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Think you had better steer them in the direction of the right professionals and let them take it from there... that way you remain neutral.

Linda x

Merlin, one of them is a very close family member... the partner has asked me to visit, and help them sort stuff out! I know that professional help is going to be required... and that the suggestion is going to be resented. I think I'm probably on a hiding to nothing, lol

I am girding my loins!!

Love Daff xxx

If they are also Close Friends Daff,I would suggest you tell them its best if they get professional advice,as you may upset one or the other with what you tell them. good luck.**M**.

Lol Puss... I can be like that, too... or go in with both feet and make it worse, lol!

I have been involved in counselling type roles as a professional... but not with my family. I know that I may find it difficult to be impartial.
Thanks, EB... I will need to be very careful.
Shirley.. you are absolutely right, of course! The family member would probably take me interfering quite well, I know that. But it would be better that they know exactly why I am visiting them - give them time to leave the country without a forwarding address, lol!

Love

Daff xxx

That is my huge fear, Linda.. but I know that I have to do something, now that I have been asked, just trying to pluck up the courage to do it and the wisdom to say the right things at the right time. xxx

Trouble is sometimes people ask for your advice then resent you for giving it!

Good luck Daff.

Linda x

says me who avoids the truth so as not to hurt peeps sometimes lol, easier said than done xx

perhaps you could ask the family member if they want you to do it as well. If they both agree then there cant be any come backs that you were interferring.
That is .of course ,if you want to get involved.

Shirley

OOH I don't envy you
been there-- take care

daff i would speak your mind i did when in a simlar situation, good luck and hope it works xxxx

I have been asked to act as a mediator in an emotionally sensitive sitution. This involves a member of my family and partner.. it is the partner who has asked me.

I know that neither of them are going to be keen on some of the suggestions I might make (they will involve going to see professionals) and I am a little afraid that I could end up being estranged from both of them.

I have watched their situation develop, and have not felt able to *interfere*, so in a way, I am also pleased that at least one of them is recognising that something is awry... what would others do if faced with a similar request?

I really would appreciate your thoughts on this.

Love

Daff xxx