I'd get onto gmtv they love stories like this-name and shame the council
c
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I do glenys, the poor girl has been travelin back and forth to the hospital the last few months, staying with him for most of the day then having to travel back home 30 miles each way to look after her baby, plus she had to move the contents of her flat to the bungalow on her own she has only moved in 4 weeks ago, thankyou ladies for you kind words and advice i will let her mom know. my heart aches with the sheer saddness of it all.

Catherine, i agree with you there, down my way, if you have a drug habit, they put you on a methodone program, £250 a week in benefits, they put you in a flat, and kit it out for you and housing,and council tax benefit, which people chose to selflict this, harm to themselves, and then you have this poor couple who can't get sod all, where is the sense in that, ooo it maddens me.

DONT MOVE ..............

She has tenantes rights ...dont move out she will lose them ...they need to evict her or she will be left to find her own home and sort out other things ,......

Get her to speak to her McMillian nurse about the situation and her HEATH VISITOR coz of the child ...they will help ......

no wonder Gordon Brown did bad in the local elections-people are starting to get hacked off with it Wendy-I do hope your friend gets sorted out, this must be a living nightmare for her and I can't imagine what she must be going through. Please let us know of any updates and if I can do out to help, not that I'm sure of what, but I would like a shot.
catherine
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I agree with Kemp.STAY PUT.
Surely Its up to the council to rehouse her.Theres no way they should be allowed to say that to her.
Poor girl,I feel so sorry for the family.Im fuming,and I dont have to put into words why..
Kay

Wendy ...she must have a sucured tenants agreement she can only be evicted in certain case ...ie not paying rent ....dealing drugs !!! ect ...

She must NOT move coz they will then say they housed "them" coz of his condition ...she must stand strong ....

Google secured council tenants ....good stuff there ...

I had this when my hubby lived with me ...he was diabetic ...he left they tried to get me out .....My solicitor ...doing my divorce at the time ....said STAY PUT

your right Dizzy
stuff the council-your OH is more important and the time you have left together
c
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catherine, kemp, kay and all you lovely people on this wonderful site, I am more determined to make her stay put until at least she is in the right mind to do so, that what the council is saying they housed them because of his condition, and because he has very little time they will allocate the bungalow out to someone else when he passes away well it makes me wonder why we vote, i will never vote again not if they do this to this poor woman.