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HI Kylie, Don't be so hard on yourself. Giving birth, whatever way, is scary. Just keep positive and remember that this is the last Wednesday you will ever have without a child. As for c-sections, I had both of mine by elective section as b** first just doesn't work. Wouldn't have it any other way now. I was on my feet the following morning. Please don't worry about it if that's the way you have to go. Everything will be fine. Love and hugs, Christine.xx

Oh Kylie :-( Sorry to hear you've had problems. Hang in there... we're all behind you!! love becx

Kylie in no way are you a failure and when baby arrives it iwll all have been worth while. Hope she arrrives soon and your next posting willl be 'She' s Here' Take Care, Chin Up Germaine x

Kylie you aint a failure!! i too would be scared,thats one of the biggest fears i had with my own three..its your choice and your right,you wernt wrong to say No..in your shoes id of done the exact same thing. hope your ok dear?! let us know how you getting along. sending you ((((( hugs))))) and hope it goes ok and quickly for you now.xx

Nudging this up so you can all see what the latest is for Kylie. Maybe she is in labour right now, or has had the babe and is in hospital still. whatever the situation, hope she is fine and back with us soon.

kylie dont think your failiure because you backed out it just wasnt the right time for you to do that, its a pregnant thing im sure, i had panic attacks when pregnant with my son, had lot of emotional stress at time, hubby was acting like 5 year old, daughter was 5 and played me up terrible, result i got major stress, couldnt go out without crying , couldnt go to call box as we didnt have phone and confined space was hell, went to doctor who was fab, and gave me a community nurse, who told me how common it was, got me back out the door, and helped tons, step by step day by day, dont blame yourself, it just happens, little one will arrive when ready, keep us informed

Hi there Dont feel bad its is a really exciting time but everso nerveracking i had my first child last year and so it is still al fresh in my mind. She came two weeks late and came the day before they were going to induce me. All babys come in there own time. Dont wish you pregnancy away as you will be rushing around for the next few months with so many things to do for you new arrival. It has been the most rewarding year of my life and after you have given birth you feel a real scense of achivement. Think possitive.

Of course you arent a failure Kylie!!! I had panic attack when i was giving birth naturally!! I just totally didnt know HOW to breathe!!! I was more bothered about passing out than giving birth!! Please please calm down... whichever way you give birth must be a good experience for you both! Good Luck and i await the good news! Karen

Hi Kylie I hope things are all well. We are all thinking of you Liz

Oh you poor love... will add you to my prayers and wish you and your little one all the best. Anne :)))

Kylie, stop feeling bad and beating yourself up - you will be fine and I am sure your doctor will help you through this next stage till your little girl arrives. She obviously wasn't meant to be a 'whatever the day where you are was' child. I don't know if you know the verse: Monday's child is fair of face, Tuesday's child is full of grace, Wednesday's child is full of woe, Thursday's child has far to go, Friday's child is loving and giving (that's me folks) and Saturday's child works hard for a living (that's my son) But the child that is born on the Sabbath day, Will be bonny and blithe and good and gay. Pity gay has another meaning these days but I can't think of another word to replace it. Try not to feel too stressed, just get plenty of rest and soon you will be able to say: Today is the tomorrow I worried about yesterday, and all is well. Good luck, can't wait to hear your little girl is with you and her family. Liz

Hi Kylie, Please do not feel a failure because you had a panic attack. ((hugs)) I suffer with panic attacks myself, so know how bad they are. You might never have another one. Your little girl will be with you very soon, I hope that she makes her passage very soon without too much distress to you. Jill xx I have sent you an email.

Kylie, Don't feel a failure, you did what was right for YOU and your DAUGHTER!! Try and keep smiling babe! Pink xx

thanks all for your kind words i think having to sit there for an extra 3 and half hours before a slot in theatre was avaiable made it worse i was hungry thirsty and going over everything they had said if i have to have a c-section i will ask to be first on the list so i dont bottle it again

Kylie you are absolutely NOT a failure and you must put such thoughts out of your head right now! Panic attacks are very frightening, but I'm sure your doctor and midwife will do everything they can to help you. I'm looking forward to hearing all about how beautiful your little bundle is. Daisy

Oh Kylie, you're not a failure. Giving birth is a scary thing regardless of whether it's a c section or naturally. The only differnece is with a c section you get the option to back out....sometimes! lol I have had 2 emergency c sections and I can tell you there is absolutely nothing to worry about. The atmosphere in the theatre is really laid back and the doctors and nurses are wonderful. They were even taking bets on how much my last baby would weigh because she was premature! lol. Perhaps you could ask your doctor if they could give you something to help you relax before the op. Good Luck Jeanette x

If that's failure then we are all guilty. I'd call it normal human behaviour! I'm sure all will go well when the time comes. Good luck and love Jane xx

Bev that was lovely. Kylie, Of course you are not a failure, it is just that your hormones are all over the place. Also any op is a bit scary. (I have to have a cyst on my head removed at the end of June, that is a minor op in a doctors surgery, but it still doesn't stop me freaking out if i think about it). I am quite sure all will be well and you will soon have that beautiful baby you have been waiting for. Thinking of you. Ann Glos

Failure? How can you be a failure? You have concieved that baby your body has nurtured it You have carried it all this time.. Now you must have Barrel loads of hormones doing cartwheels and well as feeling ready to get on with the next stage of the nurturing process. You are no failure, you are an achiever- its people like me that are a failure in the baby stakes. One way or another the birth will soon be over.. Then joy will abound- hold on to that thought Love Jess

Kylie it must have been horrible to have a panic attack like that. You are most deffinitely not a failure! Try and take it easy until Friday and I'm sure your doctor will be able to sort something out. I'll be thinking about you, look after yourself, Helenxx