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Hi Jason, firstly it took guts to come on here and tell us about the depression, so give yourself credit for that. Can I also say that I admire you for admitting that you cry. I get so annoyed when I hear someone say 'real men don't cry' - aaaaaargh! That is so, so wrong! Real men DO cry! That aside, can you see Jason, you have absolutely loads of friends on here, people who care about you. So as others have said, if you're feeling down, come onto the boards and tell us! Take care you, and keep in touch. Glenys x

nudge for Unhappy The website is listed under an entry from Bryan as i thought. Hope it helps. YVette

Hi Jason I, too, suffer from bouts of depression. I have also done some extremely stupid things in the past, albeit one of them was just over a year ago. Go and see your doctor not just to get medication, but to find out where you can go to talk to someone. Medication isn't the answer, as you probably know. I'm such a hypocrite, I have a fear of talking to someone professional, I just don't like the idea of it. I've done it before and never found someone I felt at ease confiding in. It's not for everyone, but there is the right person out there to talk to, just might take a while to find them. You're not alone. Please don't do anything stupid. Don't feel ashamed. Depression is an illness, a chemical imbalance in the brain and you need to 'teach' your brain to be more balanced! All the best Chloe

Thank you all for your support last night and i promise i had the best nights sleep in ages and nearly was late for work..lol. I will write to you as soon as i can but am busy at work and that is good as it keeping brain in gear.. Take care all and thankyou.x.

Hang in there Jason.Just being on this site is a good step. I have been depressed when I first started my current job, and I know the feeling, though it was short term. I took anti depressants for 3 months. It was due to a specific situation, but it must be hard for you and I feel for you. I don't think anyone can understand until they have been there. There are a lot of nice people out there, this site proves it, don't let the others get to you. Jenny

Jason, glad hearing from everyone made you feel a little better - it is always good to let things out and you have been very brave to come on here and talk about your problems. I know what it is like as I have had similar problems to you and now mine have manifested themselves into OCD. I have had to push for help from the necessary people but at last am getting somewhere. We sufferers in this area have set up a self help support group and it is brilliant. Don't forget if you feel really desperate to talk and it is late there is always 'the Samaritans' - they will talk to you and listen and when it is late at night and you feel there is no one else awake and feeling like you do, they are only on the end of the phone waiting to help. There is something you could possibly take which is compatible with most drugs - just ask at your local Health food store. It is called Passiflora complex - made by Bioforce and is totally natural and just helps you stay a bit more 'level' emotionally. It costs 7.99 but lasts for about 2 months - you just take 20 drops in a little water twice a day, tastes like you're drinking weed killer (or what I imagine drinking weedkiller would taste like) but the taste doesn't linger. I have used it for a while and it has helped me. If you can find the money for that, do try as I am sure it would help. I'll be thinking of you - good luck.

Hi Jason. Sorry that you are having a bad time at the mo. I would just like to agree with what everyone else is saying. You need to see your doctor (is there another in the practice that you could see?) Carry on talking. Don't bottle things up. There is always someone here that will talk to you. The Citizens Advice Bureau will give you free financial advice. Hope the sun shines for you soon. Jill xx

Jason I suffer really bad on and off with depression and have had 2 nervous breakdowns it has taken me a long time and numerous antidepressents and even diazapam, I have had it for a lot of years, and I am just finishing councelling sessions,I am starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel, I have some good books I could recommend if your interested I call them my bibles.You have taken a real big step coming on here more than I could ever have done,well done I always say that people like us are stronger than we think to be able to cope with such a traumatic illness that no one can see,that makes us special.If you want the names of these books one of the authors also does a tape just let me know.Be strong and keep talking......................Denise.

Jason Please follow everyone's advice and please do not keep things bottled up, my poor old Mum used to that and she suffered badly with mental health problems, things are so much better nowadays as afar as treatment is concerned. there is nothing wrong with being depressed it is an illness like anything else just keep talking to everone and if you feel like have a good yell nothing wrong with that either. Go see the doctor you may not have to have anti-depressant but he may come up with something to make you feel better, Good luck keep talking Germaine

