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thing is none of my family ever ask,this 1 woman in particular is so nosey and get 20 questions about it,e.g do you talk about kids does hubby want em etc etc
i say bog off lol

mac
you and my hubby, my hubby had his head down the sink at mam and dads when i thats I had morning sickness
wen i brought our daughter home 9months later he laid in bed feelin faint and my mam was there hushing him and soothing his brow saying its all such a big event for you love

ang on i shouted im the one with the stitches

You know, people were always asking my mum when she was going to have children from the time she got married at 25. As it happens, she can't have kids so ten years later she and Dad adopted me and then later my sister, but people are so nosy.

And I have an aunty who has been asking me if I have got a boyfriend yet since I was 15! One of these days I'm going to tell her I just have a bad habit of fancying people who don't fancy me so would she mind not rubbing it in, please?

Funny thing is, on the flip side, there were raised eyebrows thirty-four years ago when my dad's sister in law gave birth to her fourth baby, five years and twelve days after the eldest! Apparently there was a lot of whispering amongst the family about that.

I feel exactly the same. I started my current job in April last year and because my hubby already worked at this place, the assumption was it wouldnt be long before I would be pregnant....erm no! For the last 12 months, I have had nothing but When are you having children then, your nearly 30 now.

I had a couple of days off sick last November with stomach cramps......I came back to about 10 people asking when it was due!! I have been to the doctors today....came back to pick up hubby....one person asked me if I had been for a pregnancy test.

I do want children but I keep telling people that not for another few years until I have paid off some debt.

Claire x

LOL My cousin has had this since he got married in 2001. This new year when they announced they were expecting one of the replies they got was 'are you sure?' LOL

love Theresa

I only have one daughter and she had her son at 16 . One of my aunts said "That`s the 2nd child you never had" I did have 1 miscarriage but thought my aunt was way out of order,. Just cos she had 4 girls and no problems
Ros

some folk are so nosey.

You have a baby when you want one, if you want one. it is nothing to do with anyone else as they are not going to be the one looking after and providing for the baby.

Miss Manners has alternative responses:


1. Smile sweetly and say "How kind of you to take an interest". No more.

2. Look pleasant (or cold, your choice) but puzzled, and say: "Why do you ask?"


It must be awful to want children and not have been able to have them, and get this from strangers. The question is rude to start with, unless it's from someone with a genuine reason to be interested in *you* who knows the interest is welcome. It's just cruel when it's put to someone in that situation; and how would a casual acquaintance know otherwise?

My daughter and OH had three children through IVF after trying to have a baby for years. The hurt caused by people asking and the assumption that she was too interested in her career and earning money was immense. She was always polite but one day it got too much so she went into full detail of all the procedures she had had to find out why she wasn't falling pregnant. It shut this person up and nothing was said again. We thank God for our beautiful grandchildren but anyone who does not have children by choice should be left alone. No-one's business but their own.
Sue xx

I was told I would have a spoilt child as I only had 1, the fact that I lost one at five and half months didnt seen to worry some folk, then when I had another one 10 years later I was told aren't you silly, your daughter has just become independent, now your back to square one

Cant win

Tell her that you beleive in


Practise makes Perfect


Jan x