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I lost my dad last year and still finding it hard going, i just wish i'd been able to find all the info i have now about his family when he was alive, he would have been so thrilled as he never knew anything about them

Thanks Linda, means a lot x

Thanks Catherine, yes, he was quite a character. He was a strong man and hadn't had it easy. I like to think I have something of him in me, which is making it easier for me at the moment as I know that he is with me.

At the moment I'm tending to keep myself to myself - I go to work where I'm fine, I come home, where I'm fine - but when friends want me to go round or go out I panic! But I'm sensible enough to know that that will pass and that my friends will always be there for me. I talk to them by email or facebook which is much easier for now.

Thanks again x

the thing is it don't matter how long our parents or family members passed away the fact is we remember them and that to me is the most important factor ever. my gg grandad don't know me but I'm not bothered I still want to know about her and her anncestors as do we all.
It'so so important

catherine
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Sorry deleted prev message as meant to post to Petal and I put the wrong name - I guess we are never sure who is reading the messages and it can only go to prove that no-matter how long it is since our parents pass that it hurts so bad.

My thoughts go out to you and your family Petal - lots of love and hugs...... Linda

sharon
good on your dad he sounded a real character . I'm sorry for your loss. bet he was a amazing guy-thing is don't make it whatever time he passed away to you it's important and it wasn't that long.so it means the earth and I can understand that.

my most sincere thought with you and your family I know it's not esy love

catherine
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Oh, btw, this is me - the toothfairy - lol, i can't log into my account so am on Stephs
(just to avoid any mix ups, lol)

LOU XXXX

I lost my Daddy when i was 15. He had cancer.

My life has been one 'disaster' after another, leaping from one problem to the next. It changed me as a person (not just loosing my dad, but how my life played out) I have been in the darkest places, done the worst things imaginable and said the most hurtful of things to the people i love.

I have to thank the people who never gave up on me, and who helped me back into the person i am today...
If my life had played out differently i might not have the compassion and empathy for others today, i wouldnt appreciate the things i have achieved, and my family....
I miss my Dad almost unbearably, and would do anything to hear him say he was proud of the person i am today......
I stay on the 'straight and narrow' because when we meet again i want to be able to hold my head up high and look into his eyes....

LOu XXXXXXXx
ps. my love to all who have lost a parent. xxx

Catherine, don't delete this, it makes interesting reading and it's a help to read what others have to say.

My dad passed away 6 weeks ago just 7 weeks after being diagnosed with cancer. I'm fine at the moment and have been really strong the whole time (not what I would have expected) This week I have been a bit down, but can generally give myself a talking to and I come round, but I suppose once everything dies down you have a bit more time to think don't you?

I've been staying with mum as she lives close by and while it's hard, we both agree that it was better for dad that he didn't linger and suffer more than he already was. He was a very brave and funny man and would have been amazed at the amount of people who showed up at the door, rang, sent cards and attended the funeral - he would have been in his element in the company of everyone (especially in the pub after). That sounds odd reading it back, but I know what i mean!!

Thanks for this thread, Sharon x

thanks lynn
((((((((((hugs))))))))))


your a lovely girl and having met you i can vouch for that.

catherine
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I know what you mean - my 27 yr old son just walked in and caught me in floods of tears - I didn't know what to do! My dad died 20 yrs ago and it still hurts loads. U take care - Linda

have a tissue Catherine,

oh bu**er, the box is empty

hugs sweetheart
xxLynnxx

lindyloo and my good friend Ros
that means alot
I am sheading tears now and I was ok till this point.
catherine
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I`m sure she`ll be proud of you training to be a teacher. Thinking of you and sending lots of love, Ros xxx

Catherine, you have had a tough time and my heart goes out to you. I know your mum and dad are with you and your family the whole time, watching over you, knowing what makes you tick. Its spooky to know they are there, but how comforting to know that we will be together again one day. Of that I am sure. Just remember that.
Linda

lindy don't loose hope. I spent years when I was younger me mam getting the old photo's out her trying to tell me who was who and married to whom, but I wasn't intrestred in me 20's.




"Yeah right mam" I'd say


god now do I wish I had taken notice
catherine
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oh Jim Jams that's so sad and wicked witch u r so right - we can't chose our family but how I wish I'd listened more closely to what my dad used to say - he never told us he was adopted, but how I wish I could find his/my family now.

yeah Lynn he will be smiling and doing cartwheels. jese hope he don't see me mam cos he's in for one hell of a night if he does.lol. he will be doing the rhumba all night lol
how wonderful though to think of em all having a blast.

catherine
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im sure she would be really proud Catherine, of all you have achieved and become, and love her grandchildren to bits,
i was lucky, dad had time with my girls, as ill as he was, and my youngest who is 15 never knew her gramps as anything other than being ill and on oxygen, but they have wonderful memories of him,
Just wish he was around to see his first great granchild born, and me become a Nanna,
but im sure he knows and is smiling
xxLynnxx

you are so lucky caz
there's not a day go by I wish they were wish me

good news for me -hey my inlaws Marylin and Harry are the best ever.

catherine
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