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That is it Spud, you have to make out where the money CAN GO....
We decided the drink, but it was a smallish wedding and none of us was a big drinker.
My little on (pageboy) was very upset because he kept asking the bar man for a rum and coke, like auntie Ina had.... and he kept giving him a coke!!
If he had put it in the same type of glass as auntie Ina had.... he would have been content. ;-0)

It was a nice though.

Deanna X

Gosh now your making me feel so tight!!

I am not having a coach to ferry people about.

All invited to wedding breakfast have drinks with meal and drinks to toast with.

Evening guests all have a free drink on arrival and we have an evening buffet for them.

But I cant afford a totally free bar at hotel rates for up to 100 people!

One person I know, had a little list printed out and it was in with the invite, It had taxi number's, Hotel's, and directions etc.

Depends where they are all coming from,some might want to stay in the hotel.

You could alway's find out who would be wanting transport and get a price per person. Money to be paid upfront.

You dont have to though, you have enough to fork out,so they should not expect it for free.

Marion

I've been invited to a wedding of a colleague and she has included in the invite a list of hotels where we can stay over as the wedding is 100 miles away. She also asked everyone at work whether they would like to use a coach if they were going to evening do only straight from work. She would arrange the coach but we would each pay towards it and it would be cheaper than going in separate cars.
I wouldn't expect her family to pay for it.
Di

I think they only really need to make arrangements for themselves and their bridesmaids in order to get to the venue. When it comes to leaving, even the bridesmaids are usually on their own. Especially if she's having it in a hotel like you've been looking at.

Oh I don't think that it is imperative that anyone has a free bar, a coach or puts guests up over night.
We can only do what we feel we can do.
We did the bar, because it was a small wedding and it was a family affair.

It still broke us, and we ate potatoes from the allotment and bread for the week or two that they spent in PARIS ... we having paid for the wedding!! ;-0(

You all have to do what you all CAN do, then enjoy what you have provided.

Do not worry, just enjoy the wedding.
Deanna X

On two of our childrens weddings we had minibuses to transport people.......but that was because the venues were a distance away, and OH and I would have had to transport them to and fro anyway..because some were elderly........minibuses cost us £130 each round trip.......and seated 16 each......and some insisted on giving us something towards it anyway........it was a question of convenience for us.....

......and we did not have an open bar.....swings and roundabouts really.....

As all my family are coming up to Dudley from Wales, and all are staying in the hotel where the wedding reception is being held. I have organised a 32 seater bus to get them all from the hotel to wedding ceremony and back again for £200. As for a free bar can not afford it, everyone is getting a glass of champagne after the marriage, and some canapes. It can get out of hand.

Our Wedding was in Stoke but my husbands family live in Birmingham, we paid for a coach to bring some of them to the reception and take them back home again. It was 10 years ago and we got it half price £150

Kerry x x