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I don't know how people feel about this, no idea how long this happened to you, but I lost me mam 2 days after I had my girl (11 yrs ago this Nov) and me dad died 18mths later.I went through a real tough time. But I think it made me stronger as a person-Don't get me wrong early days I sobbed and sobbed all day. But I do believe these traumas make you stronger as a person. I feel nothing or no-one can touch me in real life, I wish I never had to go through it but that was fate. I think it has made me a better person and I like grew up.
Does anyone else feel the same?

I don't wish to upset anyone putting this up and if it does please pm me and I will most sincerely delete this.

catherine
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I think any of the hardships of life, not just the grief of losing a loved one, makes us stronger.

Sometimes even the good things that come along, like kids, also make us stronger.

It hasnt upset me,and I do understand what you mean.I lost my Mom three years back and I still talk to her (dont get an answer) my Dad died a long time ago and as they where divorced and he had remarried I didnt see a lot of him,so didnt miss him as much. It does make you stronger,and dare I say,harder.

Maddy

Oh, you're the wicked witch, eh! lol

Seriously, why would you upset anyone; you're putting your feelings down which is a good thing, rather than bottling it up. :-)

I'm one of those very lucky people who - touch wood - still has both parents, though they're in their mid-70's now and I do worry about them. I thank God they're still here, and truly dread the day when they "leave", for pastures new, so to speak.

I can see what you mean, though: I guess an experience like you've had gives you inner strength which you don't always realise you have.

Take care, you. (((HUG)))
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sorry to hear that jim jams
catherine
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(((((hugs))))

Catherine, i lost my dad, 3 1/2 years ago, and he was the only person in my life that i trusted,
the grieving was and still is, hard to cope with at times, but yes, i have grown so much since, and become stronger, and so many problems that i would have not dealt with i now do, because i have to,
and i always sense him around me, especially when i need his advice,

xxLynnxx

Lynn I remember when you lost your dad and I know how close you were to him. I remember you talking
about visiting his grave-I do so sympathise with you. Being close esp to 1 parent is hard-like I was with my mum . I can understand it does make you stronger it has me and I wonder if my mum was alive what would she think now....would she like this person now the one with the two grand children she has never seen and who married again.

catherine
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I am very fortunate to still have my parents Catherine but I do agree that very tough and painful and stressful times give you an inner strength and reserve which remains and guides you through,

Hugs to you, love,

Caz xxx

Catherine, i do feel for your loss, my dad died suddenly 20 years ago and i still grieve for him.
mum is still alive, shes 80 - and not the best now.
I too feel stronger as ive had to cope with life in general without his great advice.

would love to know if he does hear me...

Mags
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you are so lucky caz
there's not a day go by I wish they were wish me

good news for me -hey my inlaws Marylin and Harry are the best ever.

catherine
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im sure she would be really proud Catherine, of all you have achieved and become, and love her grandchildren to bits,
i was lucky, dad had time with my girls, as ill as he was, and my youngest who is 15 never knew her gramps as anything other than being ill and on oxygen, but they have wonderful memories of him,
Just wish he was around to see his first great granchild born, and me become a Nanna,
but im sure he knows and is smiling
xxLynnxx

yeah Lynn he will be smiling and doing cartwheels. jese hope he don't see me mam cos he's in for one hell of a night if he does.lol. he will be doing the rhumba all night lol
how wonderful though to think of em all having a blast.

catherine
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oh Jim Jams that's so sad and wicked witch u r so right - we can't chose our family but how I wish I'd listened more closely to what my dad used to say - he never told us he was adopted, but how I wish I could find his/my family now.

lindy don't loose hope. I spent years when I was younger me mam getting the old photo's out her trying to tell me who was who and married to whom, but I wasn't intrestred in me 20's.




"Yeah right mam" I'd say


god now do I wish I had taken notice
catherine
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Catherine, you have had a tough time and my heart goes out to you. I know your mum and dad are with you and your family the whole time, watching over you, knowing what makes you tick. Its spooky to know they are there, but how comforting to know that we will be together again one day. Of that I am sure. Just remember that.
Linda

I`m sure she`ll be proud of you training to be a teacher. Thinking of you and sending lots of love, Ros xxx

lindyloo and my good friend Ros
that means alot
I am sheading tears now and I was ok till this point.
catherine
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have a tissue Catherine,

oh bu**er, the box is empty

hugs sweetheart
xxLynnxx

I know what you mean - my 27 yr old son just walked in and caught me in floods of tears - I didn't know what to do! My dad died 20 yrs ago and it still hurts loads. U take care - Linda

thanks lynn
((((((((((hugs))))))))))


your a lovely girl and having met you i can vouch for that.

catherine
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