General Chat

Hi Pat I think the beauty of MSN and why many like it, is that it's 'instant', I also think that's probably what causes a lot of the problems. With an email or even posting on here, we can take our time, are more considered in what we type, we can delete and retype, making sure our message says exactly what we intended it to say. On MSN, like in normal conversation, things are said 'in the heat of the moment'. People can get drawn into conversations or gossiping, that perhaps they wish they hadn't gotten involved in, only to find themselves being quoted at a later stage, to stir up trouble! Great when it's used properly, can cause a lot of hurt and pain if it's not. Christine

Hi Pat We will have to be mature adults on this one and agree to differ lol! I don't agree that MSN (Messenger) is the number one culprit. The culprits are those who are misusing the system. Because we've moved around a few times, most of our friends and family aren't near by, and Messenger is a wonderful way to keep in touch. You can add a mike and a webcam and it's like being in the room with someone. Yes, there are people - and quite possibly GR members - who use Messenger to cause trouble ... but that could just as easily happen with email. Messenger is instant whereas email takes more time. Hope you're feeling better! Mandy :)

Hi Pat Glad to see you about again:) I'm going to have to disagree with you for once though. It's not MSN that causes the problems it's the people. Whether on the boards, via messages, phone or email if people are going to be bitchy and two-faced they will be regardless of what medium they're using. And the best way to avoid that if you don't want it is not to get involved. Although I have quite a few private email addresses for GR members, I only have msn addresses for 4 GR members and rarely use it even though they are all nice and I've met them all. But it's great for chatting to my mate in Oz:) I understand that there has been trouble caused with people copying chats and that's nasty but then you can only get in trouble that way if you say something you don't want repeated:) I also use ya*hoo but only for chatting with 1 GR mate cos her msn broke lol:)

I have Msn ..and one contact name on it. If people want to be horrid, they will be, they'll msn, they'll telephone,they'll text, in days gone by the'd have written. Everywhere there are people in discussion they will be a degree of undercurrent - behind the scenes conversation/ Chewing the cud/taking the topic on into new dimensions. a 21st century form of chinese whispers. jess

LOL oops sorry Elaine I shall pop off soon and eat some more BRAIN FOOD, your cuzzy in Germany. Hello Ann nice to see you and thanks for your nice words, I’m feeling well thank you. I remember that too many times coming on here and people requesting others to join them on MSN BUT the times I remember most when this board would move late at night with the invasion FROM MSN lol. Yes Christine that's the sort of thing, naughty people do I don't like it. Mandy and David Is this the first time we have disagreed? LOL Well to be honest I am glad we have disagreed as its not humanly possible to agree all the time. BUT we can hold a discussion and definitely agree to disagree as I am all for that, like you say Mandy mature adults. Yes I do say its the people who use MSN not the service like the people here you make of it what you will, if you are nasty then nasty is what will be seen here. It just seems MSN as Christine says is more instant NASTY if that makes sense? Thank you to all for answering the thread, I did this on the spur of the moment but I think its an interesting topic as I have spent so much of my GR time in email contact with people who claim THIS SITE is the problem and THIS SITE causes people to be nasty, rude and horrible to those who do not agree or tow the line, but I have always disagreed with that & probably always will. Pat x

Hi there Pat, sending you a big hug (((((())))))) Yes, it doesn't take too many brain cells to create nastiness nor to transfer it from one place to another. The earliest gossips and muck rakers likely used primitive, but no doubt equally affective methods for the exchange of tittle-tattle. So I have to agree with those who consider humans as opposed the ever evolving tools they use to communicate, as the transferers of rabid rhetoric. Love ya, Patty x

Wendy, I've got all the windows open - otherwise the house would be too hot! CB >|<

hi all just wondering who all the nasty people are on this site as iv never come across any nastyness and i hope i never do angie xx

Hi Pat I'm not sure you're right about MSN but then again I don't use it! However, I read these boards almost every day and there are people on here who deliberately post trouble causing threads and then act all innocent when someone notices what they're up to. I cannot understand what anyone gets out of doing that but I have seen it on here on a regular basis. I love a discussion (I often agree with your input actually) but that's what it should be - not a slanging match. Debby

I LOVE MSN!!! I don't think it's harmful unless used by harmful people. Love becx

Pat You say trouble does not start here on the boards and that its brought over from SOMEWHERE ELSE well I couldnt agree more. But I might also add that the SOMWHERE ELSE as you put it (so nicely too) and more often than not its NOT MSN its another place we are familiar with. As I have been on the receiving end of it with one or two others, we know only too well where the problem may lie Plus plenty of nastyness is passed via genes mail Paul

wen u say 'msn' i presume u mean msn mesenger ! i luv msn mesenger and y*hoo mesenger and use both every day i dont argue or bitch bout people on it but use it to talk to people i know and like people will b bitchy and nasty etc wether or not they do it on mesneger !!!

Hi Pat, I have to agree with alot of the others. It is not MSN it is the people using it which is the problem. I use it but only with family & close fiends. I also use Skype but again only with family. Msn or Skype enables me to talk to my son in Norway most days. just need to get other son on it. I think it is brilliant. Love Hilary. x

Pat...I love MSN...have also just been introduced to Skype. (tho I only have one contact on there) I agree with the majority who are saying that its the people who are to blame tho...wouldnt matter if it was on MSN, Yahoo, Skype, or standard blethering on the phone....there will always be troublemakers as unfortunately this is a standard practice of life in general. and of course....having MSN stops me being BORED!!!!! lol Jill x

Thanks to all who have added since I last checked its very interesting but I have to say I notice we all agree we are saying the same things only in a different way. Any mode of communication we use to interact with others has to be a good thing I do not claim otherwise and obviously any place like these boards are only as good as the people who use them and add to them. Hiya Patty lovely to see you ;-) Totally agree Debby I have seen it so often too, so negative. Thanks Lou yes they will won't they? Hilary thats the positive must be great to talk everyday like that :-))) Get your other son to get the other one on lol. does that make sense? Paul I agree about emails via genes but at least they are through genes, I just meant that people blame this website for a lot of things that do not originate here, its not Genes Website thats to blame. I suppose in my own way I am defending Genes and thats a positive thing. Jill how on earth do you get bored it takes me all my time to check these boards let alone use messenger as well, I suppose we won't see you now you have this new Skype thingy. Pat x