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I was told I would have a spoilt child as I only had 1, the fact that I lost one at five and half months didnt seen to worry some folk, then when I had another one 10 years later I was told aren't you silly, your daughter has just become independent, now your back to square one

Cant win

Tell her that you beleive in


Practise makes Perfect


Jan x

My daughter and OH had three children through IVF after trying to have a baby for years. The hurt caused by people asking and the assumption that she was too interested in her career and earning money was immense. She was always polite but one day it got too much so she went into full detail of all the procedures she had had to find out why she wasn't falling pregnant. It shut this person up and nothing was said again. We thank God for our beautiful grandchildren but anyone who does not have children by choice should be left alone. No-one's business but their own.
Sue xx

Miss Manners has alternative responses:


1. Smile sweetly and say "How kind of you to take an interest". No more.

2. Look pleasant (or cold, your choice) but puzzled, and say: "Why do you ask?"


It must be awful to want children and not have been able to have them, and get this from strangers. The question is rude to start with, unless it's from someone with a genuine reason to be interested in *you* who knows the interest is welcome. It's just cruel when it's put to someone in that situation; and how would a casual acquaintance know otherwise?

You have a baby when you want one, if you want one. it is nothing to do with anyone else as they are not going to be the one looking after and providing for the baby.

some folk are so nosey.

I only have one daughter and she had her son at 16 . One of my aunts said "That`s the 2nd child you never had" I did have 1 miscarriage but thought my aunt was way out of order,. Just cos she had 4 girls and no problems
Ros

LOL My cousin has had this since he got married in 2001. This new year when they announced they were expecting one of the replies they got was 'are you sure?' LOL

love Theresa

I feel exactly the same. I started my current job in April last year and because my hubby already worked at this place, the assumption was it wouldnt be long before I would be pregnant....erm no! For the last 12 months, I have had nothing but When are you having children then, your nearly 30 now.

I had a couple of days off sick last November with stomach cramps......I came back to about 10 people asking when it was due!! I have been to the doctors today....came back to pick up hubby....one person asked me if I had been for a pregnancy test.

I do want children but I keep telling people that not for another few years until I have paid off some debt.

Claire x

You know, people were always asking my mum when she was going to have children from the time she got married at 25. As it happens, she can't have kids so ten years later she and Dad adopted me and then later my sister, but people are so nosy.

And I have an aunty who has been asking me if I have got a boyfriend yet since I was 15! One of these days I'm going to tell her I just have a bad habit of fancying people who don't fancy me so would she mind not rubbing it in, please?

Funny thing is, on the flip side, there were raised eyebrows thirty-four years ago when my dad's sister in law gave birth to her fourth baby, five years and twelve days after the eldest! Apparently there was a lot of whispering amongst the family about that.

mac
you and my hubby, my hubby had his head down the sink at mam and dads when i thats I had morning sickness
wen i brought our daughter home 9months later he laid in bed feelin faint and my mam was there hushing him and soothing his brow saying its all such a big event for you love

ang on i shouted im the one with the stitches

thing is none of my family ever ask,this 1 woman in particular is so nosey and get 20 questions about it,e.g do you talk about kids does hubby want em etc etc
i say bog off lol

Mac ,,ha ha,,you wally,,,,,,,,

did you really suffer love,;)))

I must have been lucky because I've never been asked/questioned/nagged about the children issue - good job really because my reply wouldn't be very polite!

Sheila (child-free and happy)

Me neither Anne.
Lizxx

Tell them you are waiting til they have a specail offer on them at supermarket,!!!!!,

,,their answer would be from me,

NOYBB,,,,,,,,,,and I'm still in practice.........:))

you get that all time being a women

either when yoou aving them

or when are you having your next then

or when you are they say oh thought youd have had more by now

never please anyone, and why are thye so bored they need to know your sex life anyway

lmao

Hi Janine,

It is a rude question I think. Its ok to say ' have you got children' but not to ask when you will have them and if!!


Caz xx

Liz .................. i get exactly the same lol

Don't know how they think they know cos i don't wear any rings.

your choice nobody elses. tell them to butt out and mind there own business and let you get on with yours

Joan G

I get jarred off by always being called Mrs when I have never ever made anything legal lol When my son was small I was always correcting people who would call me Mrs W or start to fill in anything with Mrs. Have been Ms since my mid twenties and won't answer to anything else.
Lizx