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I had a an adult aspergers syndrome sufferer working for me and he often made unwarrented remarks about colleagues and every time his shift changed from earlies to lates he was physically ill and unable to face work. Once he was diagnosed at 30 years old we worked with him to ensure that we could bring some routine into the workplace and remove him from situations that would cause him issues. We also used the services of the Oaklea Trust to help the process. (although not local to us their website was still of great help). As your son grows up he will need support and routine but there is nothing to stop him leading a perfectly normal life and hold down a good job. You know where all your GR friends are if you need to talk

ahh thanks tw, having people like you and all has helped me a lot just being there at the press of a button lol xx

I could understand it hun. Well done puss, I knew you would come up trumps for Kirsten.xx


And ((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) for all you've been through and are going through now. YOu are one special lady.

ps im dyslexic hop you understand me , people on here are used to it xx hope you enjoy genes xxx

hello kirsten, all sounds familiar, but one thing i have learned is it will get better as he gets older.
David my son is no16 he was diagnosed with aspergers at 12, haven spent 10 long depressing years off appointments with various social workers mental health workers teachers you name it.
i noticed the change the night david had is final mmr injection, he had a tempersature and from that night on after being a placid baby, he just screamed constantly didnt sleep bang his head of walls, stoped playing with toys, no eye contact .
the first few years i was told i was neurotic, when david started school, i was accused of neglect, because he took dry bread for his lunch, thats all he would eat, as he got older junior age he wanted to be dead although didnt understand that dead meant no more, he hid from compony hid behind curtains in restraunts on special occasions ate now only sausages or burgers destroyed every thing he touched, ie; a new kitchen the council had put in, they dont like change, he attempted suicide a lot but thankfully never managed, i was a single parent by now, had to give up work as he stopped going to school, all these sessions seem to make him worse they said he was a naughty boy, thankfully one day a new lady came out and watched david show no remorse as he scalded his sister, she said david has aspergers, i was at the vege of a breakdown by now, if that lady had not come that day i too had planned to take my life as i couldnt cope any longer watching my blue eyed boy suffer anymore, after the diagnosis throgh my own research i have learned how to handle david how to speak to him and communicate, he spent years in a special school, which we moved to 50 miles away from my freinds and from that day to this has changed completly he is now at college doing music, uses trains and asks how i am now and again and allowes me to hug him, i never thought i would see this day with him, i expected him to kill himself or damage, luckily my new husband took on david and supported us both,
Kirsten dont settle for anything less than 100% help keep fighting , and one tip i always tell people is when you say something to your son, ask him if he understands what you have just said, believe me you will be surprised at how confused he is
one thing i asked david is what does pull your socks up, and she bit my head of , he answerd latterly, wish you all the luck in the world , i now have the energy to be there for others please feel free to contaqct me whenever

lorraine xxxxx

Nudging this up

xxx Daff

Kirsten... I have nudged a thread up for you, some of the people who posted may have left GR, but there are a lot of us still here.

My 8yr old Grandson has dispraxia.

Kirsten

am still trying to get laddo diagnosed has now been shown by tests he has poor short term memory but have been waiting for over 6 months for an appointment for social and development team and had to fight to get that referale.

Had the same as you, hes a boy , hell grow out of it.


Good luck and now you have a diagnosis hopefully
schools will take more notice of you and give him the help he deserves.

d x

Hi Kirsten
I have a daughter with Autism, learning difficulties & challenging behaviour. I know hat you mean when you say its all been thrown at you, When i got the DS for our daughter all these words where used but never explained
www.nas.org.uk has a wealth of information. But I think the best advice come from other parents.

Pm me any time
Sharon x

Hi Kirsten my 9 year old son also a autistic spectrum disorder. I'm just on my way out to pick my children up from school so can't stop but pm me any questions and I will be back later and I can help you with anything you want to no or to just listen if you need to let of steam.

Julia

HI Kirsten

MRS santa Ladylol Pussercat is the one you need to speak to, her son has aspergers.

She's not here at the moment, but she will be back later, she's lovely and will help with any questions you have.

Good luck

hi there
people on here seem a real friendly bunch so im after a bit of advice my son after 6 and a half years has finally been diognosed with borderline aspergers and social communication learning difficulties im relieved he has finally been diognosed as ive had it all thrown at me about his behaviour ie its his age its because hes a boy he will grow out of it etc the classic one was by the senco at his old school was it was because i was a single parent now he has moved schools they picked up on it near enough straight away i was just wondering if any other parents have children out there with learning difficulties and how they cope

thank you kirsten