General Chat

Bryan -did you find out if that little one is ok?

I agree with Elaine you did the right thing. Germaine x

Crikey ! Supposing you were a paedophile...you would have had a field day ! I would definitely knock on those doors and ask if the mother lives there, if she does warn her of her childminders actions, and say if it happens again you will not hesitate to call social services for advice. (sadly some parents find this behavior regarding children acceptable in their own country.) You did the right thing Elaine x

Absolutely the right decision 100% put the guilt back where it belongs with the Mother xxhugxx

Bryan, you did absolutely the right thing. I also agree with what Ann's said - if someone knocked on my door asking me to mind an unknown child, there's no way I would do so! It was a very strange request! Hope the child is ok today and was reunited with its parents. Mandy :)

Bryan, I don't think this is a male only what if situation. I think if a woman knocked at my door and asked me to look after a strange child I would be very hesitant to do so. i would probably suggest the police station as well.

Bryan What a bizarre situation! You certainly did the right thing by saying no, if it was innocent then the woman who knocked on your door is not fit to be childminding in the first place! Let alone the thoughts of what could have happened next if it was a con.......

Bryan, Dont feel guilty, You did the right thing, To be honest Im surprised at the woman doing this, very odd if you ask me. Roxanne x

off to bed now,but just wanted to thank you all for your replies. bryan.

definately made the right decision Bryan, don't sweat it. In todays society you shouldn't put yourself in a bad spot. When my daughter was younger and had friends over. Hubby usually ended up driving them home but always made daughter go with him. You never know. Smart move

thanks to the gents for the replies as well,as you really know how i must have felt. not sure which house,the kiddie came from...theres just four cottages,plus mine...they are all professional people,possibly muslims,but not sure. anyhow,thank you,as it seems i made the right decision. bryan.

I think you did the right thing, i would certainly inform the Mother that her child minder put her child at great risk she may not be aware, so dont feel guilty you did the right thing

Bryan, you did the right thing. unfortunately as others had said dhe could have been trying to dump the child, or she could have been serious and was dropping off the child to it's mother. My mother works in a day nursary and if the parents are late (after closing) they have to ring social services to come and get the child because their insurance will not cover them. It's a shame because the parents could be stuck in traffic, but if they ring and say their stuck in traffic and will be as quick as they can and where they are, then one of the girls will often stay behind 'to help lock up' until the parent arrives. The only hing you could have done is told her to take the child to the police station and explain the situation, let them decide what to do. Chances are they would have taken the child in and asked social services to take the child until it could be reunited to it's parents. (I go hate to call people it but the alternative is s/he and his/her) If I knew the child and their mother then I would take the child in, but if I didn't I would do the same as you)

Bryan, why dont you knock at your neighbours doors tomorrow to see if there was indeed a child deposited back to its rightful parent, it all sounds very dodgy to me, you did the right thing, in this sad world we live in, people are all too ready to jump to conclusions, but the woman who tried to dump a small child with someone she cant have known is utterly reprehensible

thanks girls,i've only lived here about 7/8 months,and the mews is tucked away from everywhere,and the only neighbour who speaks to me, is asking me to do him favours. but,when i say i'me feeling guilty,is i think of the poor kiddie,being outside in the cold,as it's freezing in london . bryan.

It's sad that one feels that one has to protect oneself, but witch hunts seem to start so easily. How would you explain yourself if it turned out that the mother did not live in the road and you were found with a strange child. 'Well, it's like this, your Honour, this woman came to the door and gave me this child' 'Oh really' 'Five years for abduction -take him away' Also sad that society is so insular that few people know their neighbours, even sometimes those next door. We are lucky that in our Close of 21 houses virtually everyone knows everyone else, but I think we an exception.

Bryan you made the right decision. It seems a very peculiar thing to ask someone to do and you would have been in a very awkward position had you done otherwise. I suppose if you know the house she was returning the child to you could knock and ask if the child is ok as it really was very irresponsible of her to try to hand the child over to a complete stranger. Daisy

Yes, I agree - unfortunately you would have put yourself in a very compromising situation if you had taken in the child. What a sad world we live in, Jay

I'm not a gent but I am a mother and I think you did the right thing.

Don't feel guilty Bryan. You did the right thing. You don't know, it could have been her child, and she could have been trying to 'dump' it. Stranger things have happened. Linda