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DD Don't let someone else's opinion prevent you from doing what you think is right for you and your family. You know all those activities where you have to say what you feel good/proud about? What would you like on your list I keep my windows spotless and myhouse immaculate OR I love my children and do what is best for them? nell

My house is spotless, empty and quiet now the kids are grown but clean and I would swap places with you in an instant! Enjoy them whilst they are young and s*d what anyone else thinks this is real life not a dress rehearsal! Julie xxx

I am amazed to read this! How dare this person say that! Perhaps they should ...... er, go and fly a kite for a bit until they've come to their senses. As someone has already said, childhood doesn't last that long. As has also been said, they wouldn't like our house either, as the washing downstairs needs to be put away. You carry on being you, DD. You have a load of supporters on here. x P.S. I have a friend who, when her mother arranges to visit, frantically drops everything to do the dusting so that mother will approve. Her mother 'inspects' the furniture often, then runs a finger through any dust!!!!!!! Thank God my parents, when they visit, come to see us - not inspect the house. By the way, I - or we - do do the housework, lol.

you know what DD i think they are a bit jealous, my kids were once called squaddie kids, i took offence i dont even know why, as there dad was a soldier, i suppose it was true, however it was said in an insulting manner you know what , my kids may give me a bit of lip but they are respectful to others and polite when we go anywhere , un like this persons kids, bet your kids are great too, i tell you what if we were burgled youd never know it,

My Brother and Sister in Law have 8 kids between them and 6 living at home right now - their house is far from immaculate and sometimes we make little jokes about it, but all of their children are well balanced, happy kids that you can take anywhere. Far more time is spent with the children than on housework and their children are better for it. If you're relative doesn't like the condition of the house then maybe she would like to pay for a maid as you are too busy being a Mother - and a good one by the sounds of it. Be proud of that fact. Kaye x

Thank you everyone Husband has just shown me the windows said they are a bit cleaner but s-d it. I have never been able to stand up to him and have always felt looked down on but hey a bit of dirt never hurt anyone and my children are happy. As husband says at lest they wont feel like moving out as soon as they can. Right I'm off to spend some time with the older ones and I might think about tidying the toys away later. Thanks again

Like Neeta my house is a tip at the moment. I'll worry about it when the kids go back to school. Enjoy spending time with your kids and ignore whoever made those comments. If they've got nothing better to do than comment on your house They must have a pretty empty life. Juliexx

I agree with everything everone has said. Kids come first the dirty windows will be there when you are not. Could it be some sort of jealousy, sounds like it to me. I have a relative like that don't seee her nowadays don't want to. Carry on the way you are. don't let them get you down. It would only rain and make them mucky again LOL if she/ he is so worried let them do them for you. chin up!!! Germaine xxxx

You'd better not send your relative round my house then. There is a pile of washing on the sofa, I haven't dusted for days, I don't iron and I can't remember the last time I cleaned my windows.....BUT We went to the shops, played dressing up, took the bikes out for a ride and got the paddling pool out. My friends come in to my house and step over the tous, move the washing and even make their own tea, but they all say it is a nice happy house and the kids are happy (usually grubby). If they (or anyone) don't like it, they don't have to come. You sound like a wonderful mother and I am sure your children are happy and healthy and that is what is important. So THERE! ;o) Claire xx

join the club DD, i always put me kids first , everytime, go and tell the person( and i can guess who it is) tell them , not to make their problem your problem, dont worry, you carry on the way you are,

Housework will always be there tomorrow....kids grow up too quickly...make the most of them!! What's the point otherwise! Jacquie xxxx

With you on that Bendy, miss mine being your little angels age(bless) Still its great when the g/kids come visit and S*D the mess, lol

Here Here I agree with everything said, your children are young for such a short time enjoy every minute you can with them. Then like me you can do the cleaning when they are grown up and moved on, lol Life is too short to worry about petty peoples comments whoever said this obviously does not put there kids first, or do they have any?????? Wendy.xx

Not the first born sister scenario?

does the very very close relative have children of their own? If they dont then there lies your answer - ignorance! and if they do then I wonder if their children think they spend enough time with them!!

DD, How you and your husband choose to run your home and family is for the two of you to decide. If your children are (generally) good kids then it's no one else's place to comment. Enjoy them while they are young, Gwynne

DD, let me tell you something, like you and others i am in the middle of the school holidays, and my main concern is to ensure my little one has a good time is safe and will remember these holidays, we arnt doing anything spectacular just having fun..My house is like a Sh*t Tip, but who cares not me, and certainly not the little one..hubby just rolls his eyes when he comes home and is met with paper pens paints etc etc...and gets stuck in making our dinner....im droning on now, the moral of this tale is dont worry about dirty pots windows or floors just have fun with your kids and bugger what anybody else says.. Anita xx

Gwynne was a very very close relative of mine, Alison Husband cleaned windows because of what had been said it wasn't him doing the moaning.

When I was a child, my mother put EVERYTHING before me. She had no time for me, never read to me, played games with me - nothing! When my son was born, I was determined to put him first as much as possible, despite having to go to work. I made time to read to him when he was little, taught him things, played games and watched TV with him whenever I could. As he got older, I took an interest in his schools and became PTA secretary, helped at school functions and raised money for all sorts of school projects. He's now 26 and only last weekend told me that he was very glad I'd spent time with him. He's now capable of cooking, doing his own laundry and cleaning his own rooms, as well as having a good job and lots of friends. DD, there's no reason why your children shouldn't be the same when they grow up. They're far more important than whether or not there's a fingermark on a windowpane , if the curtains are pulled just so or if there's a bit of dust on the table. That's all my mother cared about, and I've resented her all my life. Be YOURSELF, and tell the busybodies to mind their own business! CB >|<

Hi D D At the end of the day , when old and grey , your children will recall the fun times they had growing up not the dirty plates, windows or dust. How many times have you ever heard a family get together and say: Remember that day when the windows were dirty and Mum was told she was disgusting so Dad went out and washed them? I don't think sooooooooooooo. It'll be more like remember that camping trip we had were Dad didn't secure the tent and he rolled out of the side down the hill? The same trip were Mum fell into a big hole blackberry picking and we wet ourselves trying to get her out? OR That night Mum stayed up with me all night because I thought the bogy man was there . The list of memories I'm sure will go on and on and on. Have fun with them D D 'cos one day they will be all grown up, the dust & dirt will always be there . The children wont. Much happiness debi