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Lynne When I added a reply this monring forgot to say 'Happy Birthday Simon' Sorry, penalty of being a harassed mum!

Glad you got in touch here, Lynne. How's Simon today? Hope you gave him hugs from all of us! Bev, that verse was pretty powerful stuff. Thank you for that; more cutting and pasting for me, lol. xx

Lynn don't worry about feeling tearful we all do I was feeling like that on Tuesday but when we feel down it is good to come on these boards and read what is going on, I hope you are feeling happier to day

thank you all i must have been having one of those days yesterday feeling tearful you would think after 24 years i would be used to it i was thinking he should be going out with his mates or girlfreind but still he had a nice evening with us birthday cake candles and all the trimmings. tonight is gateway for those who dont know what that is it is a social evening for adults with special needs i run this club and i love to see there happy smiling faces its so rewarding for some it is the only social night they have its great

Cheers speedy, John suspended again so he is in watching telly, have great holiday in France

Lynne, I wish my mother was a caring as you, you are one hell of a mother, I hope your son had a good birthday, Val I know you and how you care for your sons, you are also one hell of a mother. I remember when my mother had plurasy (spelling) she also had a cracked rib and needed a lot of help, my step father was a long distance lorry driver, so was away all week, he couldn't take the time off needed to look after her, they needed his wages, so I used to go round to hers when I droped of my oldest son of at nursery, and take my youngest son with me to help her get up and make sure she had some thing to eat, luckily she could just about dress her self, when that was done I would pick up my son then go round to my M-i-L to help her sort the house out, as her husband, my F-i-L had just passed away, and preperations were under way for the funeral, then my husband at that time would pick me and the boys up, drop me off at my mothers house, so that I could get her tea for her and settle her down for the night, then go home and sort my sons out for bed after daddy had given them some tea, when they were in bed I would then get round to sorting my own house work out, at the end of the day I would got to bed totaly worn out, and try to get some energy for the next day, this only went on for 2 weeks, but how I was shattered, so yes my hat goes off to all of you who this sort of day is the norm, you are all so special, as are your children/spouse's. Bev

Lynne, I take my hat off to you. Your amazing. I too am a carer, but I've got off lightly compared to you. You are 'a mum in a million'. (((Hug for you))) We need these sometimes Wendy

What a wonderfull, brave, outstanding lady you are! Well done for being a model mum... All my love to you and your boy (big man!) xxxxxxxx I always say anyone can be a mother, but it takes avery special person to be a mummy! xxxx

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressure and a couple by habit. This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how these mothers are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth Selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger. 'Armstrong, Beth, son. Patron Saint, Matthew.' 'Forrest, Marjorie, daughter. Patron Saint, Celia.' 'Rutledge, Carrie, twins. Patron Saint...give her Gerard. He's used to profanity.' Finally he passes a name to an angel and smiles. 'Give her a handicapped child.' The angel is curious. 'Why this one, God? She's so happy.' 'Exactly,' smiles God. 'Could I give a handicapped child a mother who knows no laughter? That would be cruel.' 'But does she have the patience?' asks the angel. 'I don't want her to have too much patience, or she'll drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off she'll handle it.' 'I watched her today. She has that sense of self and independence so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has a world of it's own. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy.' 'But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you.' God smiles. 'No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.' The angel gasps, 'Selfishness? Is that a virtue?' God nods. 'If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she will never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't know it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says momma for the first time, she will be witness to a miracle and know it. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see--ignorance, cruelty, prejudice--and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life Because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.' 'And what about her Patron Saint?' asks the angel, his pen poised in the air. God smiles. 'A mirror will suffice.' Bev x

I just came back on to read the messages and Lynn is one in a million hope Simon had a good birthday and if you ever want to come on and talk do it and that goes for all of you in the same position as it is nice to talk to some one going through maybe not the same but similar

Happy Birthday Simon, give your Mum a big hug. Love Ann Glos

*********HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIMON!*********** The Love expressed by everyone on here is heart-warming, in a World that sometimes seems so self absorbed. You can't buy love, all the money in the World is no good without it.... Only when we've learned to really love someone more than we love ourselves, are we fulfilled. Love really does make the World go round, as the old song says! Lily xxxx(to all carers)xxxx

Hello Lynn and Happy Birthday to Simon.I hope he has a wonderful day, I am a carer too, to my husband, who has Dementia, Depression and is almost blind. He is taken out on a bus trip every Thursday,so today is my day off and I try to make the most of it. I am 76 and sometimes I get tired, but we always find the strength to carry on, don't we. I would like to send love to all the carers and a big hug for Simon. We should all keep in touch on this thread, as someone suggested. Love from Sylvia in Perth, Western Australia X

You are all so amazing - looking after your offspring in the way you do should bring you major rewards in heaven. Do grab all the help you can, for it is no good if you collapse under the strain, and you must be saving the government a fortune. I don't think Carers ever get enough help and support but you have to do it 24/7 and can't just walk away. Stay strong and positive if you can - you are parents in a million. Happy Birthday to Simon, and my thoughts to all of you. Liz

Firstly Happy Birthday to Simonxxxx Lynne I am also a full time carer for my husband & I know how hard it can be at times but as the others have said you do it for love it must be very hard for you with Simon being such a big man I can totally understand how your back feels as mine has gone too. I am sending you Love & hugs & make sure you have some time for yourself,my husband is in respite at the moment & it is lovely to have some time for me. Love Cilla. oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox

What special people you all are. A long, happy and fulfilling life to you all. (although what you are doing is fulfillment it self) Have a lovely birthday Simon. xoxoxox Dawn

Lynne Well done to you !! Simon, Have a very happy birthday, you share it with my son who is 15 today. Deb X

Those of you who are carers are incredible, I really admire you, but I guess you don't really want to be admired, you do what you do because you love them and I think that is wonderful. You should keep this thread going as the carers' thread to give each other support. Only those of you who are carers can know what it is like. Best wishes to all of you. Ann Glos

What incredible people you all are!! Being a parent is the most difficult job in the world without all the extra difficulties thrown at you! As you have said they are your children and you wouldn't change them but it doesn't mean we can't tell you all how wonderful you are! hugs to you all and Happy 24th birthday Simonxxx Sarah xx

what worries the most is when i and my husband have gone up into blue younder what will happen to him although his brother and sister love him i think nobody will look after him like i do and i would not expect them to