JasoN I always remember a man who I worked with years ago being really depressed.another man who we worked with said to him whats the matter with you,he answered I am worried I owe such a body money such a place money all sorts money.This other man said to him ''dont you be worried about the money you owe, let them that you owe it to worry whether they are going to get it back'', there are always ways to sort things out and people to help you do it.! Dave

dont worry bella, husband knows most of the rights , hes not worried to speak up for himself, in fact his words to his night shift boss were , your having a f-----g laugh arent you, hes not worried and told them next time hell chuck up over the machines, if they wish, just wanted to point out to jason hes not alone as mostly when your depressed you feel everyone else is coping and your not, but sometimes it helps to know your not alone , hope jasons got some comfort tonite and ill be looking to see how hes getting on

I would love to thank you all for help and managed to read most without eye getting welled up...I am just so greatful and will have to wait for bit b4 Doctor as long days till Monday and company has 300,000 employees so they do get away with sackings and bits, but i will take all said and concider..All my love and regards.Jason..THankyou all..

jason, a friend ofmine runs a wonderful free website,covering all health problems,including depression....theres also a qualified psychiatric nurse on the message boards to give advice. www(.)nomorepanic(.)co(.)uk great site,and its free......take away the brackets. bryan.

jason i hav emailed u via the site i hav depresion probs too and after puting it on here i got lots of encouragement from others here take care lou x

Jason - can l just say well done for coming on here and telling us all - you've taken the first step towards getting help. l am on anti-depressants and l can drive with no problem, my doctor knows l drive. They have helped a great deal. Do as Bryan says and get financial advice from the citizens advice bureau and KEEP TALKING, good luck:o)) jude sarf wales

With respect Julie, and anybody else who is not aware of their employment rights. Employers are NOT allowed to discrimminate/ victimise or treat the workforce unfairly, even if it is a 2 bit company. Lawful Rights are in place to see that this does not happen, however it is often up to the individual to confront these bullies of bosses that pay the wages and quote the employment law facts to them, if they still discrimminate against you for being off sick etc then you can take them to an employment tribunal.

Three other things to try: a) exercise - walking, running, going to a gym - this helps to stimulate hormones that cheer you up. b) relaxation - try lying down and tensing all your muscles. Then relax them all and imagine something peaceful - waves brushing gently against the shore, or clouds floating on a blue sky. Warm bath and nice aromatic candles can help. c) write down everything you feel depressed about - and then what you can do about it. Often getting things down on paper can help you put them into perspective. Then write down things that are OK in your life. This may be very difficult at the moment, but give it a go. nell

jason firstly get to doctors tomorrow i get down in dumps , not as bad as depression can get, i know but ive been worse, as someone said try to be positive, look how much you actually are coping with not how much your not, secondly, dont tell anyone in work your looking but look for another job, my husband works 12 hour nights and he was off 2 nights last week sick, and i mean throwing up sick, he got back to work to a warning, if hed been off cos of the kids it would have been fine but cos he was off for himself they dont like it, wot makes me laugh there is im home with kids so i can take care of them, let us know how you get on chin up

jason,ime very sorry to hear that your feeling so depressed. firstly,your doctor 'must' listen to you,for god's sake thats why they are paid so well!...write down exactly how your feeling...write down any questions you need answering,and make another appoinment...and hand this to him/her. sounds like your money problems are makingyou overly anxious...anxiety leads to depression.....seek help from the citizens advice bureau,they will contact any debtors,and spread any payments. depression is caused by a chemical inbalance in the brain,and short term use of a/ds can help...but in some cases,this needs to be backed up by cognitive behavioural therapy. keep chatting on this board,its also quite therapeutic. best wishes....bryan.

Jason, I thought very hard about posting on here, for reasons i will explain in private, but i want you to do 2 things for me. firstly, go back to your doctors. Get him to prescribe you something like Fluoxetine. This is an anti depressant within the Prozac family, but unlike some other Anti depressants is quite quick releasing and should only take a couple of days for you to feel the benefits. some others in this group can take a couple of weeks to kick in. It is also excellent in taking the edge of your blues... l;ike taking the tears away. it is not a cure all as you may know... depression is not something we can wipe away from our bodies without a trace. your employer does not have to know you are taking Fuoxetine. Please also ask for you Gp to refer you for NHS counselling, you are entitled to it and will definately feel the benefit. As Helen has said, you have made the first step by posting on here, there are so many good people on here that will listen to you and be here for you. the most important thing is you must not feel so alone you ahve no one to turn to... you HAVE.... Secondly, you can hold down a job with depression, i know many GP's and Psychiatrists who take Anti Depressants for various reasons and still fullfill their career proffessionally and with competance. you can do the same. First thing tomorrow Jason, Phone that doctor! :))