General Chat

Show your tree to someone who has 6 people on their tree, with a name you do not recognise?

In that case think not

no- does the 6 people match yours loux

They dont seem to match each other !!!!!

I don't show my tree to anyone unless they can prove they have a match. xxx

no ?i only do it if they match up no point really if they dont match your tree loux

ooops just had another request !!! NO NO NO !!

yes because its all about helping each other and even if they are your ancestors it doesn't give anyone the right of ownership

what!! why there other ways of helping and its up to the person on the tree and if they dont match whats the point in opening the tree loux

Yes I'll help anyone if they tell me what they're looking for, but repeatedly sending me their tree with no message is odd.My last tree stalker must have sent me 20 blank messages, when I sent him to my full tree on another site he flounced off !

yes i agree with you lindsey i always help others i keep there thread and when i get more information a pass on if i can loux

Well Ive written back saying to put details on the board for all to see, best I can do today !

yes thats gud then if they need help they can get it from there loux

I'd ask in what way they think they're related to you. Then its a matter of personal choice. I know Genes is about sharing, and we practically all do that, but in this day of identity fraud (and I really hate to say it, but potential abusers/stalkers) I think we have to be a bit careful/sensible.

i dont show my tree unless i know they have some of the people in mine but i do say to them if they give me names they are looking for i will find them and help that way

Lindsey are you sure that this isn't someone that you've been helping over on Records sending you their tree?

It sounds like a confused/new member making a mistake somewhere.

xx

my tree on here is small, the rest is in emails and on paper, and if i find someone related i pass all that info on to them, so opening my tree wont get them much help on here.... but at least i know genuine rellies asking are getting the right info from me.....
hope that makes sense....
kaz xxxx

I always ask people how they think we have a connection first.

If their relationship is really rather remote then I think that they will be helped more if I only send them details of relevant people.

The only people I share my tree with are those who'd share a lot of ancestors with me and who might find it helpful to see the tree.

I always think that if only a small branch or even a little twig is all we have in common then expecting anyone to browse around on my tree is going to be confusing anyway and it is simpler just to tell them about the connection in a message.

Not that it worries me too much because no-one living is named on my tree and I don't add my sibling or my cousins, let alone any of their children.

Sue

Waves to sue ~~~~~

I won't open my tree to anyone...but I will pass any info I think relevent to them...regards of if I paid for the certs...