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Was invited last month to OH's Aunty's annual company dinner, got the invite and saw I had to pay £18. My OH's cousins partner was also invited and she didn't pay-She told me a week before the doo that she wasn't happy I have had to pay as I'm family, and that they would be giving me the cheque back the night of the doo-

The doo arrived and nothing was said and no chq given-so I just assumed they were a bit embarrased about it and just decided to rip the cheque up-I wrote it on the 13/3. the doo was the 28th.

I looked online at my bank yesterday and the chq was cashed-
The only thing that is getting my back up is my OH is doing some work for them-for free as they are family-Do you think they should have shown me the same curtesy and do you think I have every right to be annoyed?

catherine
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I would be very miffed. Well you know what to do the next time they want work done. give em a quote and dont do it for free.

thanks Shirley-I wouldn't mind but the work OH is doing would cost about £200 to anyone else.
I am very upset
c
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Hi Catherine, yes, I think it was a bit mean especially with your OH doing work for free for them at the moment.

I think I would be tempted to send them an itemised bill of the work he is doing... and be sure to let them know on that bill that the work cost x amount, but no payment required as they are family... if they don't feel their conscience prickling and re-imburse your money for the do.. well, don't do anything again for them as a favour.lol

Love

Daff xxx

Theres nowt so queer as families hun is there?


I'd be miffed too!!


Caz xxx

ooo errrr... what has happened to me name? I've lost stuff!!

Love

Daff xxx

I wondered what it was-lol
thanks daff and caz
c
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lol Catherine... something must have happened when I altered my first name on my account a couple of days ago.. still not right, but looks ok!

Actually, I have revised my advice, lol

I think I would send them a a bill, showing them what discounts they have received as family... and make certain that the costs of £18.00 admin are payable.

The more I think about it, the cheekier it seems!

Love

Daff xxx

I would be upset Catherine, and next year I wouldn't go if I were asked, but thats me cutting my nose off to spite my face, lol. shirley.x

Well I would be miffed too and would have to let them know.
Love Mary xx

Olly is livid-he said he's tempted to send em an invoice for £18-lol
c
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give em a bll for parts used and say as your family Im not charging for labour !

If you invited next year to the do ,say" no thanks as its going to cost me"

catherine i would be appalled and i would now send them a bill for the work olly is doing, if thats the way they want to play xxx hope ya is ok sis xx

I would be annoyed, but do you think they have forgotten?

I would be tempted to itemise the cost of the job Olly i doing and say something like, just so you can see how much it cost but of course as you are family we wont be charging.

Ann
Glos

yikes i know im not the most diplomatic but id bee on the phone id have to sort it as it would niggle me all day xx

I'd be upset too sweets

Get Olly to send them an invoice for £18 - that should prove the point!

;O)

Hi Catherine ,
i would be annoyed as well
that is not on ,
but as Puss says i would send them
a bill for OHs work .
i think they've got a blooming cheek .
Hazelx

Hi, Catherine - yes I'd be annoyed too but (I know I'm not going to be popular for this) - give them the benefit of the doubt, let it go, it's not worth a row BUT if your OH is asked to do a job for them in future I'd do what someone else said & give them a written quote/estimate and don't let them have it done for free again.

((hugs))

Ails x

thanks everyone-
What with the easter basket at the school the other month now this-----

Aunty knew I was paying as I had a conversation with her prior to me writing the chq out-

They asked OH to do the work then must have banked my chq after-cos I gave a chq in to them on the 13/3 it don't take till yesterday to clear...

I had a word with OH's cousin who I'm really close to, and she said send em a bill for £18-lol

catherine
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Catherine,You have every right to feel miffed.I had a similar situation some years ago with my Mother.I paid up,however I sent in a Bill for work done at full rate. with a warning,If this is not paid within One Month of date on The Bill,10% will be added for late Payment. **M**.