General Chat

Aarons mum and dad have gone to get a set of keys cut for MY FLAT! this is so they can get in and out easier when me and Al are at work. Mainly because we have had the elcetrician, plumber and locksmith round...but i feel quite uneasy about it. His little bro and sister both keep asking to have a set of keys too which i am completely against! last night we got home and found his bro and sis both lying on my sofa, eating our food, helping themselves to what they want...his parents were there and i could hardly say anything as his mum had made us a roast etc...do i sound really selfish? xI also forgot to add that since moving out...my mum has taken my front door keys off me as i dont live there anymore...she wasnt being horrible but i think thats right too...xx

HELL NO!!!! It's YOUR flat, YOU pay for it! They're are guests and nothing else!! Becx (Who should be allowed a key :-) lol)

No way- its your home- would they like if you did the same- don`t think so.

You've got to nip this in the bud early on and lay down certain rules. It's YOUR flat and you want some privacy. Personally I think they have all got a cheek. Jo. X

Yeah Steedie, it's YOUR flat, and NOBODY should have keys to it without your permission. My mother was given a set of keys to our house once, and I was really annoyed to come home from work and find her there. We had a big row and I took them away from her. After that, we both kept each other's keys but agreed never to go into each other's home wihout asking first. You never know when your privacy's going to be invaded if people don't respect it. Get Aaron to talk to them about it. Good luck. CB >|< XX

he doesnt seem that bothered. i said to him last night that i dont want kenny and charlene having there own keys...he agreed but i know whats gonna happen. If his mum and dad have a set, they will just take them and let themselves in! I was even standing in the kitchen talking to his dad and charlene (his sis) walked in opened the fridge door had a good look at what was in there..helped herself to some food and finished off the rest of my fanta! I mean, she is more than welcome there...but even when i was at home..i would ALWAYS ask my mum if it was ok to take food out the fridge! xx

OMG no way babe!!!! eek inlaws unannounces no way!!

his mum is also taking his nan..(who i havent even met) to the flat today to show her

Oh dear Steedie....they sound like liberty-takers to me love! Were any of 'em wearing my scarf?? Nip it in the bud sweetie...it just ain't on!!! Nicely though eh? Dee x

What would they think if they walked in on you and Aaron possibly being friendly in the lounge???? I am sure they would wish they had never took a set of keys off you then...... Susan:-)

Hi Steedie I think you have to very gently put your foot down here and tell them you will need the keys back now thank you!! Love Lara xx

ah thats the thing liz...when she told me that..i phoned my mum and just cried...it was my mum who said now come on she is only trying to help...but when i got home, my bedroom had been re arranged too...and so had the spare room. I really love them all to bits but omg!

susan...she actually found it highly amusing that she managed to hoover up a condom yesterday...so i think that if they walked in on that they would probably find that funny too! xx

Now that is an OMG you would think that would of made her hand the keys back.......Does your Mother-in-law not get phased by anything at all.......Or maybe you could leave her a list of 'Things To Do'......LOL Susan:-0

lay down some ground rules now or change the locks they are well out of order Paul

No no and a million times NO!! Change your locks and only have two keys and tell Aaron that if he even THINKS of getting any more cut you will do it again. Have a spare if you must that you can hand to anyone that you HAVE invited to mind the flat or whatever but this is a liberty taking session if ever I heard one! This is going to be so hard to settle without an argument but you must. You and Aaron are a couple now with your OWN place. The flat is NOT an annexe of his mum's house! I have a key to my daughter's house - but I still ring the door bell when I visit and she does when she visits here too - it's called COURTESY!! I have only ever once used our key without her knowing - she was very hard up and living on toast and we stocked her freezer and cupboards as a surprise - but even then I left the cupboard stuff on the worktop! - and that was when she was ON HER OWN. My chin has just hit the floor at their cheek! Magsxxx

You must try and talk to her NOW! Before they take any more liberties and make sure you rearrange all the rooms how YOU want them,at least when she sees them she may mention it and that will be your chance to explain how you feel!! Good Luck:)))

I think everyone is thinking the same Babe get your keys back the sooner you do it the lest aggro and heartache there will be all round........ Susan:-)

Hi Steedie, I don't think they believe they are taking liberties. If you add this to your earlier thread about privacy from Aaron it looks as though his family are very laid back about all sorts of issues. They would expect you to go into their homes and help yourself in the same way - 'My house is your house'. I'm not saying they are right - just that they have a different attitude and probably Aaron feels the same way. Tread very gently when you talk to him because he may not see anything wrong in their behaviour. A lot of families behave in this way. Gwynne

Awww Mags... what a sweet thing to do! becx