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Potty I doubt it very much.................................................

It does help to get it off your chest girls dos'nt it??

Glad I am backed up by you lovely lot out there!!

A big thanks to you all.

Thanks AOGG and Janey, feeling a bit better now!

I agree that some people don't take the time to read the boards and find out how they work and just jump straight in and there are few guidelines on this site to help them.


Vivienne, even worse are the ones who come back to a thread days later, make no comment on (or give thanks for) what has been found and then ask another question!

And some people go over and beyond the call of duty. I have noticed somebody today who must be using his/her credits on scotlandspeople to do lookups. I wonder if the original poster realised that.

Well the posters that get my BP up are the ones that respond to only one helper on the thread and totally ignore the 2/3 others that have put info forward like they are writing in invisible ink.
Just a thank you would be nice to ALL of us.
I have now deleted my posts from a certain thread,which I rarely do,.one being a 1911 transcript,petty yes, but then so is ignorance.

Phew, Potty, and I just figured it was me being referred to ........ again. ;)

Claire - please please don't send PMs months later! By then, I for one may not have the least clue what you are talking about -- and even if I do, it could take me forever to find the thread the PM is about. Info should always go in threads (unless it's sensitive info about living people). A new post in the thread pops it to the top of the "my threads" list of anyone who posted in it.

As with most problems here, the primary fault lies with the site management. It should be possible to use a discussion board productively and properly without scouring the site for instructions, even if the important ones were actually here.

But I am still constantly gobsmacked by people who glom their "ads" or "listings" (as they are often called) onto a site without taking five minutes to see how things work there. I've posted on many internet boards in the last 15 years, but never without observing and reading for some time first. Anyone who took the time to read five threads here would grasp the process.

But then, most of them are busy looking at their "surname board", which may have three messages from 2004 and nothing else, since that's what all the emails from the helpful site management tell them to do.

Elizabeth I think you could be right!!

I am satified now as I have just helped a lady on Records and found loads of info for her. She thanked me and sent me her email address.

So some people are gratefull I know but others just leave you to it.



Mel

I also have the feeling that some of the newer folk think they are paying for a look up service !!!

I had a "thank you" pm yesterday from someone I helped ages ago,she had only just managed to find her thread again (!) and had expected a reply from GR

Potty is ever helpful and certainly never patronising!!!!

Thanks Ann

Pottyxx

I have just taken a look Potty, and I am of the opinion that you were most helpful, which I think you usually are.....sometimes the written word does not always come across as so and people take offence. We have seen it on these boards many times.

Annx

A lot of the Posters are just ungrateful and do not appreciate the amount of work that goes on.

I think Boogie is refering to me. Would somebody please look at her thread and see if I was being unreasonable.

I spent a lot of time looking for you Boogie, and am quite upset that you think I was being patronizing.

Some folks can feel they are being given the "3rd degree" .
Folks are asking for help...not patronizing...some helpers can come across as patronizing and no-construtive.

Not..all..but some.

Thanks girls. I am still here this morning. Only just as it is very windy still down here in deepest Devon.

Hi Mel & Ann...xxx ;-)

King Boogie ..hehehehe

Well I have to agree with you about members who post and disappear.

It is always the ones that do not give enough information and you have to ask questions

Sorry about that I was so frustrated with answering posts and not getting any replies with further info. I too look after my mother of 85 and know that when she wants something it has to be straight away. Thats the reason I did'nt come back to this thread!!!!!!!!!!!!! So you see I did it myself......................what a silly old fool I am.

It just helps to have your answers when I get frustrated and I then know I am not on my own.

Mel x

Don't forget some people have no idea how to get back to threads - I PM them after a while just to check (have even kept my message so i can just change the name!!)
Jan

Well said Derek. Myself personally care for my 90 year old mother. Now when she shouts it means she wants immediate attention and as much as I would love to I cannot stay at the computer. May I add I always made a point of thanking all who have help me, and they are quite a few. Mainly, Janey and Sylvia. For lookups Whirley is a saint.
Thank you all again
Janet

I really try to get to people who have helped but I agree sometimes I'm not as quick as I could be. So here's a thank you to everyone who has helped me in the past. Have just sent a PM to someone who helped me in May and have updated them on my findings.