General Chat

I am pleased you feel better now. xx

Kitty, I have got past it but you were talking about second chances - no way as far as I'm concerned. Like I said if an apology had been offered it would have been accepted. Gwynne

Added by Guinevere on 16/08/2007 09:30:40 I take my work with abused kids very seriously and for someone to imply I don't really do it is more than disagreeing over facts in a debate. It was just one persons opinion.......no more, no less. You are hurting over it, but if you move past it and let it go you will feel better. I did. xx

Its a bit silly really.....I knew of one lady who lied constantly, and was always going from one person to another stirring up trouble and lying........her trouble was she told so many lies she couldn't remember who and what she had told her lies to.......always being tripped up......no idea why she did it, she had a husband and family who loved her, a good standard of living......just one of those people who had to have the latest in designer labels, cars, etc. never satisfied......very sad, she could have been such a nice person.....

I take my work with abused kids very seriously and for someone to imply I don't really do it is more than disagreeing over facts in a debate. I asked for an apology and the thread was deleted instead. Gwynne

Gwynne, You know the truth,so if others dont then it doesnt really matter,. dont be upset about it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,.but Lee was also told he wasnt belived, many times ,,,,so is that calling him a liar also....?

i think there are different forms of lying, the one i find unforgiveable is the cunning planned lie, to ensnare people into your lies get them to support your lies, then very innocent people sometimes vunerable get hurt beyond belife then the person acts as if there is nothing wrong or accuses another friend, i dont think its a mental issue just cunning decetfull and a complete fraud.

I have been in that position with a close family member, it did cause me problems, but in the end I realised the only one who was upset was me, so I let it go. I gave them a second chance and we get on really well now. xx

Hi Kitty, That's easy to say when you aren't the one being called a liar. If there had been an apology then it would have been forgotten. Gwynne

Compulsive liars are very insecure, but I suppose they need help really, because they actually do believe what they are saying and consider it to be truthful, when it overspills and harms others that's when it gets to become a big problem. catherine xx

Meercat I think eveyone deserves a second chance, he is new to the boards and I would hate to alienate anyone because of one thread. xx

Oh Robin you disappoint me!! I can't believe you have a made up name!! You know my parents really did call me PINK! lol! xx

I don't have a good enough memory to lie, even if I wanted to. Although I have been known to lie about small things - if a friend has decorated a room and I hate it I won't say so, kindness and good manners dictate that I should use a white lie. I have no theories other than those suggested - a desperation to make themselves appear more interesting or worthwhile. I do know compulsive lying is an illness/personality disorder and that those who have this really cannot help themselves - look at Jeffrey Archer. Gwynne

I agree with Pink, why do it? The truth always comes out eventually. I lack self confidence and always feel that I am not as good or as nice as every1 else, but I don't lie, I just don't see the point. I wouldn't sleep at nite:)

I was once asked at a job interview if I could tell a lie.. It was for phone sales for electric and gas....

Mandy - my mother believed her own lies and would have sworn on the bible they were true. Little wonder I was often confused until I grew up and realised she was an out and out liar. Mummy never lied - everyone else did - Mummy told the truth.

My real name is not Robin of Loxley ! isnt it?? lol course not its............... hope yr ok hun xx

As children we were always taught to 'tell the truth and shame the devil'! Jean

Oh .......................... and by the way, My real name is not Robin of Loxley ! LOL

Hiya Diana, I agree with Mandy, I feel lieing to a great dgree is a sign of mental illness, Robin, the problem is lies can impact very badly on the lives off others, Caz xxx