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thankyou to everyone who has messaged me etc- sorry if i have not had time to reply to you all yet- i will do when i get chance. xxxxxx

Sue So sorry to hear about Alan's Mum. Have Emailed you. Sue

Have messaged you Sue. Linda x

Sorry to hear about your loss Sue here is (((HUGS+LOVE)))) from one Yorkshire family to another, best wishes from us all love Wendy.xx

Many many thanks everyone ! my father in law is much brighter today, we have not been back from the hospital long, and it was lovely to read your messages. if anyone has any advice on the best way to go about getting more help for someone suffering from dementia- i would be most gratefull. i think we are realising that we cannot carry on looking after him [he lives in a bungalow] as we have been for much longer. and we are accepting the fact that he cannot stay in his home alone for much longer. but everywhere we turn , people are giving us different advice !!!! for his own safety , perhaps a care home would be better... right now we are a bit unsure what to do. we are both tired and not sure which way up we are ! again, many thanks. sue. XXXXXXXXXXXXX

Sue, So sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother in Law, and about her hubby who has dementia. Heartfelt sympathies to Alan Yourself and all the family. I have not long returned home from visiting my lovely Mum who has very bad dementia and had to go into a Home 2 years ago. I have been giving my Mum actimel every day for the past 18months and whether it is just coincidence or not she is so much better physically. I hope that this little bit of information may help you. Take care love to you both at this sad time. Love from Maisie.

So sorry to hear of all your sadness Sue. Sarah xx

Sorry to hear your sad news Sue....hope your husband is OK, as you say he will need to greive but with Dad being a worry too it is hard....Take care of yourself and him. Jacquie xxx

Hope you're ok Sue Am here for you whenever you need me love becx

A big hug to you and husband and my thoughts are with you. Susan

Hi Sue I'm in a very similar situation to you except it's my parents, not hubbies. However everyone tends to forget the son/daughter in law involved who gives so much support to us. My hubby has been a fantastic rock to me, & done things way above the call of duty, in fact so much so that my Mum loved him as a son, & he has taken her passing very badly. You will need time to grieve too, & will need to take care of yourself so you can be there for hubby. I really feel for you both, as my Dad also has Dementia & doesn't even know Mums died. Your hubby is probably grieving for them both right now. Mail me direct if you need to talk to someone who understands in every sense of the word. Take care of yourself, & each other, Joan xx

Hi Sue, I have just read your thread, I am so sorry for you both, I hope today starts to sort its self out. Take care, hubby will need you even more now. look after yourself as well, and remember to eat.........Lilly

Sue Not ever gone Just moved on Wshing you comfort At this sorrowful time Huge hugs for you both. Maz x

Sue, Im so sorry to read about Alan's mum, hugs going your way. And I hope his dad is going to be ok. If you want a natter just let me know and I will give you a ring.

Sorry to hear this Sue. Sending love, hugs and thoughts, Mandy x

hi buttercup, thanks ! we got home at 4 am this morning. and have to phone the hospital at 9.30, to see if he comes home or stays there alittle longer. i feel like a zombie, lol. nearly tied him to the hospital bed last night, lol. will let you know what happens..... sue.xxx

Morning Sue. Hope things got sorted last night...XX BC

Hi Sue, so very sorry to hear you and Alan are having such a bad time of it. Hope you get the old boy settled in hospital soon, I expect he's feeling the loss in his own way poor chap. A vino might do the trick later, you'll be needing it I expect. Good wishes Jan

Attagirl...Viking Sue! Go and sort the men out! LOL BC

thanks susie, bendy, pat and jude [and those other 2- the reprobates] but things must be looking up- hubby is coming over for me now- cos his dad is refusing to get in the ambulance ! this is the same man who has not been able to get out of bed all day !!!! uumphhh-- so i have been drafted in to sort him out. i really do not believe this ! sue.