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Our next door neighbours have their son still at home. He is about 37 and single. He has a fairly new car which he bought when he passed his test about 3 years ago.

Every morning mum gives him a lift to the train station about a mile away or a 15 minute walk.

Every evening mum drives son's car to the station car park and leaves it for him to drive home about an hour later (only 1 hour of parking to be paid for or even use the short stay!). This car is followed by dad who then drives mum home.

Why don't they wait for nearer the time his trian comes in an just go and pick him up? It would save on fuel at least.

Jacky :-)

Well let's put it this way...

No wonder he's still at home at 37....he probably doesn't know how to be independent.

... and no wonder he's still single! I know I couldn't date a guy who was mollycoddled to that degree, of that age!

Athena

OMG I've heard it all now, I don't even run about after my 10 year old like that, I make him walk.
He will never leave home and I thought that as parents we were to prepare our children for living in the world independently, bad parenting this.

Karen x

lol she probley wipes his b.m as well
Hazelx

Without a doubt she will run his bath for him....

This reminds me of the series 'Sorry' with Ronnie Corbett. LOL

Do you think he is Potty trained?

Can just imagine Mum wiping his botty.

The mind boggles.

Hi Jacky,
Is he disabled in any way, may be he cant walk far without discomfort.
if not lazy comes to mind,or parents cant cut the apron strings.
what a waste of money when he could walk.
iwould love to walk for 15 minutes a day.

Joan G

lol he'll have a h*** of a shock one day!

My sister's son is 42 this year, still lives at home, pays nothing for his keep and she does all his washing, ironing and even buys his clothes. He doesn't know how to use the washing machine and is unable to cook a meal. He is single!!!! He earns good money as an HGV driver - she paid for the course - he is thousands of pounds in debt because he buys rubbish.

Daughter is 39, married, two children, works as a full time teacher in a comprehensive school. Husband is a refrigeration engineer. My sister cleans her house from top to bottom once a week, my brother in law does the gardening and the decorating. Sister does all the washing and ironing for them. The grandchildren are dropped off at my sister's every morning and she takes them to school. She picks them up at end of school, gives them their tea and often bathes them and puts them ready for bed - Mum and Dad collect them after work.

My sister sees nothing wrong in this at all - no wonder we no longer speak

Hi all,

He is not disabled in any way and has walked home from the town centre (near to the train station) on days when he goes shopping.

Apparently he is talking of buying his own place but I bet it will be near the station!

Or next door?

If he makes a good enough offer :-)))

In the long run they are absolutely NOT doing him any favours. As mentioned previously he will not be able to cope when he is left without them. I
think the main thing about having children is to prepare them for an independent life.
Perhaps it is the parents being selfish because they do not want their son to leave them, therefore they molly coddle him.
Not saying this is so in all cases.
Sue

great!!! I was on the phone to my sister one time when her son was just leaving the house - she called out after him "You lunch is behind the door and did you remember to clean your teeth" He was forty at the time!! She is a control freak, won't cut the apron strings ever and they are happy with the situation

Somehow i cant see him getting a wife who would tolerate him, imagine marrying a bloke whose lived with his Mum for that long lol!!


Caz xx

oh my goodness

i know i do anything for my son and daughter
(gotta get son in min from work,)
but why dont she wait till his train gets in and then pick him up,
avent he got a mobile

I`ve got a friend who does her sons bed linen -washes it- as they won`t put it out in their back gardens in case it gets stolen . one is 32 , other 42 , both live in their own flats!!!
Ros xx

Sue this is the whole point.

Parents today have to help their children, of any age.
I heard a couple on the radio this morning, aged parents who live in America.
They said that there is no money, and they have to help their children now.
It is all over.
Some people just don't realise just how hard times are.
The picking hi up and taking him to work... that is a bit puzzling... but then I know nothing about them.

Goodnight my friends, see you in the morning.
Deanna X

And I thought mine was bad. Just got off the phone telling him to do things for himself he laughed and said that is what Mums are for.( had to phone to make arragements for him to get some thing)
He was 30 when he eventually left home. Mind you had taken him 5 years to get back on his feet after being taken for a ride by an older woman.
Now he has his own house does his own washing cleaning and cooking and apart from going messages for him I can't really complain his answer is I am at work can't do it myself.
After reading about that lad I will count myself lucky.
Germaine
x
Oh his excuse for not phoning himself was he was busy and covered in thinners and of course he had to have a bath before he football started so it is you do it mum.