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I'm not being morbid but since losing my Mum also my Sister recently this has played on my mind.....have you made a will?..........I havent......yet! My partner wants to 'plant' me in Ireland in his very old family grave but my kids wont be able to visit me! lol All I know is ...I want to be rememberd.... I registered the death of my Sister and I was thrilled to be the 'present at the death of' on her death cert. My kids think I'm nuts. I tried to explain to them that in the future, I will be joined to Paula as her Sister if future rellies do thier family tree. Please tell me I'm not alone in this? Gerri x

I dont!!! i want to be cremated and I want my ashes to be thrown to the wind on the top of the Pentland Hills - home is where the heart is and all that!!! Have no will either but know that I need to deal with that one!!! Some poor so and so will have to traipse up the hills and scatter me to the winds!! pmsl

eh? I'm not quite dead yet thanks!! lol cremation please. Claire

Haven't made a will but only my son as next of kin, and the problem the solicitor threw at me when I talked to him about wills, was what happens to your worldly goods if you and your son died together. That one threw me as I have no wish for my brothers or nephew to receive anything from me as they have done b****r all for us to date, and I have no one else close enough to warrant receiving everything. Have to chose a charity I suppose but again, it's a difficult decision. Maybe I can hang on long enough till I have a grandchild(ren) and leave it all to them. My son and my partner know I want 'Time to say goodbye' by Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman at my cremation and my ashes buried on my daughter's grave, but you even have to have permission to do that apparently, as you do to scatter ashes.

I want Bon Jovi played at my funeral!!! lol everyone to come in the brightest colours possible and no crying!! none at al!! I want my pals to remember me for the mad daft stupid Jilly that I am!!!! and i'll be there watching them all too!! and will haunt every one of them that doesnt respect my wishes !!

A very dear friend said to me that we should have our ashes saved till we have both 'gone'....then mix em up and scatter us both somewhere nice.....what a friend! I dont deserve her. Another silly from me.........I have the fur taken from the last grooming of my bestest soul mate 'Bramble' (my springer spaniel) I hope I meet him again....

aww Gerri!! you are in very melancholy mood this evening!!!!! I couldnt pick between my closest friends to hang about on any of them...I'll go myself and find them when I'm there!!!

Having read the replies and now reached my three score years and ten here is a thought. It can help those nearest you and especally those that love you to have a place to grieve. Wether that is the Pentland Hills or a headstone in the local cemetery is of course your choice, but it can help to have some place to focus on.

Taking this one step further. What would you like written on your headstone?? When my brother died suddenly with a heart attack aged 37 it hit us all very hard but most of all mum as she was already a widow and did not expect to be burying a son. He was never married and never had any children but was living with a woman that already had 5 kids from a previous marriage mostly grown up. She dealt with all the arrangements not once consulting my mum. My dad was cremated and we assumed this is what would happen to my brother but she said he was scared of fires so she would have him buried and even ordered a place for her self next to him. I could not attend the funeral as I was due to have a baby and it ws too far to go in that condition. So I waited until the baby was old enough and the headstone had been put on. What a shock for us when we read what was on it. Pete (my mum always called him Peter) dearly beloved husband and father!!!!! well that is going to cinfuse any future generations that are searching!! Apparently if you pay for a headstone you can have what the hell you like on it If I have any spare cash I can add to it. Gloria

I don't want to be buried, stuck in a box forever. Much prefer to be scattered to the wind somewhere that was special to me. At the moment that would be somewhere between Lorne and Port Campbell, along the Great Ocean Rd on Victorias southern coast. Beautiful countryside down there. Rebs x

For us it will be off to Harwood Park for a good burn up to the tune of Disco Inferno by the Tramps, would never inflict grave visiting on our children, we will remain in their memories forever but their lives must go on. xxhugxx

Definitely cremation for me, Dont want any flowers or expense. What a waste spending money on someone when they are no longer here, its while they are alive that they need pampering and caring for, June xx

I have a will which I made a few years ago, but it needs amending. I try not to put too much thought into my own mortality, and I haven't even considered where I'd like to be buried (or whethere I'd prefer to be cremated). Hopefully I've got a while before I need to worry about it...

I don't want to be buried. I want to be cremated, and if my son wants to keep my ashes, he can. If not, I'd like them scattered in rivers in various places that have been important in my life. I haven't made a will yet. I've nothing to leave, apart from what would go to my husband or son as a matter of course, as they are my only 'next of kin'. I doubt anyone would want all the rubbish I've accumulated during my lifetime - apart from my family history research - and that's being passed down the line (if one ever comes along). CB >|<

Dont want to die, want to stay forever an make all my future relatives look after me,, an give them hell,,,,,,,,,, only joking,,,bit wrinklie now so living forever boy,would i look bad,,,,,,, i'm trying hard to cheer up is it working !!!!

I have made a will it is important to do and I have my bob`s ashes so that we can be mixed up together will be scattered in the crem in the april garded thats when we first met (in April I mean not the crem) I also have a small gold ern on a chain round my neck so he is always with me (he said It was so he would know if any one was fooling around with my boobs) But you people get the will thing sorted

Gerri My husband and I made Wills after our children were born. I've seen what a lot of paperwork and palaver NOT making a Will causes, apart from wanting to make it clear who I wanted the children's legal guardians to be in the event of our deaths. As to what happens when I'm dead - I don't care. My family and friends will have memories, photographs, letters and cards to remind them of me. My family tree is a legacy I leave to be remembered by others. My Mum has told me she wants a private burial for just family in the same grave as my dad, though if we want to cremate her first and bury her ashes that's fine. But she would like a memorial service at her church for anyone who wants to attend. I am not bothered about my body, but I think its nice for family to have some kind of ceremony, so I've told my lot that I'd like some kind of 'do' with white flowers and Kirsty McColl's 'Days'. I'd also like the hymn 'Now thank we all our God'. I much prefer that memorial services should be about thanksgiving and celebrating a life, rather than miserable affairs. There's plenty of misery around already. nell

Anyone see Richard & Judy last night? Lady on talking about firm putting ashes of loved ones into 'crystal glass' vases etc. not sure i'd like that. There was also someone who had theirs' put into a fireworks display. They said deceased wanted it and would have been thrilled to see it. To each his own! Mau x

Cremated in a cardboard box - my family know this,although l have'nt written a will (must do it). A friend who has just died in USA wanted no funeral,no flowers, nothing. She asked for the funeral directors to sort it all out and have her ashes scattered at sea. Her hubby has said his goodbyes at the hospital and the proceeding take place on Monday. What a good idea - but l don't think my family could cope with that. l would like my ashes scattered in the Wye Valley, praps the river then l'll travel for miles and miles ;~)))) jude sarf wales x