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My next door neighbour, a young fella with three small children, was killed in a car crash last night. I have spoken to his 'Mother in Law', and offered my help in any way, but what can one really do, apart from just be there. Sorry, I wouldn't normally post threads like this, but I am here on my own with my 3 year old, and just wanted to tell someone. My husband, who was here when we heard, is devastated. Just makes you appreciate stuff, eh? That's a real cliche isn't it, so sorry again. Suzy

Suzy sounds like you need a big hug. xxhugxx

what sad news suzy thinking of you all at this awful time hugs susie x

That's awful Suzy. No words can help but don't say sorry for posting. xx Jen

Suzy that's so sad (((((((hug))))))) All these things affect us, else we wouldn't be human! Especially when someone is so young. You will be in shock so look after yourself today. At least you've offered support which is wonderful Joan xx

suzy, That is so sad and such a shock for you. Of course you need to talk about it. His poor wife. I am sure that she will appreciate you being there when she starts to rebuild her life, as she will have to with little ones to look after. My thoughts are with her and her family and his family and with you. You have done all you can so far. Ann Glos

Suzy What awfull news. All you can do is be there if they need you. If you hear nothing over the next few days, maybe a note through the door again offering support/help. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} Elaine x

Suzy, Like you say, there's nothing you can do apart from be there. Practical help is often appreciated. And talking, people often avoid talking about something like this to the bereaved family. It helps. What a terrible tragedy. Mags x

that is what we are all here for, to share the good and bad. thoughts and prayers to you and his family. tina x

What a dreadful thing to happen, my heart goes out to that poor family. you can only be there for them if they need you which i am sure they will in the weeks to come. Shirley Ann.

Hi Suzy Please don't feel you need to apologise. It's a terrible thing to have happened and must have come as a shock to you. The neighbour is very lucky to have you next door and I am sure that it will be a comfort to her over the coming months, knowing that she has such a caring neighbour. As I think someone has already said, don't be afraid to talk to her about him. So many people try to avoid mentioning the person who has died when their loved ones really want to talk about them. Chrissie xx

Suzy, That really is awful. Don't know what else to say Paul

Hi Suzy. What a terrible shock this must have been for you. There really is no need to apologise. You will be needing to talk about this tragedy to make some kind of sense of it all. My thoughts are with all the family and friends. What a very tragic loss. Jill xx

Dreadful. Been through that when my son's best mate was killed, but he was unmarried. All you can do is offer any assistance the family needs, maybe accompany them to appointments with police, funeral directors, church/crematorium etc.. And just be there for them.

I'm sorry to read your news, Suzy. It is a shock when something like that happens, even if you're not especially close to the person who's died. It does make you feel bad, knowing there's nothing much you can do in those circumstances, except offer a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen, if required. As you say, id does make you think - you never know what's just around the corner. CB >|<

ahh suzy i am so sorry to hear that.it is worse when he was so young and was a father also.you are doing the right thing by offering support and his mother in law knows that and would likely be very grateful for your help.once again so sorryxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx)))):

How awful for you Suzy., you must be really shocked. Is there someone you could be with for the rest of the day. My Heartfelt Sympathy for your neighbour and families. Jenny xx

Suzy that's dreadful news and you mustn't apologise for telling us - people need an outlet at times like these. You've done all you can for them for now by offering help. Shall be thinking of you and of the poor family. Sue

Thanks for all your lovely replies; it means a lot. God knows, I feel bad enough, what about his poor Mum? She's about my age. Thanks for the suggestion Jenny. My Lucie has a birthday party this pm, so we are still going to go. There is nothing I can do today anyway, and I don't want to tell her the party is off; bless her. I just had a long hot shower and have decided to tell my neighbour I can look after the children when the funeral is on, if she doesn't want them there. All their family and friends will want to go, so I thought that would be a good idea. I think my husband will go to the funeral though. We will be saying lots of extra prayers on Sunday. God bless you all, and STAY SAFE, please. Suzy x

What a shock for you all. We just dont know what is around the corner Enjoy what you have while you can Take care Suzi. June xx